I searched (a bit) and didn’t find this addressed, but I bet it has.
When a hobbyist first shows up and for whatever reason doesn’t click or ‘like’ what they see, what is the proper etiquette? Does it matter if web picture is drastically different? Or if web picture is old or very much touched up (photoshoped)? Or if LE is suspected? Or something else just doesn't seem safe/right?
Opptions: Just bailing Politely leaving without leaving any gifts Politely leaving with leaving courtesy gift Leaving with leaving full gift Staying and leaving full gift
Respect, respect, being polite, and tolerance can go a long way toward not making a mountain out of a mole-hill.
This is sometimes referred to as "bait & switch." You've got to let the big head do the thinking, walk away with a small something for her time, esp. if an agency because it is not the girl's she was sent instead of miss "x".
I had the same problem too..but my situation was a unique one:
The agency I used to work for was using body doubles...without my permission. I was wondering why clients were walking out on me.
I sent my agency good professionally-taken pics to use...but they wouldn't use them. I tried to bring it to their attention, and was accused of being rude to clients...which I wasn't.
A lot of clients were upset and rightfully so. The girl in the picture wasn't the one they met in person. The agency even had the nerve to question my work ethic.
So I know how it feels when the initial meeting doesn't go well.
as to leaving a partial gift only... after all, if it was a bait and switch, total misrepresentation or such... why would you leave anything? Your time and consideration as equal to the provider's. If it is a matter of you just don't click, then you have to consider staying, leaving the full gift, and when you do a review be honest - chemistry for YOU was just not there.
Just leave. If the reason was that after a short time there was no chemistry then I agree w/PrettyGirl's suggestion above: possibly a small gift for her time.
However, I would never suggest contributing to a scam by leaving any money at all. This only encourages the behavior.
My hometown is in the south where good manners and being a gentleman is still practiced. My doubles partner and I have heard horror stories from gentlemen who have encountered really strange individuals when answering an ad. They always finish the story, then ask "Why would she do that, why would she use someone else's photos, why would she claim to weigh 200 pounds less..... I just left her the money and walked out"
They do it because gentlemen encourage the behavior by leaving money.
Just my thoughts Happy Hobbying, know your provider (*and her reputation*)....kisses ~Tori
There are many ways to leave if the situation is not right. If you don't have chemistry, you can be polite and just be straight forward and honest. But many guys just aren't perfect in a situation that might get confrontational. If you're this sort of guy, you can have a plan to "escape". If you have a friend, make a call just before you enter (in an incall situation) and have your friend call you in 5 minutes. Within that 5 minutes, you can see if there's chemiatry or a misrepresentation. You get the call from your friend and then tell the girl you have a work emergency and need to leave. At this point, a small donation is polite. As stated, if she's not what she was pictured or described, don't even go inside, just leave. Once you're inside the door, it's a lot more difficult to leave. I was in one situation in Hollywood, went to a girl's apartment and heard there were other people there and it didn't "feel right" so I asked to leave. There was an angry confronation and gave $50 and was allowed to leave. When I got to that door, it didn't feel right but still went in. Now if for ANY reason I'm not comfortable, I just don't go in. It's been a very long time that I had that wrong feeling and left.
Another option if you go inside and don't have a friend who can call you- Every cellphone has an alarm clock. Set it for 5 minutes prior to entering. The alarm goes off, you can answer your phone and use the same excuse, a work emergency.
Remember, ALWAYS trust your instincts, if something feels weird, don't do it.
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