Hi, so I found an ad for a girl that I liked and called her, we then texted back and forth. Everything was on until she asked for a "provider ID" (maybe? I deleted the texts before writing this).

She'd said she needed that to "feel safe." I get that.  So I texted "it's my first time, I don't know what that is." (which is true)

And then she said no go.

So, how do I get verified or whatever she needs?

Thanks for the help. I'm bummed it didn't work out this time as I've been working my nerve up to now.

She is looking for a reference from another lady. Bit of a catch 22.  Check out P411 or date check. I used P411 to get started. They verified me ad then I found a lady who was "newbie friendly" and willing to accept just my p411. There are a lot of those out there. After you visit a lady you can ask for an "ok" or a reference which can be used later in the future.

If have not yet already done so, look at the getting started FAQs under the life ring at the top of the web page.

she wants a reference, which you do not have.  Preferred411 is the best verification site for dealing with newbies.  Their providers can indicate that they are newbie friendly.  Safety is a primary concern.  P411 has a toll free number you can call, and Gina will work with you to get you verified.  You will prob have to give up some personal info to her, but it's better to give it up once, than to give it to several providers.

Remember, no matter where you find a provider, do your research, check her pics, her phone #, and her reviews.

Swim

And ask her what she needs on her end in order to get comfortable booking you.

Thanks. This is a big help.