If you just want to "pop your cherry", troll the BP or CL listings and find a woman who will do a quick visit. The safest way to do this is to already have a bucket list of women whom you know are legit. For example keep track of ladies who are reviewed on this board, most reviewers will tell you if it was a quick visit or if it required advance notice. When you have a "free moment" start calling from your list. Most providers who do a qv are willing to see you within the next couple of hours, Ive had plenty tell me to "come over now". This may take away form the "romance" of setting up the date and the anticpation of it all, but you have to make some concessions if your trying to build up some references or street cred. I dont have a S.O. so I keep a notebook with ladies names numbers and info, like qv or apointment, of those Ive been wanting to see. If your not a TER VIP, I would pay for the first couple of months so you can do your research. Believe me its worth it, and will save you lots of hassel in the long run, and maybe keep those shiney new bracelets off your wrists!!
good luck!
I'm curious to find out how long it took for some other newbies to "pop their cherry".
I've been striking out left and right. I've contacted 4 different providers. I went numerous different dates and times with all 4. Nothing. I even tried to set one up a week in advanced and still struck out. Through my job it is difficult for me to determine a set date and time. But, the days I know for sure, I go for. I work a PM shift and my starting time varies from day to day. Sometimes I don't know my start time until the night before. The one thing I want to avoid is giving a provider a certain date and not being able to show. I know from reading countless threads on here, it's one of the worst things you can do. That would be disrespectful on my part. I'm starting to realize most providers do take the weekends off, unless they're visiting. Which is the best time for me to set a date and time. Trying to set something up beyond a week in advance is, like I said, risky. I know it will eventually happen, but I'm feeling frustrated. It's almost comical. With one provider, as I said in the beginning of this rant, I scheduled a week in advance and still got shot down. I swear I thought it was golden. Get the e-mail back, and she said, she was completely booked that day. All I can do at this point is, laugh. It's one of those laughs when you throw your arms in the air like a monkey, and just say, I don't know what the hell is going on. Haha.
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... are they really short?
Are the women you are emailing well reviewed?
If they have a website, did you read it?
(The might not reply if it's clear you didn't bother reading their site... if they don't do incalls and you're asking for an incall, or if they have a 1 or 2 hour min appointment and you are asking for less time, if they ask for certain screening items or other information and you aren't providing it, etc.)
As a newbie you're likely going to have to sign up with a verification service, likely preferred 411 or datecheck.
1. The e-mails are not short. I provide all the information I can and more. The only e-mails that are short are the replys, when they ask me for another date.
2. Yes, I'm sticking with well reviewed providers.
3. Read it? I study it. I always make sure in my e-mail I throw them a compliment about their site. Only 1 of the prviders had an actual calendar. Regardless, I always gave a time, date, length of visit & incall/outcall.
4. I got verified by RS2K. I did my research and I know as a newbie I needed this. I know it's a plus if you live in the Chicago area.
I just have to keep at it, I guess.
... are they really short?
Are the women you are emailing well reviewed?
If they have a website, did you read it?
(The might not reply if it's clear you didn't bother reading their site... if they don't do incalls and you're asking for an incall, or if they have a 1 or 2 hour min appointment and you are asking for less time, if they ask for certain screening items or other information and you aren't providing it, etc.)
As a newbie you're likely going to have to sign up with a verification service, likely preferred 411 or datecheck.
I know, you've tried four times and nothing, but keep at it. As Bea mentioned, well reviewed providers will want references, you need to join a referral site. Or they will want work info.
You need to offer to be screened in your initial email. The ladies may not be responding if they get a feeling you don't have references, which you don't. Just remember we were all newbies at one time, even the ladies.
I've been striking out left and right. I've contacted 4 different providers. I went numerous different dates and times with all 4. Nothing. I even tried to set one up a week in advanced and still struck out. Through my job it is difficult for me to determine a set date and time. But, the days I know for sure, I go for. I work a PM shift and my starting time varies from day to day. Sometimes I don't know my start time until the night before. The one thing I want to avoid is giving a provider a certain date and not being able to show. I know from reading countless threads on here, it's one of the worst things you can do. That would be disrespectful on my part. I'm starting to realize most providers do take the weekends off, unless they're visiting. Which is the best time for me to set a date and time. Trying to set something up beyond a week in advance is, like I said, risky. I know it will eventually happen, but I'm feeling frustrated. It's almost comical. With one provider, as I said in the beginning of this rant, I scheduled a week in advance and still got shot down. I swear I thought it was golden. Get the e-mail back, and she said, she was completely booked that day. All I can do at this point is, laugh. It's one of those laughs when you throw your arms in the air like a monkey, and just say, I don't know what the hell is going on. Haha.
-- Modified on 10/22/2011 4:59:54 PM
If you just want to "pop your cherry", troll the BP or CL listings and find a woman who will do a quick visit. The safest way to do this is to already have a bucket list of women whom you know are legit. For example keep track of ladies who are reviewed on this board, most reviewers will tell you if it was a quick visit or if it required advance notice. When you have a "free moment" start calling from your list. Most providers who do a qv are willing to see you within the next couple of hours, Ive had plenty tell me to "come over now". This may take away form the "romance" of setting up the date and the anticpation of it all, but you have to make some concessions if your trying to build up some references or street cred. I dont have a S.O. so I keep a notebook with ladies names numbers and info, like qv or apointment, of those Ive been wanting to see. If your not a TER VIP, I would pay for the first couple of months so you can do your research. Believe me its worth it, and will save you lots of hassel in the long run, and maybe keep those shiney new bracelets off your wrists!!
good luck!
