I have never don anything like this before ever in my life. Any help you could give me would really be so great. I am 31 years old I am A SWM and I live in the state of GA. I have many quetions to ask.
My first one is can I call a provider and ask her if its ok if we get to know one anther by talking over the phone a frue times before we meet one anther. Or is that out of the quetion to ask her. Also when you call what should you say to her. Also how do you find out about her prices do you ask before you meet with her or how dose this work.
 Also I would want to do outcalls. I am a little shy untill I get to know someone. I have always wanted to do this but just have not had the nerve to call a provider I just do not have a clue what I can and can not ask or talk about with her. I am not a bad guy at all I have a great and loving hart and would not hurt anyone at all. But the thing that scares me the most is getting a provider that is a cop. If you want to call me a sqar that ok I am just one of those people whe do not want to cross the line with the law at all. I think that the goverment should not bother adults. I really think its best if they just worry with the rappers,murders,robbers and things like that but thats just me.
Also what do I say or do when she comes to my place other then Hi please come and make your self at home and its very very nice to meet you. I think you look so amazing tonight. Is that what I should say I am not really shour. Now I am no Tom Cruirse by any meens. I am just a Averge joe that has alot of bad luck with women meaning I can not get a date to save my life.Thanks.

OK.  I'll try to answer all of your questions.

First of all, try to relax.  The hobby is supposed to be fun!  It is nerve racking the first time but does get better.

No, you can't call her and "get to know each other first."  This is not like on-line dating.  Time is important to the ladies.

When you do call, give your name, perhaps where you saw her ad and that you would like to make an appointment.  As someone who is new, be prepared to give some personal information (name, phone number, age, etc.).  Only give out as much information as you feel comfortable with.

Do not ask about donation or any thing of a sexual nature.  The donation is clearly stated (most of the time) on her web site.  It is always on her TER profile page.

Be yourself...it sounds like you are going to pass out from nerves...LOL.  You may not be ready yet...to get up the nerve.  You will know when the time is right.

If you use a well reviewed provider there is no chance that you will have an LE problem.  Do yourself a favor and purchase a TER VIP membership.  Worth the money.

What do you say when she gets there....be a gentleman.  Treat it like any other date.  Put you best foot forward.  Be yourself.  You can tell her that it is your first time and you are nervous.  She will help you get through it.

Now relax and enjoy!

Boy I wish the net was around when I first started.

At this stage, your best means getting to know the ladies prior to meeting them is to lurk on the regional board.  Since your in GA, try reading the Atlanta board.  It seems to be active, with a number of ladies taking part.  You can really learn alot about there personalities from reading their posts.  However, until you've been reading for a while, you should not post.  Once you get the lay of the land, and have had time to do your research, you should be relaxed enough to make you first call.

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Thank you all for all the great info and help on this one. Again thank you all so very much.

"I have never done anything like this before ever in my life."
Well join the club, at one point none of us ever did this before, we all had a first time.  I have only had one session myself so I am not the expert but I think I know many of the apprehensions  you are having as I had many of them also.


"can I call a provider and ask her if its OK if we get to know
one anther by talking over the phone a few times before we meet one another.
Or is that out of the question to ask her. "
Well if you catch her at a good time she may spend ten minutes talking with you over the phone.  But if it really important to you set an appointment for an hour and go over and talk to her for the entire hour.  You will pay her full rate but if it that important to you then do it.  As long as you are paying her full rate you can do just about anything you want.  But let me tell you this.  Apart from the 10 minute get to know each other talk at the beginning of each session guess what, you do not really want to talk to these ladies to in depth.  Why,  Well two possible scenarios I can imagine:  One you will learn of her recent trip to Europe and before that her recent week in Hawaii, you then realize what a looser you are who has never left your hometown.  Or two she my tell you about how her model looking boyfriend does not spend enough time with her and only comes by to give her a good drilling with his 10 incher.  Now you will not believe her when she tells you your 6 incher is the biggest she has ever seen.  So to me I really do not see much of an upside to really getting to know her all that well.  And trust me on this dude, they do not want to hear all your deepest thoughts either, and they definitely do not want to hear all about your problems.   If you want to really talk with someone see a therapist, they are a little cheaper.  For providers it is their job, would you not rather have fun at work?  Have fun along with them, save the meaning of life conversations for someone you are not paying a few days pay to to listen to your drivel.

