I'm aware that the convention is that unless it's a "bait and switch" situation, or you sense physical danger, you either go through with the session or pay the lady for her time. You don't just bail because her hairdo reminds you of a girl you didn't like in Junior High, or whatever.

It's bad form to bail except for bait and switch or danger, because the opportunity cost for the provider is so high. She might have already incurred some costs, like cost of a room, Uber, and even a babysitter for her kid, and she may have turned down another offer because you booked with her for a specific time. Not all appointments are likely to be great experiences, but that's life. Post a review and she will either learn from her mistakes or lose some business as a result.

Why even ask this??

He could have given her something for her time, and/or the room (if she'd gotten it just for him). Then just said that he'd suddenly gotten a terrible migraine, or some such excuse. And left, without wasting the entire fee on a potentially uncomfortable session.

She was a BP girl who offers a 15-minute rate, and he gave her a 7 anyway. He was looking for a bargain and got what he paid for.

I can see exactly why you replied the way you did.  

It isn't up to her to create a great experience, and I can except that I won't always get my money's worth. But isn't it up to the provider to be there, mentally? At what point does my obligation to compensate her for her time become her problem?

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...say the girl was high in my review. That falls under their rules against accusing them of criminal activities. Aside from the obvious and robbery, which for whatever reason don't count.

I found her through P411. I paid the exact same hourly rate I've paid for every other GFE, save two who were more expensive. I see now there's a 15 minute rate on her TER page, and that would be a red flag for me now. But I didn't notice at the time. My bad.

That's why I asked. Also, because I've read reviews and comments about intoxicated girls from more experienced hobbyists. I wouldn't book time with a girl like that again, but you never know. It could happen with someone else.  


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But I wasn't, actually. I was only asking questions, arguing, trying to have an open discussion, and conveying my experience. Which is limited, but different from what I've been hearing in certain cases. Which leads to the argument. But that's by no means schooling.

If you bargain hunt and get what you pay for, in some cases (though I maintain not mine). What about when the client does everything properly and the provider still acts unprofessionally?

It depends on when, and what.

most likely have a bad experience.

Also, I should add her TER rates are misleading. I paid 300/h, which is perfectly middle of the road for a GFE in my area.

Judge Judy would say you used the service you have to pay for! You partook in this lady's time. She provided a service and you have to pay! "if you don't like the service she provided that's not her problem. You used her service you have to pay!!"

Babe, you gotta know that not all girls/boys who do this 'job' are going to 'act professionally'. There are no colleges or universities that teach the business of 'ho-ing' (or escorting or whatever you want to call it). Some don't even realize it's a 'business'. It is something that can be done to close the gap between being poor and getting by. It can be done between real life jobs.. There are no standards..only ones set up within specialized groups..like 'hobbyists' for instance. Or organized 'escorts'. Everyone else just assumes you provide what is expected on a very primal and (very) short-term basis something physical that person needs at that time.

The issue is whether I have to pay if I bail before the session begins. The case of the babysitter is different, in that services have already been rendered, albeit poorly.

Of course there are standards, like the one you expected me to abide by in your post above. That goes both ways, provider and client alike. She expects me to pay her, I expect her not to be high.  

He wasn't talking about staying and completing the mission. He was talking about turning around at the door. In that case your analogy would be if the babysitter showed up stoned to watch your kids. You not only have the right to send her home with no pay, but you have the responsibility to do so!

Although there are sometimes some very dumb answers, and then again there are the occasional troll posts "pretending" to be a newbie looking for answers.

Because it seemed like he was trying to start the thread not to gain insight into a situation, but to argue with what he perceived as the orthodoxy on this board (as he was doing in his post below... although in that case, he persisted - rather stubbornly - to misinterpret the advice he was given).