I'm a complete newb here and haven't jumped in yet (waiting on a p411 verification).

Maybe others will see this differently, but here is my take.  

6 mos ago I too walked in his shoes and now it`s real good.

..... I think you'll find the majority only care that you pay our donation in full.  

What you described would be an issue in the high end sugar bowl but not in the hobby. You see like a very humble and appreciative guy and as long as you are able to pay my rate I would love to have you as a client. Majority of our time spent together (with smaller time frame dates) will be us without our clothes, so what you wear really doesn't matter, also most uber rich guys wear clothing that looks like it's from the thrift store, lol. I'll take a gentleman in "regular" clothing over an entitled snob in a gucci suit.

Nobody has ever asked how much I make and I've never said.
I pay the rate, and don't negotiate
(I'm a poet, and didn't recognize it)

I get it man, we all started out as newbs.  You don't have to be a wealthy Adonis to have a great time with some incredible providers.  There are plenty of beautiful ladies out there who offer their services for reasonable rates and most of them won't care if you are carrying a few extra pounds.  If you are respectful, follow their rules of etiquette, and pay their rates without trying to negotiate, they will treat you right.  If hitting the gym would make you feel better about yourself, then go for it, but it's hardly a necessity.

... providers routinely see clients from all walks of life: rich, poor, black, white, male, female, etc.  Just hobby within your means and there will always being someone within your price range.

Don't fret! I for one don't give two craps how much you make or how much furniture you have. Are you able to pay the rate??? Cool we can be friends and I won't make you feel like crap lol. If you're ever in Vegas....hit me up. But seriously, don't think to much into it. We really don't care and if anything will make you feel better about yourself

I take it that you are youngish, and starting off on that corporate ladder of life.

NO, it won't solve all  your issues but it's great for your physical health, your mental outlook and women (in and out of the p4p world) will look at you differently. Why? Because you will be more confident in yourself, and that makes up for a lot of what you are perceiving as shortcomings.

You have received some great advice in this forum.  I echo most of it ---

It's good to have you here. I also want to commend you for being so vulnerable about everything. Before I give my two cents like everyone else, I want to remind you of one thing. No one here is perfect regardless if you may think differently. The beautiful thing about this world is it straddles of the world of what is real and what is an illusion. I think we all come off as though we have it all together but the truth is we all struggle with weight, self-esteem, confidence, "keeping up with the Jones' mentality" et cetera at some point because of the standards we aim to live up to. In time... we all get there. So focus on your journey... don't pay attention to the others. *Deep breath* Ok... cool?  

Wow, didn't expect so many people to respond. I really appreciate the advice - especially the fact that it came from clients and providers. That really helps shed some of my inhibitions.

A motto from good personal trainers says.

As long as you arrive on time, leave on time, showered, smell good, respect boundaries, screening is easy breeze.. that's all we care!  

Agreed. A fit body starts in the kitchen! All the working out in the world doesn't touch whole foods organic diet. Changes the whole whole thought process also! Give it 21 days at least for it to take effect......

Wait, wait...  you bake cookies?  

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On the outcall thing: I'm not totally focused on outcall, just saw a couple girls that only do outcall. My apartment is fairly private, I'm only connected to a small business, no real neighbors, and off of a main road. So it's private, but not so private that the location would sketch anyone out. Plus the idea of having a good time and not having to shower and rush off home through city traffic is appealing to me.

What a truly wonderful post. I know you weren't talking to me, but thank you for putting this up.