I was also a little scared of the phone conversation, my solution, did it all by e-mail, first time I talked to her was when I was waiting outside her apartment complex.

"Also when you call what should you say to her. "
Hi, My name if Joe Schmoe, I would like to find out if you have an hour available on Friday in the afternoon.
Think of it like setting up a dental appointment, do not say anything you would not say to a doctors receptionist.  She will ask the questions from that point.  
If you cannot find any info on her rate anywhere it is not out of the question to ask:
"How much is the donation for an hour"

It IS out of the question to ask:
"How much for a Blow Job?"

"Also how do you find out about her prices do you ask before you meet with her or how dose this work."
Well it should be listed on her web page if not it is listed on her profile page on this website but you have to be a VIP member to view them.  Go pay $20 to get access to that info for a month, it will really help you in your search, do not stress about charging your card either, you can cancel any time and these are reputable folks.

"Also I would want to do outcalls."
That’s fine, it may be a little less nerve racking in your own home court.  Just remember a few things: Lock up or hide any valuables,  have clean towels and a new bar of soap (or even some fruity scented liquid body wash) for her if she would like to shower up afterward, clean your bathroom up real nice like guests are coming.  Have clean or preferable new sheets on your bed.  Offer her a drink of something when she gets there, perhaps ahead of time find out what she likes to drink.  Put on some nice music.   See if she likes chocolate as well, if she does get some good stuff.  And just in case you are wondering, for your first meeting no illegal drugs should be involved either on yours or her part.


"I am a little shy until I get to know someone. "
They are professionals, they know how to overcome shyness. I am the same way and also a little ashamed of my body but after talking with her for 10 minutes and her feeling all up on me I could not believe how fast my cloths came off with no apprehension.   It’s quite amazing!

"  I have always wanted to do this but just have not had the nerve to call a provider I just do
not have a clue what I can and can not ask or talk about with her."
That is really what the reviews on this site are for.  They do the speaking for the provider.  When reading a set of them for one provider you can see a pattern of how this particular woman operates.  This is by in large how your encounter will go also.  So to that end there is really nothing to talk about, sit back and let it happen.  


" I am not a bad guy at all I have a great and loving hart and would not hurt anyone at all."
I think that would describe a great many guys in this hobby.  If I could go off on a tangent here:  I see person ads by women all the time saying "I just want a nice guy"  they are only saying this because they have gotten royally screwed over by all  the jerks in this world and when these women are finally a little older, a little heavier they come calling for all the nice guys.  Well I say "Where were you when I was 24?"  She would not give us nice guys the time of day.  Well screw them I am getting my share of 22 year olds anyway I can.  All right Tangent over.   But let me just say this many of these providers are used to seeing very nice guys on a regular basis so you have to bring on all your politeness and niceness you can muster.  Also many of the guys these providers see actual give them really great sex.  This is something to strive for but by no means are you expected to give them 3 orgasms in one hour.  I would think they would appreciate it but come on lets face it not all of us are that good at this, practice makes perfect though.

"But the thing that scares me the most is getting a provider that is a cop. "
It is a real possibility.   But remember there is no law stating the act of sex between two people is illegal (all right some particular acts are illegal)  The charge of prostitution only comes from when you arrange to have sex with someone for money.  If you never mention money or sex, and she never mentions money or sex did a crime ever take place?  Well in the real sense of the law yes, as you had an expectation of sex.  But guess what cops cannot prosecute you on your expectations (as long as you do not tell them what your expectations were).  You simple invited a woman over to your house, you had sex with each other, and before she came over you had left some money in an envelope on your coffee table that you cannot seem to find anymore, oh well, no big deal it wasn’t all that much money, no need to get into a huff, or file a police report.


