I've read reviews where on occassion a hobbyist arranges to meet provider for 1st time at bar for drink.

How is the donatino handled in this instance?  Do you wait until you get to your destimation to take care of business? What's supposed to be understood where payment is concerned when hobbyist-provider meet up this way, especially if 1st meeting?

My first time I met her in a bar in the hotel Had a couple of glasses of wine. When she felt comfortable we went up to the room. I had left the donation in an envelope in the room. After she counted it in the bathroom She informd me that was not enough b/c of the time we spent in the bar. I wasn't goimg to argue so I donated enough to make her happy. Best investment I ever made. Expect to pay for atleast 2 hours. After all you are paying for her time and it made me realize that it truly is all about the money

I would never charge extra for a pre-drink in the bar...hell, i might even pay for the tab. It adds some sexual excitement knowing that in just a short time we are going to be going at it, but the wait is KILLING ME! I would know that it is perhaps stronger on his mind as well, which i find arousing. Flirting in a public place knowing what is to come is very hot and makes the sex even hotter. A glass of wine always opens me up. I'm never sloshed and would never want to be because i like to be in control. but after one or two glasses of wine gentlemen, a gfe experience with me takes on a whole new definition.
so in essence, it's a fabulous idea!

It really depends.  You could always tell her you would like to see her for a certain period of time for drinks or a meal and if you click, you would like to see her for a certain period of time in private immediately following.  In this case, you would give her the fee for the first portion of your date upfront at the public place (discretely).  If you decide to spend private time together, give her the rest of the fee then.

Some women have pre-date meeting fees, some have public vs. private time fee, you would need to read her site to find out.  If she doesn't specify, this is probably your best best.

Kate Bishop

Each provider is different. I personally don't accept a tremendous number of new clients.... so, I try to establish a level of comfort between the two of us before I ever set up a meeting.

If a gentleman still insists on a "public meeting" then I will usually agree without any compensation only because I am not a lounge lizard and I don't drink alcohol... so "hanging out" for hours just isn't in my make up.

I enjoy getting to know clients, I enjoy dinner dates. However, it is unfair to me and to established clients, to meet with someone for drinks or a quick bite and spend an hour or two with him when in fact that time could be spent with an established client.

If a new client wants to meet with me in public  for an hour and then go back to my place for an hour or two then that can be arranged. An undetermined amount of time n public without any game plan isn't in my schedule.

In regards to the gift..... During the first few minutes, as with an incall... I'd expect the gift to be placed in an envelope and discretely placed in full view. (*for me to retrieve when I decide I feel comfortable with retrieving it*)

It might also be of some significance to explain that even with a comfort level established, most providers... including myself, would be very reluctant to discuss intimate behavior or specific sex acts while sitting in a public place with clothing still on. So, your conversation might be limited. I only mention this so you might avoid offending or making a provider uneasy.

Happy Hobbying. I encourage you to communicate discretely with the provider you decide to meet. You should have some idea going into a meeting as to where you both are coming from.

Know your provider...... and her reputation   kisses ~Tori  

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When I met a client for the first time in public (we met for dinner), I asked him to put the donation in a greeting card envelop and just hand it to me when we sat down to eat.

That way, it looked like he was giving me a card for some event. I didn't open it at the table, I just thanked him enthusiastically and shortly thereafter excused myself to go to the ladies room to verify the amount.

Worked out well for both of us.

Great replies.  Reading Tori's input, think the way (for me) to go is to save that for an ATF of provider that clicked with have already seen at least once.

Providers work for $$$$ - not food and drink.

Thanks for the responses!

I agree with Siobhan06, every woman is different. The provider friend I miss the most is one that I met under somewhat similar circumstances.  However, I asked her first if I needed to donate for the public time since I was more interested in the private, and she said no.  I saw her many times afterwards and we never talked money.  She even visited me at my home state for friendship's sake, although I always tried to be generous to her: friendship or business, no matter.

If the two hit it off and she wants to spend some social time together before or after, that is great. My advice to guys, though, is never *assume* she wants to give you free time. Don't be the guy who thinks the meter isn't ticking only to find out later she thought it was. And have a little extra in the wallet, just to smooth over any misunderstandings.

Ladies, you choose with whom to share bonus time and I'm sure most of us are grateful when you grace us with your presence beyond what we've agreed to however, do the guy a favor and mention discreetly whether the meter is on or off so he doesn't need to guess. Many women want to believe we are great mindreaders when, in actuality, we aren't. We just guess. So for something as essential as your donation, a simple "I'm officially here" or "Ready to start?" sends a simple message that should clue us dumb males when the date has begun. For dates with a prologue or a postscript, it could spare any harsh feelings or misunderstandings.

Don't get me wrong Talltexanboy, but wasn't inquiring in the context of off-the-clock.

Meant in terms of chemistry if meeting up for a drink cool way to start out, what's etiquette for handling the payment -- as providers are paid for their time. I don't the drink aspect as any different.

Great to hear all the insight.