No, slipping the clerk $20 will get you no where. I travel for work all the time and I haven't stayed at a hotel in years that didn't ask for ID and a credit card for incidental expenses. I've also never had any trouble after the fact.

If you pay cash for the room the chances of any repercussions are slim.  Are they non-existent? No, of course not. Anything can happen.

Your best bet is to either do in calls or ask the lady you are seeing to get the room and reimburse her if you are doing what would normally be an out call for her.

One hotel mailed the bill to my home address and that started a cascade that ended up with my divorce.

Does anyone have any advice for getting a hotel room without running the risk of the SO finding out?  When ever I have checked into a room, I have been asked for driver's license and credit card for a deposit.

Would something like slipping the front desk guy/gal a 20 work to keep things anonymous?

Thanks

Is that supposed to be a helpful answer?

My fears are as follows: The credit card could be charged for a percieved problem -- houskeeping staff takes a drink from the mini bar, something gets pilfered from the room between guests and mine is the last card on file when it is discovered.  A friend had to get into a big, big shit fight with a hotel over a $200 charge because they were convinced someone smoked in a non-smoking room -- no one had smoked in her party.

Drivers license: someone finds something in the room and the hotel calls as a "service" to tell me they found my cuff link, cell phone, etc.  The hotel sends a courtesy post card in the "how was your stay?"  

So how about some helpful input?

Every hotel I have ever stayed at has required a driver's license and CC.  Asking someone to check you in anonymously just raises additional suspicion...not something you want when you're hobbying.  The only remedies I can think of are the following:

-Set up a separate email account that is only used for hotel bookings.
-Get a new CC that your SO won't know about and have all your statements emailed to the above address.  Hopefully you can set it up so that you receive the card when the SO is out of town or something.
-Upon check in tell the desk staff to only contact you by telephone or email should something come up after check out.  Just put your cell phone down as your only contact number.
-Use hotel chains that you often stay at for business and hobby in cities that you frequently go to for legitimate reasons.

If these steps aren't enough to cover your tracks, then I suggest you either quit hobbying or find another SO on account nosiness.

but getting a P.O. Box and a credit card from a local bank that accepts P.O. box to deliver CC statements might work. Risks? Yeah they are still there. Such as SO finding your USPS information.

One was to tell me that they had a cancellation and that I could stay another night (I'd asked in the morning).  The other was to tell me that I'd left something behind.  Both cases were non-hobby related and I got the calls on my cell.  I only mention it because just a month ago, I would have answered the question very differently.

Separate contact info and CC is definitely the way to go.

Some short stays will ask for a license and CC, some may not if you pay cash up front. It varies from one to the other and from one city/town to the next so it's hard to say. If you're looking for something quick that might be a route to explore.

But if you're looking to stay in a major hotel chain like a Holiday Inn, Marriott, etc you're likely stuck w/ the license & CC dilemma. Slipping the clerk a $20 is just going to get a laugh and draw attention/suspicion so don't even attempt it. Just use your hobby cell and hobby email, provide an alternate address for their records if you want (a buddies house, work, etc) and tell them you do not wish to receive anything via mail. I suppose you could provide a passport instead of your license, but that prob looks silly too.

If you're just looking to get the room to fuck in I think you're being a bit paranoid. Just double check the room before you leave to make sure you have everything you came in with and you should be fine. And unless you plan on tossing her around on every piece of furniture and throwing things around the room like a mosh pit I doubt you'll need to worry about incurring any kind of coincidental fee's or whatever they call them.

I was able to find a small hotel, clean and decent. I believe it is a locally owned franchise of a small chain. They were very low key about the whole thing.

I appreciate the help

Your best option is to just visit her at her incall...

has a whole set of complications.  The biggest thing is to NOT leave a provider in possesion of a room you've got in your name.  She could use it for an incall for the rest of the night or run up the tab or damages which would be charged to your card.
The only reason for doing so is IF she can not register there for some reason (some hotels have minimum age requirements).  
The prefered way is to have her register in her name and then reimburse her in cash.

If you must register yourself, she leaves before you do, you leave a tip for housekeeping & be sure the room is secure when you leave.  I recommend not leaving any tell tale trash (like condom wrappers) in the trash...  or stuff them inside something else.   No need that anyone should know what went on there.

EOM