most of the ladies have probably pretty much seen it all... if anything surprises them, it is a true gentleman, savvy in bed, who cares for his partner.
Just putting myself in a provider's shoes, if I heard what you said above, I would probably be thinking "Oh shit, another one"

It pays to be good at it and also to be very careful that you are not too rough (lay off the spine!)

I find that giving a massage is a good way to get one from her and some are very good at it.  It's a wonderful form of foreplay.

Here's a hint:  Bring a very high quality massage oil with you, almond oil is the best.  It's pricey and somewhat hard to find (try health food stores) but worth every penny you pay for it.  It's actually good for the skin.  Stay away from baby oils, they're horrible for the skin.

Be careful about fingering.  Make sure your nails are very short and clean and be as gentle as you can be.  That's a discussion first type of thing.

It's always a good idea to mix up the routine; prevents a rut from forming.

Most ladies like to start with a BJ (BBBJ or CBJ) so they can inspect the equipment.  After all, if you have "stuff" around your Johnson, you aren't getting inside the cave.

I really have to chuckle at the - I'm not even sure what to call it - irony? cluelessness?

In the past few days, you have posted messages agonizing over STD risks on both this board, AND the general discussion board. In this post however, you posit a question about sticking your unclean, bacteria laden, untrimmed fingers into a lady's who-who. I don't suppose you realize that your fingers are far more of a risk to her health than any of your other body parts do you? Which is why I, as well as many providers say "no no" to fingers.

Tell me again how civillian women, unaware of such risk factors, are somehow safer than providers?

I do not think there would be any problems