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etiquette after the session? no nos?
So i recently saw a provider and after our session we stated that we'd like to see each other again. Got home was fixing to write a review and i called the agent that booked the appointment with me and my provider. I was wondering if this is appropriate or not. I know myself as a male will get enjoyment out of the session given that the provider is from a well reviewed agency / provider. But half the enjoyment is ensuring that my provider is enjoying the session with me as well... I am in this hobby to hopefully learn a few things about pleasing women. So i called the agent to thank her for setting me up with a wonderful time with my provider and asked if she could talk to the provider and ask for feedback for anything else i can do to make our future engagements (hopefully there will be more) more enjoyable for her. Is that uncommon for a client to do? The agent told me to call back later after she talked to her and i have... but has yet to pick up the phone or return my calls. Im hoping i didnt say or do anything wrong during the session / calling to thank the agent. Or at least no one has told me anything negative. I also read that the providers like receiving little gifts to show that your thinking of them... you know kinda like they really WERE your GF. like bottle of wine, gift cards, etc. so i may end up getting my future providers a little something in the future. Me personally if you take care of me i like to show my appreciation of you in some sort of way. i am just worried i am no longer a welcome client and / or got blacklisted cuz i called and asked that. i only want my provider to enjoy the session as much as me. and i ask cuz i want an honest opinion. Any advice? thanks!
-- Modified on 9/15/2010 3:12:33 AM
I think that is a very common practice.
Now, as to requesting advice from her as to how you can be a better client? That's a bit risky as you are putting her in a no-win situation. If she should criticize something that you are touchy about, you might not want to see her. On the other hand, if she says that you are too perfect to ever change, it might come off as ass-kissing and sound disingenuous, so you might not want to see her for that.
I wouldn't go there. There's no reason to.
Perhaps, if there is a gal that you get to know for a long time (years), and you have a very open type of relationship, you could ask her for her honest opinion on something so sensitive, and I'm not even sure of that.
And yes, gals do like gifts. Many gals have lists on their sites of various gifts you can bring.
I'm not sure how agencies work, but as a independent provider I like to know a client hasn't forgot about me.(I dislike constantly e-mailing them asking if they want to see me because I feel naggy!) I also like it when a client asks what I like. I want to please him, but it's sweet when he wants to please me as well!
Gifts and presents are welcomed by many girls. However be careful you don't overstep the bounds of your client status. If you start to get too clingy,too lovey or call too often or text too often(without setting up a meeting) then she might decide not to see you as some clients fall "in love" with us and it's red flags!I know this personally....
I recently had an AMAZING time with a gal via Los Angeles Backpage. I texted her a few hours later to tell her what a greta time I had and she responded in kind. I think it is perfectly appropriate to acknowledge her and your enjoyment. I always ask how I can make my provider feel good as I do not like being selfish in such matters.
Since I'm quite new to this a provider (independent), I was wondering if the etiquette of a provider emailing a client to say thank you for a wonderful meeting would be acceptable? Or would it best to wait to hear from the client first? Thinking about it now, I don't see any harm emailing a client to show appreciation, but is that common practice? If this is a dumb (obvious common sense) question, I apologize...hehe
I would be very flattered. I met my very first provider about 3 weeks ago and she texted me to see if I made it home okay. I know the boundaries; she was very sweet to think of me and I appreciate her courtesy.
no more inputs? although i do appreciate the guidance i have above... would like more insight. thanks!
Unfortunately for me I haven't found a good provider yet. My first 2 times out I got ripped off, so no need to call/email a polite thank you. But when I do find the right provider I will definitely let her know that she is truely appreciated. People in general like to hear good things about themselves, but like the lady said, don't go overboard.
I think most folks are OK with some brief, after the session, contact. However, the issue of unsolicited contact can be tricky. Guys need to be clear if they can/can't receive communications via whatever method. Ladies need to be up front about levels of acceptable side banter.Some ladies are of the ilk, "The timer is done, don't bother me" and others are VERY generous with their time.
I think calling an agency is problematic at best. They will have no issues with you calling to say you had a good time, and thanks. However, I think that asking them to be an intermediary for you won't work. IMO
I find most ladies will send a short e-mail thanking me. With so many ladies now available and without unlimited funds these are now the ladies I will repeat with. Ladies who don't show some appreciation I assume don't need my business.
I always drop a text or two to let aprovider know how good a time i had. I keep it short and simple. Ialso like to please the ladies, but I askthem while I'm there what she likes or dislikes. I do bring gifts, but nothing to personal or extravagant. Usualy ibring food because I'm a chef. i will also bring flowers or somthing of that nature. so far they all enjoy the food gifts the most.
I'm still a noob, but from what I'm quickly learning, the best follow-up to a nice time with a provider is an honest (and hopefully positive review), and booking another appointment.
thank you all for the input and more is welcome! but the main thing im worried about is that the agency / agent blacklisted me / i am not a welcome client anymore cuz i called and asked for some feedback or whatever... i mean she told me to call back after a certain time after she talked to my provider but has yet to answer the phone or call me back. like i said, i dont get offended easy from criticism that i myself ask for... cuz in the end i would like to better myself for the future and achieve what myself, the agent / agency, and the provider wants... a good / enjoyable time for everyone.
Asking for feedback shouldn't be a big deal. We're WOMEN OF COURSE WE LOVE GIFTS lol......I love flowers, earrings, cd's, a purse w/e .... so yeah if all you're asking is for a little feedback doesn't seem inappropriate to me.
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