You are under no obligation to please her if that's not what you are into.

She may love DATY, but she will want to make sure you are happy.  That is her main aim.

(In all honesty, I suspect that most of us are not all that good at DATY anyways.)

Hi all,

First timer again....Haven't made the jump for the first time...trying to get all the info, a huge thank you in advance to everyone for their insight.

My question is:  Is DATY expected?  Is it bad ettiquette to refuse doing it?  I'm not a huge fan but don't want to disrespect or anger any of the providers.  Thank you again.

My first time I started to, and backed off, as crazy as it sounds, as it is a big step for me.  She stated that she really wasn't in to it anyhow and liked what we were doing (Maybe stated for my benefit to not feel bad about not doing it, not really sure).  

The bottom line, your money, your time, your choice.

This is p4p,  do what you like, as long as the provider doesn't have rules against those activites. This isn't some civi deal where you're trying to please your gf. That's why reading the juicy details are so important. You should try and find an escort who excells in what you like.

When I first started in this business, I was actually surprised at how many clients DATY. I didn't think guys would pay to eat an escorts pussy.

I personally do not expect it, wouldn't ask a client to do it, nor am I offended if they don't DATY. You're spending your $$$ for YOUR pleasure.

I was concerned about how much DATY was going on in these reviews. I actually dont ever remember reading any provider profiles that didnt have at least one guy doing it. DATY is very popular....I dont know why but im not into it either and this bothered me for a while.

So my first provider i was intent on going PSE with no DATY or Kissing. Just BBBJ and pound her for 45 minutes.  Well as soon as she opened the door she started to kiss me and before i know it im eating her out and rimming her. Dunno it just kinda happened. These providers...the good ones...know how to warm you up and make you want to lick them all over. I still pounded her though.

Well now you know what the first thing a lot of men think about when they see an attractive woman is. Personally I think of rimming but DATY is my second thought.

uh...speak for yourself.  In my civilian and hobby life I have been thanked for my patience and skill in such areas.  I have no doubt most guys are jonesing for a BJ the first time they ever hear about it.  Me?  Well - sure - but I was far more interested in DATY than anything for myself.   If I can get someone off with DATY (and I do) then the rest is gravy....so to speak.

In fact (again both civy and hobbiest) if I meet someone who does NOT want that then I am mightily disappointed.

I've never felt like DATY was an expectation, it might even be a burden in some cases. I had one girl tell me "go ahead, I enjoy it but you won't make me cum." Talk about a challenge.

As has been mentioned, sometimes it happens because of the person and the situation. To me each encounter should be different, even if it is a repeat. DATY is part of some and not others.

Just have fun...