A couple of days ago I contacted a provider through the form on her website. I haven't heard anything back. I know that some can take a long time to respond, so I'll give it time.

My question is about etiquette. The provider asked for referrals, as well as for certain personal information (age, etc). If I don't hear back from her, is it proper to contact her to ask if she got the referrals she needed, or if age was a problem? Or should I just move on?

I'd be particularly interested in knowing because I've only seen one provider this year, although I've seen her several times. If she's not providing the proper referrals, that's something I'd want to know about

if you get the same response, i e, none, it's time to move on.  She probably does not want to see you for whatever reason.

Swim

Perhaps a reason why providers are taking a lot longer to get back to you ( I'm glued to my phone so I get back to gentlemen right away with the exception to those who don't meet screening criteria). I would say give her a couple of more days perhaps she is on vacation/busy/Xmas shopping, if she doesn't get back to you within that time I would start looking elsewhere. Read her website and ads entirely, perhaps two or more references are required and you only seem to have one or as you mentioned, she only sees certain age gap..don't get discouraged.. Tons of ladies on TER who would probably be a good match for you!

After a few days, I would follow up.  I have had email get lost in cyber space or go to my spam folder.  It happens.  If that doesn't get results, move on.

Abbey