Decide to make the plunge into going GFE?

I'm rather new at this, and can remember how I used to think and how it's evolved and changed. My first time with a provider I was nervous, of course, but also very cautious. Everything covered was right were i wanted to be. The thought of kissing a provider was not something I would even consider, let alone DATY. After all, I thought, here is a girl that sees multiple men often, no way she can be clean enough for that.

As I saw some more ladies, I began to relax how I thought, especially since the girls I chose kept themselves very clean... and I love to lick... The first time I broached the subject, believing she would say hell no and think I was a pervert (well...), I was surprised at the enthusiastic "YEAH!" I received, and how quickly those legs opened up. Since then, I've enjoyed DATY with every provider I've seen, though it is a short list, and loved the one GFE experience I had.

So ladies, how did you start? Were you always 100% GFE, or was it something you worked up to? Would you recommend all girls give it shot? or...

If you're not a GFE provider...
Are you thinking about adding it, or are you set in your ways?

Just a question to satisfy my curiosity on a slow day...

I was out, but checked in a couple of hours ago on my phone and saw a reply to this thread from a beautiful young lady in MN. Now that I'm back at home and and wanting to thank her for her input, I see I must've had one too many and imagined the whole thing...

Well, to expand this topic a little... Fellas, when you started to hobby, did you jump in head first, so to speak, or did it take you a bit to go for the total experience? What, or who, made you change your mind? Or, did you ever change your mind?

P.S.
If I'm ever in Minnesota, I'm definitey looking you up, though I didn't think to save your name... If you ever plan to come to AZ, feel free to PM me...

I've always been GFE. It feels more natural and comfortable that way for me--I can find something to fall in love with in just about everyone, and the affection I give is real. I think it makes it more fun for everyone involved!

That said, I think everyone should do what they feel comfortable with, and I wouldn't recommend otherwise to anyone.

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I didn't have a choice whether to be GFE or not. It's just innate. I love kissing. I love being licked. So... It just happened.

Also I was an exclusive mistress before I became a provider. I think that helped steer my course too.

Kisses,
KK

I hadn't even thought of that one! I've never had a PSE experience with a provider, so I just imagined it was GFE at a faster pace, with some dirty talk thrown in, but I guess I'm way off base...

This sort of surprises me that everyone who responded knew right away what they would offer.  I would of thought some of the ladies would mirror my experience where they had to work up to it, but it's beginning to look like ladies make the decision when they start whether they will or won't be GFE, and stay that way. It's nice to know you ladies offer it because it's something you want to do, and not because you feel obligated. I wonder, is it the same with providers who offer other things, like chips, dips, chains and whips?

Thanks for all the input, ladies, and I hope more share.

Oh, and about my second response to this thread... I swore that last night when I posted that, that my initial OP post was the only one, but now I see her post is back... Someone must be playing tricks on me...

GFE definition can vary with almost any hobbyist and provider.  To some yes PSE just means a more energetic GFE but to me that doesn't really sound right because IRL I can have hign energy sex with a bf or someone i'm dating but that just doesn't "feel" PSE to me like it's missing a few things.  Some like myself I mean PSE in the fullest sense  cof (glaze it like a doughnut lol), extra dirty talk, make me crawl, tell me to gargle some things lol, greek, face-fucking, byot (bring your own toys) etc lol I've said too much.

Whew... that made my heart skip a beat... If I ever get the nerve up, I'm gonna have to try that at least once... as soon as I find a girl that likes that... and I eat a couple of bowls of Wheaties, take my vitamins, say my prayers, update my will and OD on the blue pill...

Haha.   Btw, If you're poppin' a blue I suggest a 2hr session or longer.... taking one of those for just a 1hr appt seems like such a waste lol. And yes all that other prep sounds like a very good idea, maybe even throw in an energy drink lol.

I rather be the one to provide pleasure. But if asked for DATY because the individual enjoys it, then I say yes. But it can also ad pressure when expected to reach a heightened stage..if you know what I mean. I rather be the one exciting the person.

Kisses

In fact, guys who love DATY will gladly follow direction. Whether you let out a sexy moan, a little gasp, or a good squeeze when he hits the right spot or does just the right thing, he'll do his best to reproduce it.

...and definitely don't underestimate the seductive power of straight telling him what you enjoy when he's down there. A little dirty talk makes a man feel like your into the session with him. Believe me, I'll gladly stay down there for 30 minutes if she's genuinely moaning, writhing, and messing up my hair in pleasure, because shell make sure the next 30 minutes or hour are ecstasy for me!

