Is the hobby just about variety?
I only ask because that's not my thing.
It would be nice to connect with maybe a couple of girls--ladies--for an extended period.  And that would suit me just fine.

My first 'newbie post' went way off on a tangent so let me be clear. . . .
I'm a bit of an introvert and don't really want my intentions to be skewed.  
So is it bad to have your sights set on something so vanilla?

I'm after only 3 things.  Fun, relaxation and no drama.

I'm still only Hypothetical Man at this point.
But it's about to get real. . . .

The hobby is about variety but it can be what you make it.If you are more comfortable with just seeing a couple of select few providers there is nothing wrong with that.
Some guys like to see different ladies as every provider brings something uniquely different than the last experience.There is no right or wrong on how many providers you have to see do what makes you feel good and comfortable.You are correct the hobby is about fun,relaxation,and definitely NO drama!
Good luck to you.

When I started out I used to see five or six new girls a month and was having the time of my life.  As time went by I met a few ladies who were  consistently the most fun to be with and my desire for variety gave way to my enjoyment of repeating with beautiful women who knew what I liked and treated me well...Still having the time of my life!

Don't go in with any preconceived notions. what's good for one hobbyist may not work for you. And enough with the hypothetical stuff, go get laid.

when i first started hobbying it was all about variety..as time goes by you meet some very special ladies and have a connection with them..hence atf..you now look forward to seeing those few and variety is not so important any more..as the saying goes..once you have sowed your wild oats..you tend to nurture the garden you have grown..

The variety is great. At first you will want it and like it. Then you will find those ladies that ring your bell and want to see them more often. Do things the way you want to do them. It's fun. Make it fun your way. Perfectly acceptable to do what you say you would prefer.

The gentlemen that see me on a regular basis do so because they want a drama free experience. They know me, know I am safe, know I am discreet, and above all else know that they can count on me to be there for them under most all circumstances. They aren't looking for variety. They are looking for one person that they are compatible with and that they can have a girlfriend type experience when we meet. Seeing the same person all the time gives you familiarity and comfort where you know each other and know each others needs. It is a perfect situation for me, some may need the variety but the men I see don't, they are satisfied with seeing just me.

I think that the hobby is supposed to be about a fantasy for the gents.  Something they wouldn't get on a regular or usual basis if at all.  It needs to be comfortable, relaxed, and stress/drama free.  It's what the individual wants, like, and chooses to seek.

I think that in the beginning it would be just about getting relaxed, and catching up on some pleasure that's been lacking lately.  Once you reach a comfort level in the hobby itself, then I would think it would be about what ever your mind wanders about and decides to do next.  I think having a couple of regular ladies and throwing in some variety when you feel like it seems like a good balance.  

This is all just my opinions based on the observations of the gents I have interacted with and what seems attractive to me if I were in the hobbyist's shoes.

For me, it's about having sex with beautiful ladies.  I like variety, as well as having some familiar ones I repeat with.  I will say this, your post could be read as though you are looking for a relationship, and this is not the place for that.  I'm not saying that is your intention, but  that what you posted could be interpreted that way.  There is nothing wrong with finding a provider you are comfortable with and seeing her repeatedly, or even exclusively.  Just be careful to keep it in the proper perspective, otherwise, it can backfire on you.

Swim

I appreciate everybody's input.
Definitely not interested  in a relationship.  It's probably more a case of me trying to "soften" my language too much.

just go looking for providers you are interested in that offer the services you sant, and check them out.   Whatever you are looking for, it's out there, you just have to search for it.  Sometimes, it takes a while, sometimes not.  In any case, good luck.  If you have any questions, this it the place for them, and you can always PM me if you have a private question.

Swim

enjoy meeting new ladies who have caught my eye whether it be with an ad or some posts they have made that show me what they are about.

exclusivity is one sided.  if you read through the boards, there is a gent who has had an exclusive arrangement...  whose lady friend has lost her passion, seeing him less & treating him as an ATM (Automatic Teller Machine).   This seems to happen in relationships & hookups as well.  

The opposite extreem is to see as many women as possble...  to never build a relationship.

In between, is meeting ladies who appeal to you & you might consider them for repeat visits.  I term them simply as "Favorites".   Some turned out to be ordinary experiences, ok, but not anyone I wanted to see again for what ever reason.   Some did indeed turn out to be Favorites.  I usually rotate among this small handful of ladies.  It helps to balance my emotional involvement.   Because we are well aquainted, it is more personal.  We generally have more relaxed time schedules.  If one is unavailable when I can get free, I can turn to another.   I am not closed to seeing other potential Favs, but it's not pressing.

TER has a slant because it rewards new reviews.  Nothing wrong with that...  just know it's part of the picture.  There are lots of guys quietly seeing Favorite ladies.  
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