My ATF once told me, I was her gift. Not bragging, I just think it has more to do with the way you treat her rather than what you give in material goods. I never tip, but I always show how much I appreciate her. There are many ways.....

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It's just that, as (I think she calls herself An Interesting Woman, on TER) pointed out, sometimes we can't take that stuff home with us.  And some of us are diabetic or don't eat sweets.

It is the thought that counts, no doubt about it.  And I'm not saying NO gifts, either-- that is up to you and her.  But if she really can't use or keep the gift you give her, it's your money down the drain.  I don't know about you, but I don't like to throw away MY hard-earned cash!!!

Plus, it's not as hard to hide money from the kids or husband (if she has to hide it) as it is to hide a bouquet.

You don't have to tip, ever, but it really is nice- and it guarantees that she will like the gift she gets from you, because she picked it out!

**If you have an ATF you might consider just asking her which she prefers; this may be a little awkward, but if she's lucky enough to be your ATF then she will be flattered you even thought of it.  I promise.

Hope that helps.

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Sydney

On the surface they do seem to be a wonderful gift, but it can often be a problem.  Even if just one gent a week brought a boquet to a ladies incall location, how long do you think it would take neighbours to pick up on what type of business was going on?  Most ladies expect discretion (as we provide to you), and flowers are a sure fire way to draw unnecessarry attention.

I realize that the thought is wonderful, but the fact remains that flowers for the most part cause people in the elevator, lobby or entrance way to take notice.  We don't want anybody to notice you when you walk in.  We would rather you just blend in with everybody else.

As for the original posters question - I don't think that tipping is necessarry for any independant.  I'm sure that any lady would appreciate any gratuity which you chose to leave, but we would never expect it.  We will remember you for your personality, the conversations we have, if you make us laugh, if you give us a good massage, if you connect with us.  In other words, we remember you for who you are, not for your pocketbook.  I think that will hold true for most ladies.

Rebel Yell is right that small gifts can be a nice touch (if they are brought in discreetly), but again they are not necessarry.  If you don't know the lady well, make sure that it is something very small, as I do know of some girls who have boyfriends, so they toss out any gifts, flowers, cards and any other evidence that another man was there.  If you know the lady well, and you are familiar with her situation and preferences, than a more personal gift may be alright.  But again, none of this is expected.

The best way to leave a good impression is be clean, courteous, on time, respectful and have fun.  Just be yourself, and the lady will remember you for your personality and the great time you had together.  You don't need to bribe your way into our memories

I have tried this...

I once had a OTF that was a lady, very sensous and lovely.
She was very good at what she did and she did most everything.
On my third visit to her I brought her a dozen roses and a thank you type greeting card. She never opened the card or even said thank you. She also basically threw the roses on a table. I was so pi$$$ed that I was not able to get an erection. I was not falling for her but was truly enjoying her company and obvious talents. I have scratched her off my ATF list and if I decide to try to do something extra for a lady it will be in the form of a monetary tip.
Am I wrong to feel this way?
Thanks for your imput.