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Wall_E 2087 reads
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I just had my first experience with a provider.  Great gal.  I was having trouble getting off and she really worked hard at it.  We actually went over our alloted time by 45 mins.   When I realized that after a bathroom break, I told her I had to go, that we had gone over time.  Of course, I thanked her for everything she did.  I had also brought her some candy.  She didn't seem to mind but I felt guilty about not offering something extra.  She was already at the upper end in price for me.  And she doesn't answer my thank-you-for-the-good-time emails.  So is she pissed?  

Also, what's allowable to put in emails?  Should you avoid sexual stuff altogether?  Rates?  (One I asked about a discrepancy in her rates and mentioned the amount - it was more about time that amount, though).  She didn't  respond to that one.  Did I piss her off?

There seem to be so many rules and etiquette to this hobby its hard not to screw up.

hiddenhills 143 Reviews 1124 reads
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3 / 9

Just like in the civie world, it's impossible to guess what a provider is thinking.  As far as emails, I simply request a date and time, location,  length of date and references. I never discuss rates or "sexual stuff".  That's the quickest way to have your emails deleted by the provider. All my questions are answered by the provider's ad and web site.  

Now, you say you stayed over by 45 minutes. You do not mention how long your date was scheduled to last.  If you did an hour and stayed 45 minutes over and as you stated "she really worked hard at it" a tip might have been nice. But I wasn't there so it's hard for me to say.  Maybe her non response is her way of telling you, you're to much work, but that's just a guess on my part. I like I said in the beginning of my reply, it's impossible to figure out what a provider is thinking. Good luck

jaydalee See my TER Reviews 958 reads
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4 / 9

There are some guys that have no problems setting up an appointment and some that have nothing but problems.It is all about your "approach" be polite and respectful,research the lady so you already know her rates,provide the required info she requesting,and have a great time.It is not hard it is not rocket science there are not many rules of etiquette in this hobby if you do the above I just stated.The fastest way to NOT get a response from a provider is a mention of services and rates.Whenever I get an email like that it is immediately deleted and will not get a response from me.Do not try to read into what a lady is thinking I agree you will never know.Everyone is new at some point and will make mistakes I would suggest reading through this board a lot of helpful info on how to approach ladies and other helpful topics!
Good luck!

rightonppl 29 Reviews 1267 reads
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5 / 9

and she ignores that, then you'll know you pissed her off. Don't be surprised if she does--45 minutes is a LOT of time to overlook. However, she might be forgiving knowing it was your first time.

Until then, though, I wouldn't worry about it. Any further thank you notes, apologies, etc. are liable to just be annoying.

Yes, avoid any mention whatsoever of sex, services, reviews, acronyms, etc in email. And avoid asking about rates if possible. Even though escorting for a fee is perfectly legal, many escorts will see a red flag. Sometimes, you can get clarification by PMing her recent reviewers.

Dr Who revived 1023 reads
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6 / 9

Generally the gals are aware of how much time is gone in a session.  But you also need to be aware of the time element here.

As HH suggested, without knowing what transpired it would be presumptuous to know if the gal is pissed at you or not.  But think of this in terms of seeing any professional.  You went for a one hour appointment, and just haven't gotten the solutions at the end of the hour.  Would it be "fair" to expect that professional not to be compensated for the additional time that you needed to get that answer?  I wouldn't construe this as a tip at all.  This is common courtesy for time expended on an activity.

Now move on to the next lady.  But remember that you need to take responsibility.  Keep a watch on and DON'T go over the time you paid for.  Respecting this simple part of the session will work in your favor down the road.  But if you become the "guy that always stays late...and doesn't pay"..well, word tends to travel fast.

Welcome to this bizarre and wonderful little hobby of ours!

NickCharlesIII 7 Reviews 723 reads
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8 / 9

Seriously, the little things that should be obvious, when overlooked, will sink you as sure as mentioning a sex act and a price. An example is to use her name in the email. Not just "Hi," but "Hi Provider Name." Convince her that you are actually addressing her and not sending out a mass mailing. Another example, read her messages carefully and thoroughly, and be sure to completely address in your reply anything she asks about. Se really doesn't want round after round of single question-single answer emails to schedule a simple appointment. Giver her all of the relevant details in the first message.

shudaknownbetter 590 reads
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9 / 9

May or May not be Pissed Off but that much over time is Extra work.  She may simply prefer easier clients (and what if you can't complete).   Providers are generally very skilled at time management...  without being obivious.  The idea is to use the whole time and still finish on time.  I try to keep rough track myself...   I recently had to ask a lady as she had hidden the clock (we were under).  

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