Hello, Im a new provider in Atl. and I have noticed that when I am screening clients with some indy girls, they never respond back. These girls are well reviewed ladies. I understand these are busy ladies and their time is valuable. I also understand some have assistants to help them out. I have emailed them also, but no response. Is it because I am new and they are leary? I send every bit of info that I have. cell #, e-mail and the names of the websites I have an ad posted on. Is there something I am missing? Am I doing something wrong? Is there a different procedure that I should approach?   I feel bad for the clients that this has happened to
Im not here to bash the girls, but just to understand and to learn from them! Like they say "knowledge is power" and I'm feeling pretty powerless regarding this topic!!

Hi Logan- busy with or without an assistant, the inquiry from a lady in need is my first priority when Im looking at my inbox. However, I verify the lady first. If you are unreviewed, an option to consider is asking the gent to reach out to that lady first so she is expecting a request from you. In addition to obtaining that vouch you seek, it helps you become established as a lady who takes her clients privacy needs seriously- a must.  

Other possibilities: a no reply on a vouch request can mean any number of things, it is paramount to stay in touch with your instincts and trust them.  

I cannot answer as to the reasons why, but also know that some ladies are not reference friendly. My thought process says, if we are not here to help each other out, then what are we here for?  I so appreciate all the ladies that come through for me! For the lady that prefers to not be contacted as a reference I will continue to respect that. We all operate in different ways.  

Most importantly, the reference is only as good as the source. If you have no reviews yet, ladies will be very hesitant to respond to your request. The provider reference-friendly lady is simply remaining discreet for her safety, as well as her clients.  

We can be anyone we want on the Internet--if you can't show who you are within our community, one must consider all possibilities.  

Hope this helps even if just a little!  

Play safe.

Peace.

Clients should get permission from the gals they want to use as a reference first, and let them know that so-and-so a provider will contact that to OK them.

If the provider isn't reference-friendly, the time to find out is before the other provider wastes her time trying to reach her.

How many times have you tried to contact a provider, someone who you know is currently active as she is posting ads and whatever else, sent her a perfectly straightforward request with a day, time, and screening info and not even gotten a reply?

Then you send her a follow up email or two, and suddenly you get lucky and she replies, everything goes smoothly from there?

I understand that it is annoying when someone ignores your email, I really do, but we all get a shitload of emails and depending on when the email arrives, what else is going on, what other emails arrive right before and after, some get lost.

If a reply is important, send a polite follow up, asking if somehow the original email got lost or missed and say that if for some reason she does not want to give a reference, just let you know and you will not bother her again. In my experience, unless the lady is away or flaky as hell, you will get a reply by the second or third polite email. Yes, that may be of no help as the client's desired meeting may have come and gone hours, or days, ago, but it does open up some line of communication.

Do not assume the person who has not replied is an asshole or is doing it intentionally, as that is rarely the case. Assholes are happy to tell you to f**k off.

MF is correct, however in that the client should let the reference know and get her okay first. That way the lady is watching for your request, probably.

zig

I agree with LadyAstrid, We share a common interest, just as much as the gentlemen that seeks us out. I admit that I am new to the boards, but not without reviews or common respect to the boards. I recently had a wonderful encounter with a gent that I met thru Ter, I posted an ad in my area and he reached out. He is whitelisted here, but I took it upon myself to reach out to these ladies for an extra peace of mind.
I pm'd a simple request asking only 1 simple question. I received a very polite response from each lady. From there the appointment was made and we had a wonderful encounter. I myself have recieived calls from ladies(reviewed) asking for a reference from clients that I have seen. I am more than happy to pass along a safe/nice gent to them. In summary for the OP, please do not get discouraged if the ladies do not respond to your inquiry. Everyone is different and may not be as open as others.
As always be safe!