Every once in a while I get a provider who I really want to see that wants my name and I'm uncomfortable giving it. Is my discomfort exaggerated?  I don't have a SO to worry about and I'm not in a situation where if my name got out I'll be in trouble unless it's le.

but if there is nothing she can really do to hurt you if she ever goes all BSC on you, is there really any harm in giving out your real name?

Why do you want to take a chance? Unless you're from boringtown in Fly-over-country, there should be plenty of choices around.

If you are self-employed and in a relationship situation where it would not really bother you if it ended...then the risk is not that high.  

life could become public some day and you don't want the media to be able to find any dirt.

Not necessarily true! Even though I don't have any statistical data for the whole industry, I only came across one girl who knew about software for erasing data. The girl might think that she deleted clients' info on a laptop, but even an amateur can bring back all that supposedly deleted data in case of a stolen/lost device. Hanlon's razor might be at work here aka "Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity."

Ok granted, the risks are "reasonably low" but the risks of a hooker being killed are a LOT lower and I don't see anyone making light of those risks.  

who want personal info. I've found that most do but that's coming from my experiences with the ladies I know. I do require full names.

giving out your personal info to a well reviewed provider who does thorough screening than seeing a gal who does little or no screening.   In the former, there is a very low chance of having that info used against you, that's true.  But in the latter you stand a decent chance of running up to either a flake, or worse, LE.

There are tons of ways to screen without using personal info and the majority of providers who screen use those methods.  

discretion isn't the same as anonymity.

I agree. I know quite a few that require full names. I personally won't see anyone without multiple very good references from established providers. Newbies get upset with me because they will offer to send photo ID or anything else for verification but I need references to make me feel comfortable. If someone has a great list of refs I'm fine without all his personal info. I'm ok with the fact my requirements don't match with some guys comfort zones. I'm not going to be a good match with everyone and it's silly if everyone is not as comfortable as possible going into a first meeting.

With a 411 profile and multiple reviews on TER, there has not been a need for me to give out my name to anyone.

Good point software for easing date.Delete data in case of stolen/lost device.... I don't have reviews because my clients don't want to write reviews on pay to play business its Illegal service. No free services with professionals.No professionals should be given no private information to no one.Professionals don't want clients giving out private information

Why shouldn't the same logic apply to guys?  If he is a well-established TER or P411 member, then ladies should have nothing to be concerned about.

Agreed.  A lady could get busted and agree to sell out some guys, a ladies e-mail or website could get hacked and every guy who gave her his personal information could get exposed.  There are a lot of risks.

Agree.  Folks pay good money for P411 and other services.  The whole point of using those services is so that you don't have to provide your personal information.  Many ladies will claim to require personal information, but once you attempt to set up a multi-hour appointment for a few thousand dollars they tend to change their minds.  

Agree.  For most guys, there should be no need to provide personal information.
Probably only a very small percentage of ladies require it (1-2%) if you have references.
Too many fish in the sea.
Guys can get set up by hookers.    
Many ladies also reinvent themselves because they either went BSC or did something stupid.  
Established or well-reviewed providers go BSC, too.  The get bitter, cynical, and even despise what they do or some of the clients that they see.  Some get jealous.  
There is arguably just as much risk that a hooker is going to stalk a client as there is that a client is going to stalk a hooker (which is rarely discussed).  A lady that you have seen may reach out to you, and you may make up an excuse not to see her, and then she may find out that you saw someone else and be pissed.  Some ladies will watch to see who you review and what other ladies you see.  Some will access your P411 profile without any reason to see if you saw another lady around the time that you told her that you couldn't see her.  They can get emotional, irrational, and retaliate.      
This is a business where there are a lot of emotions involved, which can impair judgment.  Even with established providers or ladies that have been in the business for a while.  Happens a lot as they get older, less attractive, and have fewer people telling them how beautiful they are and attempting to schedule appointments.  

and see plenty of married guys. So I disagree with you.. Sometimes I really think some of you guys really don't get it. I'm not in the minority here. Most ladies I know do require full names. Sure every once in a while a gentleman and I don't  meetbecause he is unwilling to give me his last name. So far this year this has happened a total of two times!

But you ARE in the minority. There are many many more providers that don't require real info, than those that do. Now I won't say only a "few" require that info like the other poster said, but it is definitely a minority.  

Since we can not see into the future, we can't forsee all potential problems. I feel it's best to minimize our risk by not taking any action that may increase it. Although the potential risk is low, I would not give out my real name. Why take the chance?

If you are uncomfortable providing personal information, you need to seek providers who do not screen.  

Screenwriters based off of these replies.  
Providers are allowed to have their rules to meet and if you are comfortable with what is asked of you provide it. If not then continue your search, simple.
You guys truly underestimate the amount of men with records who contact us but nope we are just conniving b****** just waiting to ruin your lives.

I support your position.  Everyone has to assess their own risk level.  It depends on your position in life and the quality of the women you are picking.  The way I see it, is in many instances the women who are more on the high end also have something to lose so the chances of them "outing" you are very slim.  If you see lower end cheaper women then you might get blackmailed.   I think like most things in life you have to use your judgment and you get what you pay for.

Wow... You're making a quantum leap from "not providing personal info to the provider" to "seeing providers who don't screen." This is a newbie forum so why not simply stop browbeating a newbie into BS?

Be that as it may.

The girls I have seen have required my full name, which upon arrival they have check my ID in every case. If the girl in question has a personal website, then go check to see what they require to screen you, and verify you are you.  

Maybe not in the minority of hookers who are active on TER, but most definitely in the minority of hookers that have P 411 profiles. I have seen HUNDREDS of P 411 hookers, obviously a number much higher than you could know, and of the several hundred providers I have met through P 411 less than ten, much less than ten, have ever asked for my real name as part of their screening.

Many ladies use P411 as a layer of verifying a potential new client.  You have no way of knowing I'm in the minority of ladies or not. And for Newbies wanting to see reviewed ladies yes alternative ways of verifying usually include info like a real name.

I talk about this requirement all the time and it comes down to personal safety.

No fair trying to change the subject to "Newbies" the fact of the matter is that although a vocal minority of providers active on the boards are trying to change the narrative that "most" P 411 providers share their views, the fact of the matter is that out of about 500 providers I have booked through P 411 only around 1% of them have ever mentioned asking for anything else above and beyond checking out my profile and perhaps quietly contacting some of my "okays"