At first, I trolled BP a lot. Some providers just seemed to good to be true. Other than joining RS2K, this site has saved me a ton of time. If I don't see atleast a few solid reviews I don't even both with the provider. And, I'm also a VIP. I set a few rules for myself and staying away from BP is one of them.
good luck!
not a gal in her early 20's, who has been around a while. The ladies in their 30's (and up) are better at helping a newbie get started. Find a well-reviewed lady that will take her time to show you how this game is played. Send a respectful email giving her the necessary screening info then be clean and well mannered when you see her. Relax and enjoy; life is too short.
I'm starting to think that this is the way to go. Plus, I think I would just feel more comfortable with someone that's around my age. I usually give more than what RS2K told me to give. Just because I'm a newbie, I want them to feel safe just as I do.
Are there any good ones in your area? If so, check out their roster of girls and find a few you like. Then get screened, or even see if they'll pre-screen you. That way, when your window of opportunity opens you'll be able to make one call to get a few choices and it'll be much more likely you'll score. As others have said, first joining a verification site like P411 or Date-Check will help.
That worked for me. I must have emailed 9 or 10 ladies before one of them finally agreed to take the time required to verify me through work info. That creates your first reference. Then it becomes much easier after that. Pretty soon, you've got half a dozen solid references and you can see anyone you like.
Read the self help section (link by the life saver) at the top of this board? Read back on this board until you can answer every question yourself? Do you have a "hobby phone" and "hobby email" separate & secure from your regular life? Did you tell the providers they are private & ok to respond?
You ARE new... do not lie about anything. Find someone who is Newbie friendly. DO what ever screening they require. My first required a land line number (not to call) but to do a reverse look up to cross referance with the other info I'd given her.
I often send an intro email with the subject "Advance Screening"... often we end up meerting sooner rather than later.
I agree a MILF +/- 30 & up is a good place to start.
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After contacting my first provider, I stopped for about a week. That's when I found the self help and started using this board as a reference. I've picked up a ton of information to help me move forward. I'm always polite and respectful in my e-mails. I give everything I can and more. References, I always tell them, I don't have any and that I'm a newbie. I'm RS2K verified and the whole nine yards. I've been looking at more providers my age and older.
You ARE new... do not lie about anything. Find someone who is Newbie friendly. DO what ever screening they require. My first required a land line number (not to call) but to do a reverse look up to cross referance with the other info I'd given her.
I often send an intro email with the subject "Advance Screening"... often we end up meerting sooner rather than later.
I agree a MILF +/- 30 & up is a good place to start.
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Go to your regional discussion board and do a 359 day search for "newbie friendly". Check out the providers that pop out and see if any of them are interesting to you. You might not get your "dream girl" the first time out - but if she is newbie friendly and agrees to provide references, well that's your goal.
As a personal aside - I hope your emails are more succinct than your initial post. Because to be very honest your post reads like "well I MAY be available on Tuesday around 4:00 IF I don't have to work and if my schedule doesn't change. The absolute best contact letters are "can I see you Thursday at 8pm for a ninety minute session - here is my reference information.
Since you are using a service instead of humans for initial reference, there is no harm in shotgunning your intro letters.
My .02
I can only speak for myself. I prefer not to book anything more than 2 weeks in advanced . - But like you metioned it's risky with your job. I will not accept same day appointments , because it does take time to screen. I prefer at least a 24 hour notice , but a 48 hour notice is even better.
Even with an advance notice I may be booked that day. I am a low volume provider, only accepting one encounter , possibly two ( if one is in the am & the other is in the pm) and because of this I do book up rather quickly.
Honestly it's a hit or miss . Just keep trying! But you are already on the right track , by realizing that when you schedule an encounter you need to be sure you can make it.
Good Luck Babe xo
Knowing how this works & no accidental mistakes puts you a step ahead.
I'd suggest shortening your initial contact. Use my idea of "advance screening" and you can give 24 hours notice of exact date & time but it would be within a week of her approval. Providers don't like to read long stories. In your first contact say you are new and RS2K verified & will provide what ever information she requires.
A provider who "is totally booked" a week ahead, is just trying to be polite but does not want to see a newbie.
Try STARTING with TER most recent reviews for your area. You can follow the links back to their ads where they may be. You need VIP to read the full reviews which I do when I'm shopping for my bucket list. The form says real pictures, and provides services as promised. Should still have 6 or more reviews. Some reviews will state in the general whether they'd see her again, which is a HUGE importance.
I don't know your age but stand by my 30+ suggestion.
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It looks like your doing most things right. I would take the tact with the provider who did respond to you of trying to find a date and time that does work. My first provider took over two months to work out a time to get together, of course she only visited my area a couple of times a month so that complicated the issue. Once she replied the first time I knew that she would see me but not on the date I could make. That followed with weekly contact trying to see if we could make it work. I was polite and did not overly contact her just check in regularly to see if she would be in my area and have any time available. Finally an opportunity came up and I had to do some last minute rescheduling of my time but we were able to meet. Once the initial meeting was over I then was able to get times more suited to what I needed in future visits. Yes I could easily have moved on to other ladies but my determination to do what was needed to see her paid off in overcoming any reservations she had on seeing me as a newbie. A lot of ladies will give scheduling priority to regulars and so the first date time and place may always seem full to you, if she returns your email saying it is just a bad date for her then follow up with trying to find a good date. In my case I ended up taking a half day off work (doctors appointment to work) to get that illusive first date.