Proper Reference etiquette.

Gentlemen,

When using a lady for a reference it is always polite to ask her before hand. Many ladies have a reference policy that if you have not seen them within 6-12 months they will not provide a reference for you. In addition, Please limit the number of times that you use a certain lady for a reference. If you see her one time, chances are she will be okay with providing 3-4 reference requests for  you.

After that move on to using  you MOST recent encounters unless you have an ATF who does not mind providing references for  you.

I had a gentleman use me 13 times for a reference after I had only seen him one time and this was within a 1 year time frame. Chances are he saw at least 2 of those women and could have, and should have, used them as a reference. I referred him to date-check.


Ladies,

When requesting a reference from another lady please remember that THEY are doing YOU a favor. NOT the other way around. This is not a "we're all in this together" type of business. On the contrary it is not. I am under no obligation to give you, or any other provider my time at all. However, if you use proper etiquette when requesting a reference that can and often does make it easier to provide an "okay".

This is the proper way to ask for a reference

"Hi, my name is Rae Monroe and I am a touring provider. My website and reviews link are at the end of this email if you should like to check me out before answering. I have a gentleman who is using you as a reference and I would appreciate any information you could help me with and anything in particular you remember about him. He indicated that he saw you in April at your incall and you may recall he was the one who shouted "mother of god" when he came. Thank you very much for your time

John Smith
555-123-1234
[email protected]
Anytown, PA

Thanks so much!
Rae Monroe
[email protected]
WEBSITE URL
REVIEW URL




And when and if the lady replies to you this is a proper way to answer:


"Thank you so much I really appreciate the information and your time. Have a wonderful day! xoxo"



Just some helpful hints for those who are wondering why those ladies never reply to your reference requests.

I get reference requests like THIS all the time:

i need sum info on this guy he said he seen u and had a good time

john
111-222-XXXX

cammy



Like really? WHO THE FUCK is Cammy, where are your reviews? Where's your website? You expect me to go hunting for your stuff? That is NOT my job. So the answer is DELETE. I am not going to surf the internet for anyone else. I am not going to google you. I am not going to hunt for your website or your reviews or anything of that nature. YOU do ME the courtesy of having a brain first and then we'll talk about providing a reference. Until then? Not so much.




Hope this little guide helps. Have a wonderful day.

~Rae Monroe

Sheesh!  A little discretion please!

By the way ... sorry for screaming "Mother of God!"  I don't know what came over me ... or you ... or ... whatever.

Usually I scream, "Victory for the forces of democratic freedom!"

Luv ya,

John Smith

Thank you for taking the time to get that off your chest.  Whoever Cammy is, I hope she is saying "Thank You" too!

Have a wonderful and exciting day!

Lexus

I send provider B an email with the my references, and I never hear back.

Should I count this towards the 2 or 3 times I can use provider A as a reference???

This might sound silly, but it has  happened many times with well reviewed ladies who post right here on TER (don't ask, I am not saying).

And before everyone jumps on me for not sending a decent appointment request, don't bother, I have that covered, so to speak.

Thanks

TC

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yes, you are doing the provider a favor by providing a reference to a certain degree.  I more look at that I am providing that service to the client being vouched for as he was a good guy to me.  

Yea, the business is catty and there are ladies who don't provide them and ladies who request them and still don't provide them.  But I appreciate that a gent noticed me, made the effort to be screened, showed up and behaved like a gent - that deserves a good reference for 6mos-yr.  E