This is actually a follow-up message from a post I made last week regarding if there's an unwritten rule for the amount of time you have to wait before calling a specific provider again after you've just seen her...
Well..... After we met last Wed., I e-mailed her the very next day on Thursday for another session on Sat. Unfortunately, she replied back saying that she's sorry, but she won't be able to make it on Sat, and to let her know if I have another time in mind..... But.. I backed off for the weekend....
On Sunday night, I e-mailed her again asking if Wed. morning will be a good time for a meeting, she replied within the hour saying that she can't do it that day either, she's really sorry and asked me if I had another time in mind... I replied back saying that it's all good, and I'll check my schedule and let her know...
Then, on Monday afternoon, (which is today, 12/15) I thought... maybe it's best if I know what are the best times she'll be available, then I can schedule the session easier... So, I e-mailed her in the afternoon, asking if she can let me know the best times she'll be available in this coming week... And... so far... she hasn't replied yet. She usually reply to her e-mails pretty fast, and she seemed pretty genuinely sorry both times about not being able to make the times I had suggested...
But had I pushed her over the edge for being too nagging about this? Is she telling me to get away, but I'm too dumb to take the hint? I really like this provider, and want to spend more time with her... but if she is indeed telling me to hit the road, then I guess there' nothing I can do but to oblige to her demands....
OR....
Am I just thinking too much about all this?! lol~
Help me out guys & gals!
It's hard to know what's going on. Normally I would say you're just overthinking things. This is a busy time of year for everyone. Some of the established independents don't take on that many dates. She is likely just busy.
I'm wondering how old you are. Some providers prefer older men. Assuming your hygiene was good and you have a reasonably friendly personality, that might be an issue.
In any event, you'll now know for sure. If she doesn't get back to you at all, you can assume for one reason or another that she prefers not to see you again, and you can move on.
This can be a frustrating aspect of the hobby. It does not boil down to a straightforward business transaction. It involves intimate and personal activities and so there are levels of communication and preference that do not take place when you are, for example, getting a haircut. Good luck. One way or the other I'm sure you'll do fine.
Though she has been responding quickly that doesn't mean she always will. Give it a day or two.
Like the previous posts, it's almost impossible to know what is going on. Could be a million different things. This is a very busy time of year. She could have a lot of things going on in her private life and just be swamped with things to do. Remember providers are human and have lives outside the hobby. Now I'll relate my first experience in the hobby. I was lucky when I was a newbie that my first date was with a great provider and I wanted to see her again and again. Then I realized why I started hobbying was to see a lot of different escorts. So bottom line, I would move on for the time being, see another well reviewed escort that meets your criteria, and then maybe go back to this lady.
Certainly she cannot be the only escort you want to see. Good luck
You're making a mistake I made at first. You want the lady to like you as much as you like her. Remember the little white envelope? It's laid out EACH time to make this a business and not a relationship. You need to stop trying to make it the latter. Times are tough out there for most of the ladies and I'm sure even if it were you (that you're not her type, very unlikely though), she would probably overlook it for the $$.
Like some of the other posts, she is probably just busy. Find you some other ladies you might can see and when/if she emails you then you have choices.
Good luck!
this is a busy time... she could have personal obligations. Yes, they are entitled to a life. I think you're probably over thinking this one.
You need to let this one rest... maybe see some one else. & circle back later. Do not get hung up on one provider...
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I would leave her alone for a while. Either she really is that busy, or she is trying to tell you something. Give it a couple of weeks, see a different provider and then try again.
FWIW you may have unintentionally sent her the wrong signs, maybe you came on a little too strong for her tastes. Showing you can back off and take a hint may do wonders for her attitude. I don't really have any idea, I am just speculating. Hope it works out.
You may have been tagged as a time-waster. On a couple occasions, when asked for another time, you gave her a "let me think about it". While there's certainly nothing wrong with checking your schedule, you may be coming across as not seriously. IMHO, you'd have been better off checking the schedule BEFORE replying to her email.
Whether there's another shot for you is yet to be seen. In either case, learn from it and move on.
Huh???? Who gave who the "let me think about it" responses?? Him? Or am I just totally reading this wrong...lol
He saw her. He wants to see her again. He emails her asking to see her, she replies she cant for the time he wants. He asks her to let him know when she can see him, she hasnt responded.
What exactly does he need to "learn from it and move on"..??
How does HE become labled a "time waster"..?? HE is the one attempting to schedule..SHE hasnt responded. I think you got this backwards.
I am so confused...lol
Here's what I read...
On Sunday night, I e-mailed her again asking if Wed. morning will be a good time for a meeting, she replied within the hour saying that she can't do it that day either, she's really sorry and asked me if I had another time in mind... I replied back saying that it's all good, and I'll check my schedule and let her know...
Re-reading it, I may have jumped the gun. It appears that I'm not that good at doing 2 other things while reading. Good catch.
You read it completely wrong. The hobbyists gave two "let me check and get back to you" replies. He came off as a time waster. The provider likely has many things going on in her life, she is not in the business for the hobbyist's sole gratification. She likely gets several emails per day that she need to reply to. Why should she waste time with a hobbyists that gave up two chances to set a firm date?
Yes you are thinking too much. I have a heck of a time scheduling with some providers and it's not because they don't want to see me, since they eventually do, but because they are in high demand and don't schedule that many clients to begin with. If your schedule is flexible you can ask her when it works best for her and see if you can fit it in.
That said, don't get stuck with one provider. We all have ATFs but variety is the spice of life bud.
This is the type of customer that a provider should cultivate. She has seen him before, so there are no screening issues, she knows he can pay, she knows he is happy with her performance...
Instead she does everything possible to chase him away. She would rather hunt for new clients, with all the headaches that brings, instead of seeing the "known quantity."
Wasn't there another thread about how some providers treat their clients worse, the more they get to know them? Apparently with this woman, familiarity breeds contempt...
Move on, find someone else, and consider yourself lucky that you didn't pay to be mistreated on your second visit with her.
Personally, I am very busy with my real life. I see one person on any given day. I work the overnight shift, etc...I hobby for fun and prefer repeats. If I had a great time the first time you're in for the rides of you're life the more you return the more intense, hot and wet it gets.
Then there are ladies who are in high demand and their scheduled way in advance for the times you've requested. Then add in their personal,IE: real life time and they are busy.
I agree, you're reading into this way too much hun. Maybe a little more flexibility when you contact her would help. Have more than one time in mind and see what happens.
Also, I hobby for variety. Check out other ladies as suggested. Have fun! That's what this is all about.
Hobby on!
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I'm sorry, but as a provider, I find it flattering that a man would want to contact me right away after meeting me. I absolutely love exploring with a date and that is amplified each time we are together...I think it's only polite to tell a gentleman in a kind way that I am not interested. I don't want a person wasting my time, so I don't want to waste yours.
She has most likely come to view you as a time waster for her.
She seemed to have known what her schedule was and rightly expecting you to know yours. You could have set up an alternate date when she was not available Sat. The lady can not tell you her schedule beyond maybe a couple of days becuase she has free time that may be booked by other hobbyists.