When I decided to become an escort (not so long ago), I had an idea of what I was happy and willing to do with men I have just met. In my personal life, I love to kiss, love giving and receiving oral sex, love switching up positions multiple times and overall being affectionate and romantic. The thought of doing all those things more than I had a chance to do it in real life as a single girl AND getting paid for it was exciting to say the least... So that is what I did in my first few sessions and both me and the gentlemen I met had a great time. I was talking to one of them and he mentioned what a great "GFE" I provided. I had no idea what he was talking about.

So I started to research the different acronyms and "methods" used in the hobby community and that just confirmed that I would not be able to provide anything different from GFE. To me, if there is no kissing (DFK, making out, etc), there is no romantic mood. If there is no oral sex (preferable both ways, lol), it's not much fun... It just seems too mechanic to me. I can't just do the straight sex, hands off method. On the other hand, PSE is beyond my comfort level and with 1 in 4 people having an STI, I just can't get myself to do it...

There might be ladies who go through the same "evolution" you've gone through as they get more into the idea of this profession being fun, but I can see it going the opposite way too: someone who offered PSE has a scare, realizes that it's too much of a gamble, decides to go back to GFE, or someone who grows tired of getting so intimate with strangers and decides it's only certain sex acts and makes it strictly a business transaction.

Ultimately we can all do whatever we feel comfortable with because luckily there are takers for all of those things on both sides.

Thanks for the reply, and I feel better now about posting this to Newbie, rather than General, as it also opens up another question for me...

As far as I was aware, other than the atmosphere and style in which services are performed, don't GFE and PSE have the same amount of exposure to risk? I mean, both are BB oral and allow a mouthful of fun, but no raw penetration. Maybe PSE guarantees a trip to the isles, but still with a life raft.

I would think the only way anyone would be comfortable with full BB service is if both parties had to undergo the same testing porn stars undergo immediately prior to the session, and guarantee not to be involved with anyone else from the time of testing to the time of service. Still seems quite a risk, but not what I would think is offered in a 'normal' PSE session. Am I wrong?  Ms. Mocha, can you provide input to help me understand?

Granted the newbie board is supposedly a "kinder, gentler" place to ask questions.  But your inference on BBFS is NOT a logical issue EVER!  And don't even think of posting something like this on the GD...you won't like the retort in the least!

I am well aware that some hobbyists will seek this, and some gals will provide this.  But if you give a damn about your health (or she hers!), you need to clearly and completely understand that if she is going BBFS with you...she is doing so with others!  And if you honestly think a "recent" test along with a "promise" is something that will give you a comfort level, then you are one hobbyist that I want to stay VERY VERY far away from (and any and ALL gals that you are seeing, or have seen!)

Wake up right now and learn what is relatively safe (at least for your comfort level), or be prepared to pay the bill later (and it could be a very expensive one at that).

And PSE is in NO WAY BBFS!

You must of misread my post, because I believe I clearly state that I believe PSE and GFE have the same amount of exposure. Her response threw me a little, because I thought I was missing something about PSE. It sounded fun, but if that was the twist, then it wouldn't be my cup of tea, and that's what I was wondering about.

The reason I brought up the whole final scenario was because of a post in the por stars section where a hobbyist was talking about the one time he convinced a PS to go bareback, and in the back of my mind I wondered what the heck could make her comfortable enough to risk her health and career, and why he would try.

Don't try and paint me as someone looking for BBFS, or even promoting it, because that is definitely not the case.  I'm sure if you re-read my original post instead of skimming it, you would see that.

as thinking that BBFS is part of a PSE (in some form) and that you might have an interest in it.

If indeed we are clear on the BBFS NOT being an OK activity...then I humbly apologize.

And we can both know that in some cases that activity is out there (on both sides).  I have WAY too much to lose if somehow I ended up seeing a gal that likes to participate in that activity.  But generally it is not openly discussed, which can make it a slippery slope to actually believe that my "date" is OK from that perspective.  However, she may very well be going BBFS with her SO or BF...and that I do understand.  It is where that gal is openly advertising (and that does occur) this activity, and the guys who actively seek that out.  I want to make sure I steer as far away from those folks that need that activity, as I know it will not be a good situation for me down the road!

As far as why a gal would do that activity...not a difficult formula to understand.  It is all about the Benjamins (and she will charge extra for this wonderful priveledge).  Fortunately, I have tried to make sure that the ladies I have seen (or will see) care enough about themselves (not drug addicted, money challenged, et al) to stay away (from those clients) that seek such a high risk activity.