Tell him to get all the dough he owes you to you before you see him again.

Then, after you've collected, don't see him again and yes, help out your sisters and black list the MF.

I have a reg (bout a year), when I was with an agency he was always on time and envelope always on point. Since going independent he's been late…somewhat flakey and time before last was 50 short because "atm only let me get out this much". Since he was a reg and it made no sense to snub 500 over 50 I said ok. (Not gonna lie he's also very handsome and our great chemistry clouded my judgement).  

Thanks mrfisher *sniffle* I thought as much but since blacklists are permanent I wanted to get other opinions and be sure. Appreciate it.

I would be ASHAMED to show up without the donation.  I ONCE forgot my hobby bag in the car...  I immediately told the lady.  I walk very slow & she was still dressed.  I offered to go get it or offered her my keys to go retrieve it off the front seat.  She declined.  But we are old friends...  saw her again just a couple of weeks ago...    
At her insistence we had our play time & walked out arm in arm like lovers.  We reached the cars, I quickly got the donation without sitting into the car.  We clasped hands for a light goodbye kiss, & the donation switched hands.  We each went our own way.    

Send him a reminder to paypal you the money. I wouldn't see him again if I were you, but don't tell him that yet, since there is a small chance he will still make good, but zero chance once you tell him you won't see him anymore. On the other hand, after stiffing you twice he probably has no intention of seeing you again anyway. Do you still have any communication?

Yes it's these kind of things that make emails short and curt and providers count money before even smiling. The thing is every relationship with a reg is vastly different and I am an excellent judge of character. Some regs you see for years and it's always just business and some you really get to know.  

No perfectstorm. He doesn't have any personal info except all the places I'm ticklish With my bank you can give your account number and people can deposit no info given or questions asked. That's what we initially agreed on. The next day he said he couldn't figure out blah blah blah and do I have paypal. I said yes and sent the email associated with my paypal. It was his fucking idea. I really don't think it's a malicious rip off, just a rude/stoner/on his time not mine rip off.  

While it's a terribile thing to get played and ripped off, which is just what he did to you. A worse thing would be for you to become so jaded you think all your clients are like that and feel the same disrespect for you. If you loose the ability to trust and connect with your guys this job will eat you up and its not worth the damage those feelings could do to you.

Otherwise tell him you will be glad to send him to the most terrifying place on earth for guys scamming providers, every blacklist in the planet..We don't run tabs, my landlord won't buy that..
Sorry this happen to you! It is cause of these bad guys that we lose faith on people.. In God we trust..everybody else pays cash!

I'm with Harbor.  I view these interactions as a contract and get nervous about screwing it up.  I check my cash stash a few times on the way and make sure I not only have it but have enough.  Hell I plan my encounters a week or two ahead of time and have the appropriate amount on me until the time arrives.

again.

First dates, always.  
Some gals invite the client to wash up, leaving the donation in the room & she verifies it or even removes it (so it can't be tampered with).  Or instruct it be left in the bathroom & you go in after him & deal with it...  put it out of sight.  

Hi Sophia,  
Wow, not nice.  I hate to say it but it sounds like he pulled a fast one on you.  He should have sent via PayPal immediately.  I too have had friends forget to leave etc and they are embarrassed and bend over backwards to correct.  That's in the honest forgot situation.  I also had someone short me " a lot" because I didn't count up front etc. I didn't contact him just chalked it up as a shame on me but he wasn't a regular friend. This man is taking advantage and that's unfair to you and all the men that do the RIGHT thing.  As far as blacklist; definitely on the private one I don’t use the NB...... it's on the drop down of the blacklist for this exact reason.  If he pulled it once, he will pull it again I would warn others.

He's playing you, but make your own decision.

The detail about it going sour when you went Indy told me all I needed to know.
Plenty of cautionary tales of guys trying to cut side deals with agency girls on the cheap then pulling these IOUs.
I didnt understand why you didn't walk him to the ATM afterward.
If it had been a legit situation where he just let himself overspend more than he brought, he would have insisted making it right. Immediately. No credit, iou's, receivables in this business.
I agree about not meeting him but PayPal itself has issues.
Unfortunately I see only a 1 in 10 chance overall you get your money back.
That's only if he thinks he can settle up and still go on doing it.  
Give him a short leash to get you the money then bag and tag the asshole.
Bad lesson learned.

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I totally empathize for you. I had a regular client that eventually did a no call no show and needless to say I had to blacklist him. I understand with regulars, that trust is built, but unfortunately, some people will take total advantage of that trust. I would have definitely been suspicious of him with him being $50 short. In my experience, clients are never accidentally short.

I had a certain amount of cash on me.  So much for my date and the rest for myself.  It wasn't an equal amount.  My donation was to be 100 more than what I had for myself.  I counted it, then ended up putting the donation in my wallet and my cash in her envelope.  Oops.

for the advice. It is appreciated and not lost on me. He did deposit what he owed me in full this morning.  
I won't be seeing him again.  

I'm so sorry. I had a couple agency clients go bad too when I went Indy. It's like they suddenly feel like they have no reason to be scared anymore

I am glad you got your money owed.  My hat's off to you in fact because I was betting that you'd never see a dime.  I am glad I was proven wrong but you surely did not need the stress...  and to be disrespected like that.  Everybody knows to bring the money with them

Glad you got it all worked out and got your money back.  And definitely you should not be seeing him again.  He just doesn't respect you enough...

Classic act of regulars who think they are sexy & great in bed, so they should be free right?  Wrong you get your $ & stop acting, like this is not your business.  Let him know upfront you will not tolerate the bs it was fine before, so nothing should change now.  If not require a deposit to book him.

He was a regular of mine for well over a year and was one of those that I felt comfortable with and didn't always get the money up front. I didn't have any problems for well over a year then one night he was short by a hundred. Said he would make it up next time but by then forgot. About a month or so later he was short by half (ATM bs as well). Offered that we could get the money in the morning if I stayed overnight and he would pay me extra. I chose to go home and said that I would come back the next day and get the money. Of course he wasn't available the next day or for 3 days but finally on the 4th day I drove to his house and he had it. I was so angry because I felt disrespected and taken advantage of so I avoided him for a of couple months. I did not say that I wouldn't see him; I just said that I was booked or too busy. Finally he got the hint and apologized for how he treated me and asked what he needed to do to get me to come see him again. I told him that my rates had increased since I first saw him and that since I lived a little further away I would have to apply a travel rate as well.  Not only did he pay the increased rate but also started tipping as well.  

You wouldn't seek his company without compensation, and he wouldn't be able to get it without compensating.  Those are the cold, hard facts.

I also hate this happened to you. One bad apple rots the whole bunch. My second, third and fourth fears are, miscounting the money, mishandling the money, and staying overtime, because I only have the agreed on money available. Sounds like ho pooped in his cornflakes. I think you are the better person for how you are handling it.