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rightonretard 705 reads
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I was just wondering why a CBJ over BBBJ? I would guess it's for safety reasons, but then you mention how much you enjoy DATY. I'm not trying to give you a hard time, I'm asking a legitimate question. Am I missing something and DATY is significantly safer than BBBJ? I would think it's the other way around actually for the guy.

CentralSeeker2226 reads

I am very new to hobbying, just getting past FBSM...

As I become more "advanced" in hobbying, I was wondering if there was a good way to ask a provider offers BBBJ if I can have a CBJ instead.  It seems like (a) a mood killer, and (b) I can imagine that a number of providers would not want to proceed with a condom in place.

I'm not really that into BJ to begin with, so I have even mulled over asking the provider to skip that part, with the same issue of when to ask or if a provider will be offended.  I'm assuming quite a lot of providers really enjoy that service and I hate to remove some aspect of a visit they were looking forward to (though my thinking was to make it up with extended DATY time which I greatly enjoy).

Perhaps if this is the worst thing you are asked for all day it would be a good day for you, but like I said I'm really new and am not quite sure I understand the boundaries around what or when to ask for things even after reading quite a lot of posts on this and other boards.

Thanks for any advice you have to offer!

You're paying for the time.. if you choose to want a CBJ vs. BBBJ, I honestly do not see any provider becoming offended... same for if you wanted to skip it all together. If you're really that concerned about bringing it up, you could always see a provider that only does CBJ, hence, you don't have to ask her to cover it up, it's already mandatory:)

MsChayse983 reads

Your comfort is what is most important. I personally would have the up most respect for you for practicing  extreme caution to insure your safety. I always have flavored condoms on hand to accommodate that very request. Bananas! Mmmmmm........

and your session, so you can do whatever you feel comfortable doing. If you want to have a covered session, all you would have to do is ask. I wouldn't think that it would offend many ladies to know you were looking out for yourself.

Have fun and play safe :)

Summer

no.problem.honey1015 reads

I am a bbbj lady I saw a guy the other day when I arrived he said he would prefer a cbj and would I mind?I told him no problem because it really isn't a problem for me. I am here for him if that is his preference I am certainly not going to feel awkward or be offended.
One  cbj coming right up
!You are doing too much assuming just let her know what you want and have a good time.I am pretty sure many ladies will not have a problem with your request.
A mood killer is not expressing what you want and the lady does not know especially if you are seeing bbbj ladies.I want guys to speak up and let me know what their likes and dislikes are that is what makes for the best encounter.
Good idea with the extended daty what lady doesn't love that especially if it is done the right way.lol!

to get past the laytex taste.  

It might be a good idea to ask the lady, after screening is complete, that you want all services covered.  Be a gentleman, don't be graphic.  Ladies might have a different idea on this.

rightonretard706 reads

I was just wondering why a CBJ over BBBJ? I would guess it's for safety reasons, but then you mention how much you enjoy DATY. I'm not trying to give you a hard time, I'm asking a legitimate question. Am I missing something and DATY is significantly safer than BBBJ? I would think it's the other way around actually for the guy.

CentralSeeker975 reads

Posted By: rightonretard
I was just wondering why a CBJ over BBBJ? I would guess it's for safety reasons, but then you mention how much you enjoy DATY. I'm not trying to give you a hard time, I'm asking a legitimate question. Am I missing something and DATY is significantly safer than BBBJ? I would think it's the other way around actually for the guy.
I totally understand the question, logically it does not make much sense.  However, as you say, my reason is safety.

So then why the DATY?  Well, quite simply it's a matter of risk management.  I'd like a lower chance of catching something doing something I don't care much about, than doing something I am very much into.

I also will try covered DATY and see how that goes.

Also there is the thought that there is a possibly lower chance of contracting something via carefully controlled application of the mouth than the genitals, backed up by no scientific study whatsoever (that I know of).  It seems safer to me simply because of the surface area involved...

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