Yes, I bake cookies but I do more than that. My theory is: treat me like a Queen and you'll be treated like the King... or Queen *hey ladies* that you are. Cookies, both sexual and non, will be provided in abundance. Haha.

easily get laid without fear of being judged?? They're supposed to boost your self-esteem and make you feel accepted. That's their job! Just start out small for now. Don't bite off more than you can chew. You should probably start out with someone whose rates are reasonable. There are lots of $80 quickies out there, but you have to know where to look. If you donate in full without trying to negotiate her rates, and treat her right, she won't care about your looks, income, car or your apartment. Quick word of caution though, if I were you, I wouldn't invite anyone over to my apartment who I haven't already met. The first encounter should always be an incall, and then you can take it from there based on the mutual vibes you're both giving off to each other. Make sure you do your research and shop around for the best deal. I didn't have the luxury of any support groups or online forums when I was a newbie, I was on my own, and I had to learn the ropes by being out in the field, but luckily for me, I was in a location where the law wasn't strictly enforced. You don't have anything to worry about approval wise. Your real adversaries in this game are LE, con artists and STDs, always remember to walk with your umbrella, and always play to win.

"" Her booty was worth the sacrifice, but do yourself a favor and bring a brown paper bag to bag her face with. Also, don't plan on staying too long, this one's only good for a quickie.""  

WTF dude? Seriously?  Please explain how one goes shopping around for the best deal.

It can be done, and has been done right here on TER by filling out the search form. There's a section where you can input the price range you're looking for. I wouldn't recommend something I haven't already tried now would I??

When I first started this hobby 20 years ago, I was middle management, middle class, and living by myself in a one bedroom apartment in a middle-class area. My self-esteem was okay, but I was somewhat self-conscious about my place in life. I felt more comfortable hosting an outcall at my place than driving to some unfamiliar incall location.  I always showered shortly before an appointment, and kept my place relatively clean. Eventually, I realized that a change of bedsheets just before an appointment was a nice touch.

I'm looking for ladies that fit qualities I'm looking for, not a price range. I'm making an investment of my time so I'm seeking ladies who are worth it. Quality over anything else.

I am slightly more experienced in the hobby now. I started working out months before I started and got P411 (best thing you will spend your hard earned money on other than time with some of these wonderful providers of course). I wanted to be in better shape. I don't care that we are paying for time with these ladies, I want to look good and and it makes me feel good and everything is all the better that way, at least in my opinion.

Good for you!  I'm sure that many women enjoy people like yourself who are real and down to earth --- and most importantly --- don't pretend to be something that you are not.  Too many people try to make the ladies think that they are high rollers.  Most people who are millionaires wouldn't let anyone know.  I suspect that many people are somewhat nervous the first few dozen times that they knock on that door.  Eventually, perhaps, that nervousness may shift from an anxiety-driven nervousness (negative) to an excitement/inquisitive/butterflies in the stomach (positive) type of experience.  You want to see how the profile matches up with reality.  

As long as your place is clean and you have the correct donation, the rest is irrelevant. A lot of us live rather modestly as well.

Wow. Thank you so much. I'm not a newbie at all and, like Fearghas, I know you weren't addressing me, but you know what--we old guys hit low points too, when our confidence falters, we feel sad and discouraged, we wonder again about things like are we OK even though we aren't wealthy and have to save up for weeks or months sometimes to see a lady we really want to meet. So, I really needed to hear what you just said, and I thank you.

You sound like a wonderful human being. Reading this was nice. Thanks.

Low self esteem isn't sexy, and that more than anything else will turn anyone off. Here are some pointers:
- Your financial status is your business.... no one else. Just go for girls who are within your budget and fit your standards
-You don't have to dress flashy to give off the impression of good wealth. Clean appearance, great manners, and easy-going attitude will get our panties wet.
-If you are concerned about your place not being "luxurious" trust that the best luxuries are plain and simple. Just clean up and have basics in monochromatic colors. You don't need a lot of unnecessary rubbish that will only make the place look cluttered.

If you are not a likable person I will not waste time, effort, nor my breath on you. You are not King David, and I am not your muse. I will not pump you up to make you feel great about yourself so that you can give me some dough.  

This is not the place to be picky, so save that for your civvie life. Is that the reason you only have 3 reviews on TER? Best of luck trying to find a job working in McDonald's with your current employment history.