Everyone talks about leaving cash in an envelope on the bureau.  I have always left folded cash under a cell phone or similar object.  Does anyone really care?  Thanks for your reply.

And some women like it left in the bathroom...I assume they go in there and count it...but then what?  Do you leave it there, or put it in your purse?  

I assume the point of the envelope is a sort of LE barrier, but how would that work when you've already asked the person to use an envelope--isn't that as blatant as money left in the open?  I can't imagine an envelope being the difference between getting busted or not...

Or is the envelope just a 'classier' touch?  Both parties can pretend there's not a wad of cash waiting for the lady...
And you don't know if you've been shorted until the sessions over, right?  With cash left in the open, at least you can give it a surreptitious eyeballing...

I've noticed that most providers use the envelope...I've thought about doing this--but first I'd really like to know why!

Personally, I've never used an envelope (another example of my laziness).  Some people do feel that it offers a measure of protection against LE.  I'm no attorney, but I think that you should go in KNOWING that it's not LE, and then the envelope becomes just a prop.

It would be dumb to risk pissing them off by not following a simple procedure. It's not like an envelope is expensive. I just make it standard procedure.

The last chick I visited I forgot the damn envelope. I had to make a quick detour to an ATM. As long as I was getting the cash, I took a deposit envelope too and gave her that, LOL.

Once she's comfortable with you, I don't think they care (or have never encountered one who did, and I usually bag the envelope after a first visit unless its been a while since the last visit and she may not remember me), but for the initial visit its always best to do exactly as requested.

If it's been requested, and if it's a return visit, perhaps not as much. However, if it's your first time with her, why start out showing the lady you can't even respect one simple request? It might make her wonder if there are any other conditions or requests you will refuse, hence making her feel uncomfortable or even unsafe. That makes it less likely you're going to have the type of date you're looking for.

try using a mayonnaise jar.

when I read a lady's website, and it says put the money in an envelop I follow her directions. I have no idea how this tradition got started, but if the ladies want it in an envelop, I'm gonna give it to her in an envelop. Sometimes, I put a thank you card with the money in the envelop, the ladies really like that.

read the etiquette page on her website. Some ladies prefer a gift card. A few no envelope. Some sealed, some unsealed, some with something written on it.

Since an unsealed plain envelope is de regueur I would go that way in absence of other directives.

Even if her web site doesn't say so, I still use an envelope.

Simply put, it matters if the provider says it matters.  I actually have one fav who requests NO envelope since she had a guy stuff one with fake money once.

Regardless, if the lady specifies an envelope it is best to use one.

I always separate the donation, secure with a paper clip & put in my key pocket.  
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and bring it full of those new $1 coins. would probably need more than 1 mayo jar tho.

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But the mayonaise jar isn't big enough for all the pennies....

I use chinese red envelopes instead of regular envelopes.  Most of the providers seem to like the cool designs.  (Or they're just humoring me...)

i sometimes do and sometimes don't.  but i agree with the tasteful comment - it always feels weird counting the cash while the girl is waiting.  that's always an awkward moment.