Maybe a stupid question, but I wonder if anyone has been in this situation before?

If those sites were pulled down she obviously retired, is taking a break, or went UTR. Could be for any reason which is none of our business (but example scenarios are stalkers, legal issues, health issues, family emergencies, and all kinds of other reasons.)  

Thanks a lot, I'll try that.  I'll admit I found it a little disconcerting, especially since it was my first ever session, so it certainly wasn't helping the nerves.

If it is your first at bat, I would just drop it and pick another provider.  The situation is too ambiguous.  Might not end well.  Why risk it?

I didn't realize this was your first ever session when I made my comment to contact her once, then forget it. Since this was your first ever session, I would skip the contact her part and say just forget it. Move forward, and find someone else. These things do happen (like I said for many different reasons). Just chalk it up to bad timing for it to happen while you were trying to book your first ever session.

Hrm, interesting.

Cancel, of course.  Both sides need to be professional.  Cancel with an explanation.  Maybe she'll explain to your satisfaction.

Use what ever contact method you have been up to now.  I would say you noticed her site was down & P411 inactive so you are assuming your date is OFF.  She might have done this for a variety of reasons (which are none of our business)...  or she might not even know.  

If the last communication was through the P 411 system of either PM or "appointment request" I would suggest using another means of communication to reach out to her. Email is the most likely way to be able to reach her if she has gone UTR, was busted, for what ever reason has pulled all her ads and website.

That is like asking TER why a provider was delisted.
Fancy, I really wish you would stop posting nonsensical advice on the newbie board. Stick to your posts on the GD, unless you truly have meaningful info to add here.
Have a good day.
 

The risk is elevated if she goes "dark" and I don't think newbs should walk into a situation where there is any extra, added risk, imo.

Her trolling on the GD is tolerated but not needed here.

You have been known to give some inaccurate advice on this board, advice that could cause problems for newbies if they were to follow it. No one is trying to be insulting, we just want to see to it that the correct info is being put out there.

There have been a couple of times when I felt as though my identity was at risk, so I had to take down my site and what not for a few days. It's not a huge deal, but I don't blame you for being nervous since she didn't give you a heads up about it. If I were you, I'd just shoot her a quick email to let her know that you'll no longer be able to make your date. Had she notified you ahead of time that she was going to pull her web presence, I'd say keep the date, but in this case she dropped the ball. Better safe than sorry.

But you REALLY need to STFU now.  

Also as the newbie board host, I do very much worry about your posting. You are constantly posting misinformation and nonsense to the newbies, and challenging other providers. That is not what this board is for.

OMG, HOW is Tobi trashing P411? And everyone IS on topic, you just don't like what people are saying. This is a HELP board on TER for newbies. You are being rude to the new host.  

unless you would like to start a school on how best to get thrown off of the leading verification site in the business.

Thanks Steph, but you know me

And you know I have no problem with her being rude to me and I can handle myself.  I do have a problem with nonsense on the newbie board. Misinformation, fights, and trainwrecks don't belong here.

The best way you can promote yourself on this board is to be nice and helpful and instead of rude and ridiculous. The only person on this thread not helping newbies is you. And advice on Newb Board IS free! It's not to promote business it's to help the new people.

Well me and most likely Perfect Storm, the guy charged with keeping this board staying on it's mission that is.

Yes, this is off the topic of the OP.  But it seems the "topic" has now become you......  

I think admin is about to put an end to this as this is just making this board, and TER, look like a joke and TER always cared for this board a bit more bc of all the newbs watching.

Nothing I've said was remotely untrue, and in fact I was quite kind so your defensiveness is really unnecessary.  

Although I am certainly not a newbie to this world, I do appreciate the honest comments and feedback given by a number of individuals on both sides of the equation.