Hi,
I'm an older gent and have not used the fine service of an escort. I have been reading different boards in different states for some time so I have a big clue as to what is proper.

If you are not to ask anything when seeing a provider (I do understand) what happens???
After reading many reviews I see that some providers will say after getting comfortable, would do you like.

So, at what point is it O.K. to open up???? (or never)

Thanks,
An Old Guy new to this, LOL
Bordello

If the lady asks you "what do you like?" after you are both "comfortably dressed" (or semi undressed), then you can say pretty much what you want.  Just don't mention $$!  If you say, "Can I give you a facial for an extra benjamin?" she may very well through you out on your a$$.

the first session a "getting to know you" session. If you ask me anything explicit, I am going to be real uncomfortable. After that first one, though- have at it. I'm not so sure I'm the norm here though.

I read reviews first
I never ask for anything by email, phone ,or when first meeting
I always expect a hug and hopefully at least a light kiss when I arrive..
I discretely hide the donation{since Cowboy pay doesn't provide enough for  escort money I moonlight as a magician}
I sit down beside her and since I am in the second minute and only 58 to go I kiss her like she is my long lost lover and  my hands gently touch her ...... Okay game is on unless you didn't read reviews first..

Option two.. When she opens the door discretely  place the donation and throw her on the bed and start DATY.After DATY you should be able to request your preferences but always respect the providers limits.

Option three..Start talking and before you know it the hour will be up, and you won't find out what her limits are, until the next visit.

for instance...

i got a call one night from a friend of mine. .she had a client come over and he saw my website was up on her pc so they started talking about me and realized they both knew me

so he says, call her up and see if she'll come over.

so i go over and before we get started on the session she starts asking the client what he wants and its like she reading from a checklist and creating this agenda.. first we'll do this, then that, then so on and how do you want it to finish.

im sitting there like whoa this is so wierd.

the client is looking like he's at a loss for words so i say to my friend, hey lets play it by ear.

she says, ana i want to make sure he's getting everything he expects so he doesnt get disappointed and complain afterwards that we didnt do this or that.

so i was like oh good point.

now, i hate to talk about things.. i feel as if you never really know whats going to happen when 2 people get naked so why bother with chit chatting about it.. its not football and there's no need to huddle before-hand and discuss the play.

however, my friend made a valid point.

so the answer is sorry dunno.

my question to you is why do you feel like you will need to tell her what to do ?

in general, after you're naked and paid is ok to talk

Thanks for the reply,

I'm just trying to be real and not chase anyone off by saying the wrong thing.



My Best,

Bordello

Thanks for the input, all is appreciated.

Regards,
Bordello

I never want to talk about or see the $$ up front. That has always worked for me. I see it as we both know its a financial transaction. there is no need to make it feel all about the $$.
I think it has a chance of taking away from the fantasy. Thats just me though.

Posted by Bordello69, 4/16/2008 8:06:28 PM
I'm just trying to be real and not chase anyone off by saying the wrong thing.

 If you go by TER reviews and only see the higher performance ladies.....They know what you are there for..As long as you are polite and clean, you are guaranteed a good time..Don't be shy and she won't be shy either..You won't chase her away by acting like she is your lover{for the time allotted}
As for saying the wrong thing leave that to me..A few weeks ago I saw a out of State provider for the first time..Unfortunately I could only book her last appt of the night and she was ultra fun. .. When it was time to go she asked me if I would walk with her  to get something to eat......In my defense I live two hours minimum from D.C and it was 10:30 pm..In my stupidity I told her "Normally I would but I  better go because I don't want to get my GF riled up".... I didn't mean it like she took it ..I meant normally I would ...as in.. if it was earlier or if my GF was out of town..or I was on a out of town trip .......

 
 

If you've got some different ideas about what you like, then I would seek a provider who provides these things.

I personally don't discuss details of a session and prefer to just jump into it whatever that may be. If you're new, it might be best to play it by ear and afterwards, you may mention to the lady (if you liked her and want to see her again) that next time you may want to try different things that you may have failed to express.

It's hard to tell you what to do because what would freak one girl out might not freak another out.

Katie

Old Guy,
I'm also an Old Guy that hasen't participated yet. I'm wondering what you have learned on this site about being an older hobbyist? It would be interesting to see which of us will get his feet wet first and what his experience was like.
Tesaro

the person who contacts you is a TER gent with reviews, you could ask him which ones he liked 'writing/imagining' the most, since this is all 'fantasy' writing anyway.

Another option is for you to write some fantasy erotic vignettes and have them on a 'creative writing' tab on your site. Obviosuly only have things on there you would be comfortable with. Then you could encourage submissions (ha! no pun intended) from gents, or tell tehm since you like writing them, which one strikes their fancy the most when they contact you.

If I lived in Vegas, I'd be more than happy to help you with your 'creative writing', but alas that is not a city this professor can figure out a way to visit.