"  If you want to call me a square that OK I am just one of those people who
do not want to cross the line with the law at all."
Well it is breaking the law no question.  But if you want to rationalize it to yourself just think of it the way all the providers advertise it "this fee is for my time and companionship only"  so she is just coming to your house to sit there and talk with you, nothing illegal about that.  But it is the darndest thing every woman you hire to come and talk with you starts making moves on you without you even hinting at it.   Must be that new cologne you are wearing !!


"Also what do I say or do when she comes to my place other then Hi please come and make your self at home and its very very nice to meet you. I think you look so amazing tonight. Is that what I should say I am not really shure. "
Yea that’s a good start, just talk to her like you would anyone else.  Find out where she grew up, she may ask you about what you like to do for fun, See if she has seen any good movies lately.  During this conversation she may have already kissed you a few times and rubbed your leg or arm.  At this point you may have a hard time coming up with any answers as the blood is rushing somewhere besides your brain.  Offer her a tour of your place, first stop the bedroom.  At this point she may excuse herself to the bathroom and she will tell you to get comfortable, in other words get naked.  Or she will just start tearing off your cloth right then, could go either way, either way is good.


" Now I am no Tom Cruise by any means. I am just a Average Joe that has alot of bad luck with
women meaning I can not get a date to save my life."
Boy you and I are VERY similar!!

Here is a response I gave to a fellow newbie:
" in my entire life I have NEVER been with anyone as beautiful as ANY of these women. "
And do you think the rest of the reviewers (or I) have either? Listen if any of us had even the smallest chance of getting women of this caliber we would be out trying to get them not looking for them on this website. With the exception of some of the married guys not all of us are the best specimens you ever laid your eyes on. I have a feeling providers know this, this is why part of the screening process is not "what is your height and weight, what movie star do you look like". In fact I would bet providers get a little suspicious of you if you are too good looking "this guy's hot, he does not have to pay for it, he must be the law"


" why would this beautiful woman want to do ANYTHING with me."
Well because it is her job quite frankly, you have to do things at work you do not want to do right? Yes it makes her job alot easier if a male model shows up for her service, but she knows she has to take what comes. No provider is going to say "oh you are disgusting, look at that belly" If they did would you not just turn around and walk away with your money? The answer will always be "you look great", is it a lie, who cares it makes you feel good for at least a while anyway until you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror next to her thin body (now that's shocking). So just be thankful these particular beautiful women have chosen this occupation, and do not give your own looks another thought.

" I'm an older man, a little on the heavy side.. not fat.. but like most in my age bracket a little bulge around the middle."
Well at least you have an excuse, I am a younger man (33) on the heavy side as well (6' 1" 300 lb. 44 inch waist) I made a joke to the first provider I was with "Don't get excited by my body when I take off my shirt" she said "you are perfect just like I like my men" was it true? who knows, who cares, she acted like it was and that is all that counts.

" These women could have any man they want, any time they want and i know it wouldn't be me."
But remember the guys they want would not pay them for their time because after all the guys they want can go and get 6 other women just as hot for free, and they do.

Just remember Niceguy, you are paying her to spend time with you, fulfill your fantasy, and meet your needs, not the other way around.  Most of the well-reviewed ladies you find here take this responsibility seriously.

Don't be nervous, but if you are when you do meet your lady, just follow her lead, she will know what you want, and will guide you there.

Still it will help you alot if you can specifically identify the services you want and the type of lady you wish to see.  Use these factors to limit your search in the database.  This will increase your chance of finding the right lady for you.  The more you are aware of what you want and are comfortable with yourself will enhance your experience.

Of course there are a few rappers I'm beginning to like.  Their music needs good melodies  to be likable, not retread 60s & 70s music to rap over!



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