so everyone says you can't talk sex, etc via phone or e-mail.   everyone also says if you want something thats not specifically listed on site, you gotta ask before hand....  HOW????   i'm not talking about something like greek, maybe i just want to see a provider use a toy or i want to use a toy(on her, dummy)

no code, no communication, no fun!!!   don't know if they all are good girl scouts and come prepared!!!!

ps.  i love this discussion board!

In theory, the general advice is meant mainly to not cause alarms to a girl you don't really know well and to limit incriminating evidence to LE.  You don't want to give the wrong impression to someone you just met and risk pushing the girl away by being ruthless / unrefined.  

In practice, I think it's pretty much all about trust, playing it safe, and trying not to be too stupid.  If you have to say a specific thing, just try to be as discreet as possible without sacrificing too much of the message you're trying to convey.  

When I talk to a regular girl about specifics I want, I either call her or just go off-the-record on google chat.  Not that it's a fool proof way, but it's a feel-good way and better than the alternative: which is to leave incriminating evidence that might come back to bite you in the ass later. There are some that don't really seem to mind sex talk over text/chat/email, especially if I've met her before and she's at ease with me

Do you provide toy shows &, do you have your own toys?

Read her reviews, the juicy details.  If you don't have VIP, get it.  Also suggest you see her first, have fun, and at that time, talk about other things you might like to do with her.  That would prob be the safest way to discuss other things as opposed to prior to the visit with her.

Swim

thanks.  I'll take this advice.

and i do realize....   why toys id i'm there....

fyi.  i do have vip.   that is a big help!!

DA...   thanks for all your help.

I'm gonna limit conversation to inuendo only at this point in time.   I liked swimtrek's advice... enjoy frst time, then maybe talk about other stuff

Fyi.   why toys when I'm there??  ha ha

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saying too much. Check out this link to something a road just a couple days ago.

i'm one of those gals who does serious toy shows! I have a ton of toys and use them myself.

Anyhow, to ask the other question. There is a term that is given to guys who like to sex talk before meeting-- jackers. There are guys who call and set something up, just so they can talk dirty about something they have in mind, then they never show up.