I'm newer to the hobby and I'm noticing it has the potential to become VERY addicitive ( okay i guess if your a multi- millionare with all the time in world, who cares)I tell myself I'll take off a week or so, then damn... somebody new and beautiful shows up on EROS or elsewhere and i make the call! I start the day with no plans for the hobby, but there i go for drive to meet some one. Perhaps it's because Im newer, it will slow down?? can nay one relate to this?? thanks

but yes, it will probably slow down a bit, once you realize that there are plenty of fish in the sea, and always someone interesting around the next turn in the road.....

and the 5 ladies last week was a bit of an aberration '

You're like a kid in a candy store, except this store is filled with pussy, tits, and ass. Who could ask for anything more. I think we all go through what you're going through at first. I know I did. You'll most likely find that things will settle out, and you'll find a comfort level. That's not to say that you won't exceed that comfort level now and then, because you probably will, but that's okay, too.

Enjoy the ride.

i think your exactly right.. thanks

Im on the pace as you....lol

I am experiencing the same thing. I have bee having about twice the numbers of appointments per month that I had planned and every time I get on ter I find another provider that I would like to visit.  I have been doing this for only three months and I am adding providers to me "to see" list faster than I am visiting them.  It is a nice problem to have.

Yes, addition sure is possible!  When I started, I promised I'd not do anything stupid.  Since then I've realized how I wasn't as careful as I should be & am now.  Making good sized ATM withdrawals can raise flags to family, even if not illegal.  You do have to exert some self control.
Do not spend money that should go for something else...  food, utilities, moragae...  
I have a budget...  I have slightly increased my cash pocket money each week.  I stash the excess & have a play date when I accumulate enough.  
I have had a few binges...  when traveling.  Several times within a week or 2.  But that's the exception.
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excellent advice, thanks. yes i know what you mean, even my bankers have noticed my constant withdrawals lately. I have my own business so... it might help

How do you make a "too see" list?

After a little while, you will reach a comfort level of hobbying frequency.  For me, it averages to one date every 3 or 4 weeks.  Work and finances are my limiting factors.  If you have to dip into personal needs money (rent, clothing, food, etc.) then you have become addicted.  I only use discretionary funds for play.

fucked and sucked,and you can afford it, why worry about whether or not it's addicting.  Of course it is!!!!!  

So just go ahead and enjoy what you can afford.  I know I do.


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It like a kid in a candy store but your personal finances, as you suggest, will slow you down.

I do advance searches and when I see a profile that looks interesting I print out the profile and reviews and pictures from their website and put them on my list of providers that I would like to see.

that you'd like to see, at the top of her profile page, you'll find a button that says "Add to Favorites". Click that button. Then, go to "Account Manager", and click on "My Favorites".

Pretty Simple.

Also, I believe you have to be a VIP member - either through paying or from review credits - in order to have access to the VIP feature.

I just made VIP through reviews.  I was not aware of the Favorites feature so thanks a lot.  I appreciate the info.

I would say that the key is to treat the hobby as a business.  Put aside money that is only to be used for hobbying.  If no funds are available just wait until you build the fund back up.   That sort of keeps you in line and prevents you from dipping into money that you should be using for your responsibilities.

I understand your concern.

I am brand new on this great site and haven't been for too long in the USA. I was born here and raised abroad... A group of friends used to travel Caribbean and South American countries for... I guess you call it here "the hobby". The advantage is that its not 'frown' upon by society (and sometimes flat out legal) so it felt (in my mind) safer. Some in our group REALLY got addicted an would travel every other weekend or so...

W/ plane tickets, hotel fares, etc that's crazy money. I never got that addicted and kept discipline, at least as much as I could...

Moral of the story: Different personalities respond differently to stimulation. Same w/ alcohol, drugs, etc. If you feel you have a vulnerable personality- take stricter precautions please!

Otherwise... enjoy the ride. I am a "listener" in the site for now but will hopefully learn the ropes soon!

If it is something that has a negative impact on your life and you don't feel that you can completely control it then it might be seen as addictive behavior.

A person with a sexual related addiction might consider some type of counseling to help understand it.

I am newer as well and am hoping my current frequency is temporary madness (based on my personal current circumstances, I have a "window" to freely enjoy this).  I feel confident it will settle to twice a month (it's only 3-4 a month now).  Only once have I done more than one a week.  But yes, it can be an addiction and I was even warned by a very wonderful person that it can be addictive on both sides and to keep priorities in life straight.  Just remember to do that -- and stick to a budget!  My problem is I like longer dates rather than 1 hour romps.  Ka-ching!