That really gets the conversation flowing.

I'm pretty new to this and spent a lot of the time with a ATF... so when I needed to take a break & started seeing new ladies, I had one ask "What do you like?"  I was not prepared to answer & don't remember what I said...  

If she initiates the conversation, then it's ok to answer.
If you want something particular, I'd wait until yer both undressed & say "Can we do xyz?"
skb

For me, when you get there pretend you are at the end of a date.  Relax, go with the flow.  If she asks, say let's just play it by ear.  When you are already at it, then politely ask if you are looking for something particular.  While most women seem to say they are very open to pleasing the gentleman, most also seem to appreciate it when you don't come with a checklist.  

-- Modified on 4/17/2008 6:09:34 AM

I say go ahead and ask for whatever specific thing you want.  However, there are some things that I NEVER want to know.  

There was a fellow, only met him once, and he decided to tell me about the first time he saw his father's penis.  Apparently he was impressed with the size.  Even more disturbing is that we were coitus.  

I don't think ladies mind if you tell them about personal things, but be careful with timing!

That'a a good question but not one I would worry about. I have only seen a couple TER providers so far and both asked what I liked once we got started. I also asked them what they liked as I like to please as much as I like being pleased!
Sex is mostly in the mind anyway. I know this for a fact because when my doctor checks my prostate, I can't wait for him to get his finger out of there. Yet my last provider made me see stars doing that...Thought I died and went to heaven!!!

Thanks for clarifying Robbin.  This might be a better question to put on the legal board.  The answer also probably depends on city and/or state laws.

Treat it like a date with a lady. Just proceed, and be sensitive about resistance. If she doesn't want you to do something, she will let you know.

If you want something you can't just do, then wait for the appropriate time and ask. But, don't mention $$$. So, if she is giving a great BJ and you want to CIF, then ask while she is giving the BJ. She will either say: Ok, No, or that will be an additional Benjamin.

Now, if you really want to get kinky, wait until the second date.

not to say anyone else didn't say it well also but it was blunt and to the point and pretty standard as well.
I was cringing thinking about that penis story Jane and how you had to sit through it. It must have felt like the twilight zone( theme music in the backround)....LOL

Posted by tokai,
"So, if she is giving a great BJ and you want to CIF, then ask while she is giving the BJ. She will either say: Ok, No, or that will be an additional Benjamin."

I agreed with all of your post except the above.If I ask for CIM and she says no ,I will respect that..Matter of fact one of my faves doesn't do CIF..{at least not with me}..If she asked  for more $ for that service during the "date",no way!! would I ever visit her again, fave or not.. In my opinion she BLEW the whole "hour" fantasy by asking for mo money.I might as well be chasing civvies if I put up with that..

The cheap hooker adventure.
Amsterdam January 1991
 I was taking another morning  walk through the Amstedam Red Light district, looking for my fantasy lover..I must have walked for two hours trying to decide which lady I would visit, not so much for particularity, but for the scenic beauty, of all the different varieties, of the spices of life. Suddenly my eyes came upon the Meditteranean Jewel..and her smile told me I was welcome..This lady was knock down gorgeous with the ultra body and perfect skin ..I walked up to her door and asked her how much ..She not so sexily said ..Twenty five for a Fuck, Fifty for Fuck and Suck...{converted to American Dollars} Since I was in Amsterdam for a extended time, I didn't want to splurge, just because she was beautiful, beyond description..and BJs are always covered with Government approved ladies.so..I said I will try out a Fuck..and gave her 25..I have to admit she was great  in performance without BJ..We started mish and I was proud of myself for lasting more than five minutes with this beauty and then she said.." You should have come by now,If you had gotten a Suck you would have already come.You should give me mo money..It might have been 6 or 7 minutes tops and even though she was top model quality bod and face, and flawless tanned skin, I politely dismounted not uttering a word  and started putting on my clothes..She looked at me like the World was ending and I said "Have a nice day and walked out the door"........Then I walked again for at least a hour and I saw the tall Blond..She was not quite  as beautiful as the mo money window but the erotic look in her eyes and her long legs were the cause of me walking up to her and asking how much..She said ..twenty five for Fuck and fifty for Fuck and Suck..I asked her what her time limit is if I just get a Fuck..and she said "There is no time limit ,whatever it takes"
The first 30 seconds I started missionary and she said "I really like it doggie style"..Ok..There is no way to describe the next 30 seconds other than erotic jackhammer .I was done in a minute..
I visited her many more times ..We almost got married..

LOL,
That's why I picked a female nurse practitioner at the V.A.     She does a does a very good job of it and she's not a bad looking woman.

Regards,
Bordello

Even though it's common sense that ladies would not like certain bluntness or rudeness, it's also common sense that escort ladies know what they do. I would totally agree with the stop-wasting-time way and just go straight to the point. One hour is not that long.