finishing in a condom. A BBBJ is often chosen as the desired method of completion with CIM as an A-list option.
....cbj's for Lent. I now offer bbbj, and while business was good, and gentlemen never complained, it is now very good.
Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly
Think about this: The majority of clients in the hobby are married who's wives no longer give BJs...hence the need to hobby.
What you offer is entirely up to you and you shouldn't do something you aren't comfortable with. But yes you should absolutely disclose that on your site, as its very important to many clients. Are you willing to do covered BJ? If not, this could very well be an issue and a deal breaker.
You posted this same question 1/31 and several people took the time to give you responses and alternatives. Why waste everyone's time with the SAME question again? The answer is going to be the same, duh!
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I appologize, but I am being completely honest here because that is what you need. Tough Love but you need to accept the truth. I don't mean for this to be harsh. For some reason when you asked this question previously, it has been removed.
There are several variations of BJ technique besides the CBJ vs BBBJ. I would not see someone who will not BJ at all. Now CIM is highly desired but not universally offered though accidents will happen. If you can't handle it, you will spoil the customer's experience and your business.
It's ok for them not to be your favorite... but you are being paid to be an actress. Not to be crude. GFE IS an ILLUSION... an ACT. Can you act like you love BJs? I just don't think you can be successful if you limit yourself in this way. Yes, guys come to you for experiences they can not get at home. There's no reason to pay for something they could get at home.
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Not trying to be rude either. Some truthful answers have already been posted to this question. Previous thread has not been removed - bad link in my previous post has been corrected
Posted By: harbor_view
For some reason when you asked this question previously, it has been removed.
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Okay, I don't hate them but I wouldn't mind if it didn't happen.
If there was no kissing allowed, that would be the deal breaker for me.
Plus, I don't know how you can state "no bjs" on your site, since it's a specific act/service.
Even if you use word play, it's bad form imo to mention acts.
Doesn't matter, since your site is "under construction".
I, too, am wondering why you are posting exactly the same question again.
There are certainly some guys who want to get right down to fucking, but I suspect
you will find that most clients paying an escort are wanting oral sex. I could be wrong.
Maybe if you are offering something else special, like anal sex or extreme roleplay, or
other S&M activities... I don't know for sure. Otherwise, as many told you the last time around,
maybe you should look into massage with happy ending with a low-ish rate, where no BJ is implied, then you could offer intercourse for an additional fee and it wouldn't really be considered upselling (as long as you are advertising massage, and not FS/GFE)
As others have said, stating "no bj" on your site is a mistake, just as bad as saying "I am offering sex for money".
If you want to make the big GFE bucks, lol, why not find a nice clean safe guy and practice BJs on him? I volunteer.
Didn't you know all advice changes after 18 days?
But just tell them that you don't do BJs.
Escorts in general give oral sex as part of their service. You don't expect that with a bodyrub girl.
Just might be a better fit.
I do not BBBJ, and have no problem being honest because the truth shall set you free!
If someone was to book with you assuming you give BJ's & you don't expect a bad review. Simply go to your TER profile & have it say no BJ's it is that simple. No ? is a dumb ?, so feel free to post this is a public board, or come check out the providers only board we are female friendlier. lol Smile 4 me!
Let me put it this way:
If you ran a deli but refused to serve corn beef, then you better have the best darn pastromi in town.
How's your grip strength?
but since it's an extra, the provider has more flexibility to manipulate it. A lot of gals use a BJ... as foreplay... not as an end.
Is is fear of choking? Has a guy held your head or pushed to hard? Providers are pros. They learn to control the guy pretty well. Yes, some guys are asshats & get too rough... but most are not. As I posted on your earlier question, there are different possitions & techniques that can be used & some are clearly designed to protect the gal.
Best Wishes,
HV
She doesn't like them...so she doesn't do them..she can be FBSM and HJ. She may have a very trigger happy gag reflex...or just plain does not want strange or any cock in her mouth. Some guys don't like DATY...it's their personal preference.
Posted By: AshleeLeeson
okay so i'm new to this and
well i don't really like giving bj's.
is a bj an absolute necessity?
should i say on my site that i don't do bj's?
Ashlee,
What you are experiencing is "Fellatiophobia". But, do not be alarmed! If you are so inclined, it is treatable. A steady regimen of interaction with the penis will help you overcome any aversion to 'giving head'. Start off with really simple actions. Stroking the penis. Kissing the penis. Caressing the penis across your closed lips and face. Gently licking the sides, tip, or anywhere around the head. When you are ready to take it into your mouth, use one (or both) hand(s) to control how much of the penis can enter into your mouth by grasping the penis at the same time. You can prevent most of the unfavorable circumstances that might happen during oral sex with a little forethought, preparation, and practice.
A lot of guys will just be happy that you are paying attention to their penis. Even if you don't take them fully into your mouth, using your mouth in creative ways to provide enjoyment or incite arousal before jumping to the main event will be appreciated. Of course there are guys for which getting a bj is required. But, not all men are so absolute in their requirements. Just remember, the penis is your friend! Or, at least it wants something from you so it will give you whatever you want for a short time.
Finally, if you're interested in overcoming your dislike of BJs, I'm willing to work with you. I provide full service Fellatiophobia therapy. The hours are long and hard...but, together, I know we can do it! It typically takes 120 or 130 daily sessions to cure. Regardless, we won't give up until you look forward to each and every BJ you get to administer.
(ok...I know...cheesy and bad...but, it was just too easy)
In all seriousness...but of luck to you.
If you kissed and allowed DATY
only CBJ.
BJ's with a jimmy jacket on are useless to me.
It would bother me more if you did something unwillingly just to satisfy me.
sex is required.
BJs are a big part of sex.
you can start off with CBJs then when you get comfy here and you will go to bbbjs most likely you are not practiced. this business improves your skills
you do not have to CIM or swallow its your game your rules but they are gonna want a BJ.
That is sexual but she does not have to give a BJ. And no matter how many times some ladies try, they just plain don't like dick in their mouths, so they choose a niche that does not require it.
Agree that cbj is pretty worthless, but no bj? You must be kidding.....
Posted By: AshleeLeeson
okay so i'm new to this and
well
i don't really like giving bj's.
is a bj an absolute necessity?
should i say on my site that i don't do bj's?
On Jan-30, you posted the same Q and seem to be getting the same answers. What did Einstein say?
Posted By: AshleeLeeson
so I'm just getting started and, well, maybe i'll get flamed for this but i don't really like doing bj's
is that a deal breaker?
My reply was:
Some have suggested FBSM but you could consider the other direction to BDSM and stuff like that. Get a black leather or black latex body suit, a whip and a cane. If he asks for a BJ, whack him good!
As for me: no BJ , no date. My personal pref is BBBJNQNS.
Good luck ... and don't hit me.
Despite my previous post (consider BDSM or other niche; my personal pref for BBBJNQNS), I think you should set your own limits and not give in to pressure (client, financial or other) unless you're ready to do so. If you don't do bj, you should let people know ahead of time as it is kind of expected, c or bb.
but if I said something like that, I'd lose 100% of my business. They'd rather off hear no FS, than no BJ. If you don't disclose it on your site, you will get bad reviews (bad reviews as in 1's,2's).... so you might have business to start but in the end it will kill you for not saying you don't do BJs. ... perhaps examine why you don't like giving them and go from there. You never have to do something you don't like, but keep in mind you get what you give.
