Ok here is something I don't understand, I had intercourse with two providers, I did exactly the same moves and positions with both providers, I even waited ten days before doing each one. The only difference was one was a lot more attractive than the other women but the other women who was less attractive I had a much more chemistry with. The one who was much more attractive, I was able to cum a lot quicker, and the orgasm was much more powerful but for the latter one who I actually had feelings for it took longer to cum and at times I couldn't even cum and the orgasm was weak. Shouldn't it be the other way around and has anyone ever experience this situation?

In real life, you have those female friends who you are close to and feel a kinship with.  However, you may not be attacted to them and think of them more as a "friend" and develop a platonic relationship with them.  

However, you may also meet a woman whom there is instant sexual chemistry with.  This would be a person you would be interested in becoming more intimate with.

When you find that one person who fulfills both needs, who you are attracted to, but also like, then you are truly lucky.

A man's body doesn't perform the same way all the time, especially if your diet and exercise regimen is all over the map. Every once in a while I can't perform at all, but 95% of the time I could easily perform every day of the week with just about any provider so long as she had decent skills and looks. Personal feelings don't really factor in with me.

Before you see a provider, be sure that you're not eatting lousy food and getting a decent amount of exercise. It works for me at least.

difficult to predict; especially how it affects your mind.  Sexual performance is a mind thing.

It is not just about who is the hottest lady; otherwise, we would just go by appearance and pay no attention to performance when reading reviews.

to provide sexual satisfaction.

The act of orgasm and ejaculation is primary a physical one, and as with all physical functions, it originates in the mind.  So, as we are all pretty much conditioned by the mass media to equate a certain "look" with sexual satisfaction, it does not surprise me that your body reacted in this manner.

On the other hand, chemistry is something that is more innate.  It isn't clear why we are attracted to some people's pheromones more than others, but it is a fact.  These attractions will produce the feeling of closeness that you mention, but the mind is not yet wired to tell the sex organs that this is also the right person to go to town on.

If you spend enough time with that person however, you will end up rewiring your brain and you might then end up with a situation where that is the body or face type that will turn you on.

I have noticed a steady shift in my wiring since becoming a hobbyist, and I'm very pleased with the results too.

(still not a Love Goddess)

No offense but exactly how is this question related to this board? This should be moved to the general discussions board...just my thoughts.