Why am I going to a lot of hobbyist profiles and see that he's getting bbbj and most of the providers are offering that service too. Like do people think AIDS, HIV and other stds just vanished ? Like it's scary to witness how freely a people are when it comes to providing that type service w/ anyone who's willing to pay.

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Everyday at risks  

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No, I'm not saying that stuff is safer or cool, non of it is. I stated that I'm constantly seeing people offer bbbj services or dudes talking about how they've received it. From what I've seen most people are covering up for intercourse, but they're going down on each other unprotected,  as if they can't get anything that way.

Clients  unprotected giving oral and rimming and daty on escorts.....Escorts that give bbbj don't hear reports on diseases...

The purpose of this post was not to start a debate. I made this post to bring awareness to adults engaging in irresponsible sexual activities. It's sad to see how people like yourself are oblivious to the situation. Just because YOU haven't heard any reports does not mean it doesn't happen.

I have been in this lifestyle for many years & get tested regularly and have never had an issue. I dare say many of the men and women in this lifestyle are also aware of the risks. We don't need  a grasshopper coming on the board giving advice.  

May I suggest this lifestyle may not be for you and that you consider moving on.  

bj's and daty's are aware of the risks.  Hell, just being in the room with someone we have just given money for sexual favors is a risk too.

Everyone here chooses what they want to participate in, reminding us isn't going to change many opinions of what we want to do.  We all, providers and hobbyists, make our own choices.

LLAP,
Swim

Actually I've been doing this for a few years as well. I joined this site so I can meet dudes from another source other than backpage and Craigslist. I never really worked around reviews, but I joined willing to try. When using those other sites, I noticed when I would get calls a lot of dudes would request bbbj. Which is something I'm not into. So the ones that are doing it so freely have dudes thinking every girl should do it. Which to me isn't right. So I'm not telling anyone to change their habits. I'm saying keep in mind you guys are kind of messing it up for people that don't engage in such activities and the STD risk is at a all time high. No matter how many success stories you've had or heard after giving unprotected services.  Just stating facts sorry if I offended anyone. If the shoe fits wear it !

Come to help them out. It's not for newbies to show up and preach a holier than thou attitude.  
If you have a legitimate question about STDs, ask it. If not, go take your preaching somewhere else.  
In the meantime go educate yourself by reading the CDC website and other good sources of info.

So your a provider coming in here and telling other providers that because they give bbbj there "messing it up" for everyone else... If you don't want to do that, that's your decision and that's fine, each lady is free to do whatever she is comfortable with.
So let me understand this.. Having sex with strangers involves and STD risk.. well duh.. do you have any idea how many posts of these type of questions come on these boards, of coarse everyone knows the risk.. wt

Lol, you and the other people in their feelings must have something. Like I said if you are clean and not fucking and sucking every hobbyist raw you have nothing to worry about. I will not respond to another negative reply, have a good day.

The Newbie Board says (top of the home page): "Are you NEW? Do you have a question about TER? This is the place to ask those newbie questions. ..."

The General Board (top of the home page) says: "Welcome to the TER General discussion board.
This is a moderated forum dedicated to discussing the hobby, erotica, and sex related subjects. Please note, flames and posts outside of the forum topics will be removed."

Your post is more for "General" than "Newbie."

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The risk of transmission of HIV through uncovered oral is very, very low, per the UK NIH.  It is about double the risk for infected male to female (ie, unprotected BJ) than it is for infected female to male (ie. DATY).  Unprotected anal is very high risk for the "catcher".  In any case, bacterial infections (Gonorrhea, etc) are a bigger risk overall.

That said, everyone has to evaluate their own risk tolerance for STDs.  For me in my mid-40s..what the fuck do I care?  Not that I want herpes or HIV, but really the 'damage' to my life at this point is pretty minor.  If I were in my early 20's, I'd have a different opinion about the risk.  But at this point in my life, an STD is really a badge of "yep, been there, done that, got the antibiotic prescription to prove it."  :-

(1) They are probably infected with something so whatever the provider might expose them to couldn't be worse than what they already have.

(2) They have zero self love or self respect. Some folks look forward on the timeline of their lives and have just given up on themselves on many levels so who cares, right?

(3) Some folks probably announce this crap because they see an STD as proof that they are, at least, having sex with someone.

(4) Alot of folks on these boards are competitive and/or liars. Hang around. You'll see it. Alot. And I don't mean my dick is 9 inches long when it is really only 7 inches. I mean, my dick is 10 inches long and i can go all night when I am really 5 inches and can go all night if you ignore that I will ejaculate 8 times in the course of 9 hours and the look of quiet, desperate boredom on my partner's face because I won't get off them or get them off. These are the same folks who will lie about what providers will do with them just to hurt the provider because every other nimrod who can't think for himself assumes that if Person A got X, Y or Z than THEY should be getting X, Y or Z too.

(5) Magical thinking that somehow, as a male, they are immune to STD's or women are more prone to them? And if the logic is that women are more prone to them, refer back to #1 on this list.

(6) Providers offering BBFS? I seriously wonder what is so important to them that risking their permanent health condition is worth that one time gamble, repeatedly with more than one person.

(7) And finally, never underestimate the stupidity and self serving logic of bottom feeders who are likely the reason that the CDC numbers of incurable gonhorrhea and now, resurging numbers of syphilis are exploding in the community, not just with providers.

 
Almost forgot:

DATY: lesbian communities are your best statistical source for STD's transmitted through oral-vaginal routes. So far, nearly none except herpes. Look it up yourself. Do NOT take anyone's word for it from here, especially if they are male and trying to say otherwise.

Rimming: Unless they have a bleeding hemorrhoid or you have bleeding gums, creating a transmission route for HIV, Hepatitis A is your worst case scenario. Gonorrhea and syphilis?  

"Gonorrhea and chlamydia don't transmit easily between partners during analingus, but it is possible."

"The most infectious part of syphilis is the chancre, a small, painless sore during the primary stage of infection. Mucous patches in the mouth during the secondary stage are also highly infectious. Rashes can also be the cause of a transmission.

A guy does not need to ejaculate in order for transmission to occur during unprotected sex, just skin-to-skin rubbing."

 
If you want to know how pervasive and easily transmitted STD's are with uncovered penis - go to any gay men's health site and look up STD prevention. Statistics are based on numbers, not magical thinking.

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Then the problem isn't the discussion but that nagging voice in the back of your head that is telling you that it is just a matter of time and stupid luck that you haven't had this conversation with your doc by now.