I have found someone I would really like to see. Read her ad & website carefully. Checked out her reviews (all good). But can't find any mention of price anywhere. I've always been told that you should not mention money. What is the proper way to ask that protects us both? I've come across this before (no price) but just said "oh well" and kept looking for someone else. I don't want to have to do that this time. Any advice would be appreciated.

...If she doesn't have TER reviews, you shouldn't see her if you're a Newbie.  Stick to well-reviewed TER providers.

If she has TER reviews but no price mentioned in her ads, you can ask if ALL the information in her TER profile is up to date and accurate without specifically mentioning cost of services.

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'Hi [her name], I saw your ad on [wherever] and I'd really like to meet you in [whatever town] tonight at 5PM. Are you available at that time? If so, what is the rate for 1 hour of your time?'

There's nothing wrong w/asking about money, as long as you only mention time, and make no reference to sexual activities...

About the mention of asking to confirm rates on TER profiles, some ladies (particularly if they do not cultivate a presence here) might find that off-putting. Especially if she has no idea she's reviewed, and/or is not familiar w/the site.

But, every lady is different

When you see "never mention money" basically that means don't mention money and service. You can't say "How much is a BBBJ?" However there is no problem in asking, "What is your rate for 1 hour?" (Or other time frame)

On the other hand, when a ladies rates are clearly mentioned on ads or websites, then there is no readon to ask about rates and some providers are put off by that. If however, they don't have their rates listed anywhere, how else do you find out if you don't ask?

if she doesn't list a price anywhere, my rule is:

Contact her and tell her when you'd like to see her and for how long.  MOST LIKELY she will respond with some questions (name, age, race, OC/IC, location, etc).  Also, MOST LIKELY, she will tell you her current rate.  If she doesn't, before agreeing to a location/date/time, feel free to ask "Donation?".

Under no circumstances whatsoever should you discuss sexual activities with her.  Your only conversation should be [date, time, location, duration, price].  No discussion of activities, no acronyms, no euphemisms, no generalities, no specifics.  Not. At. All

I have come out and asked what the donation rate is when I don't know. They don't shut down communication, they respond with a dollar amount. Easy-peasy.

Don't mention sex, obviously. Money talk is fine. If you're unsure, tell them you're a newbie and aren't sure how to ask, but what is your donation rate? If they can put dollar amounts on their websites and such, they can tell you in an email or text.  

Often the girl will tell you explicitly shortly before you meet.

Some ladies are huge PITA sticklers for not discussing payment, no matter how you phrase it.  I know, because I'm one of them.  

My suggestion would be to contact her and mention that you could not locate her donation information on her website then ask  could she please provide a link or said info directly?  

In my personal opinion, it's always best to err on the side of discretion.  :-

Thank you everyone for the advice. It is very helpful. I didn't even think of looking for her TER profile. I'll try to find that before I call her. She has a number of reviews on TER so I assume she has one.

I generally inquire how many "roses" I should bring.

and (as is discussed farther down the page) they are a notoriously unreliable source of info concerning rates.  

Since she doesn't provide the info in her website or ads, your best bet is to politely (and discreetly) ask.  

While you *can* mention the TER profile, don't automatically assume the rates are accurate or updated.  

Also, I'm assuming that this lady is either newer, or doesn't advertise here. If so, she might not even be aware that she's reviewed. Imagine saying to her, 'Hi, I'm a member of TER? What's TER? Well, it's a place where guys write all about the ladies they've seen and rate them on a scale of 1-10. Anyway, it says that your rate is $250 per hour. Can you confirm that?'

I just know that when I was new, I would've hung up. Especially if the rate you quoted was wrong.

(It took me a long time to get used to the idea of TER. At first, I pictured a bunch of creepy dudes in basements masturbating in front of their computers, gossiping to each other about escorts, and tearing apart women's appearances. And there are definitely some like that out there.

Creepy dudes in basements masturbating and gossiping is the stereotype for pretty much every website ever that hasn't gone mainstream. But then, we all know regular people are on the internet, and that they don't all hang out on Facebook all day. So where do they wind up? There aren't enough creepy basement masturbator out there to account for all of TER's business.

At least, the ones I meet. People here generally just want to stay safe, make informed choices... and get some entertainment

However, I'm just trying to portray how TER might appear to someone who's never been involved with the site. IMO, when contacting someone who's doesn't post here, or mention TER anyplace in her site or ads, it's better just to stick with a basic introduction ('Hi, I saw your ad on [site] and I'd really love to meet you.').

It's not all just perception or ignorance. Some of the reviewers I met when I was new were really horrible. One of them is (was) probably the most hated poster on the NY board, and a few others were so heavily blacklisted that I don't think any respectable independent would see them (I worked for an agency).  

Even just a few months ago, I got ripped off by a reviewer. He talked the whole time about TER, and why he'd given girls he'd seen certain scores. After he left, I discovered that the envelope was short $200 for a 2-hour date. He knew very well I couldn't do anything about it, as it was pretty clear that he'd review me (he did leave a nice review)

rates (contact me?). It is OK to ask about the donation for an hour (or more) of her time. NEVER mention money and sex together.