Reading a lot of reviews that talk about DATY until she cums. I like a little munch as part of the experience. But I'm wondering what's going on here. Not to be crass but I'm paying so I can cum. She is a very attractive, sexy woman but she's not my SO and, ahem, she is getting $300 to spend an hour with me. So isn't it OK for the focus to be on me?

And the rest of us will spend it our way...

...like to brag in their reviews.  They want you to believe they are such great lovers that they can even make a professional cum just from their magic tongues.

I'm sure a lot of those orgasms that guys think they gave the girls were faked, the guys just don't know it.  Besides, if you're licking up a storm down there, how much of that juice is your saliva, do we really know?  To answer your question, yes it's ok for the focus to be on you.  However, there a lot of us who enjoy giving oral as well as receiving it, me being one of them.  I like pleasuring her.

Swim

it had nothing to do with me really. I noticed her demeanor was different than usual. She must have been watching porn before I got there and was horny as hell. lol

I don't think most really care about that. In my experience, it seems like they rather please me. I guess it's easier on them.(keeping the roles defined that way)

Forget about the guys claiming that they give girls 2-3 O's via DATY. Reviews are to be taken with a grain of salt.
It's absolutely ok to ask for the focus to be on you and you should be able to request what you want.
As for me, I actually enjoy DATY, and it's not like I spend the whole time doing it... Any good provider knows how to manage the time to make sure you get what you want, so just enjoy yourself!

It's about you.

If you don't care about getting her off, no big deal.  I don't think most providers will care about that.

But I do think that women in general do tend to prefer a guy who pleases them, all other things being equal.  But it certainly isn't a requirement.

to please the client.  It IS all about you.  If you are one of MANY who seriously enjoys DATY, that's fine.  Let's not think that it still isn't about what you want.  So, you can just lay there and do nothing if you want.  However, if there's no connection and flow of personalities, it's going to be difficult for a lady to want to see you again.  

This may seem obvious, but it's not ok to think that gives you free reign to be rude.  Some guys think they can call me names (very few do, actually), and that may be sexy to them, but it's not ok with me if we have not discussed that.  

Communicate your desires!

Trinity

We're talking ego here, and to my way of thinking, if I get a gal to start screaming and her body shaking in spasms, then I feel like I just hit a jackpot in Vegas.

Call us egotistical idiots, I won't disagree, but it sure is a hell of a lot of fun.

Whether the gal is a good actress or really feeling it, I don't know and don't care.  All I know is that I love it.

But, to each, their own.

As others have noted above, it's your dime so within their boundaries, I've found all the good providers I've seen more than happy to have the session go the way you'd like!  Of course, if you're planning on seeing the girl again, putting a smile on her face may make her a little more responsive to your calls!  And as far as the legitimacy of their enjoyment, as anyone who's seen "When Harry Met Sally" knows, only she will ever REALLY know for sure!  That said, if some of the lovelies I've been with were acting, they were amazing at it!

Guess what guys - you are missing out on something very special if it's only about you. Sure we are paying to get off but believe it or not, there are women in this business who really do enjoy being the recipient of our attention, usually through DATY.
And you can be sure, if you are lucky enough to be with such a woman, there is a real sense of satisfaction in knowing that you are making the sexual contact wonderful for her . But more than that, you will reap the rewards of a companion whose womanly instincts for sensuality and love making kick into high gear as a response to being pleasured by a skilled gentleman.
Find these providers and if you make it great for her, it will be even better for you.