to all who may help me,

goodevening.

tomorrow i will have my first appointment with a well reviewed and reliable provider. i am unsure about gift giving and gift ettiquete. i have read that many individuals have brought a gift or gifts to her or his provider.

if it is an appropriate practice, even on a first encounter with a provider, what gifts can one give? so one can ensure discression for both individuals,  what type of gifts could be inappropriate? does tipping count as a gift?

thankyou in advance.

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For a first meeting, I feel it is inappropriate to bring a gift. To me, a gift is something personal. You need to know her, what she likes and what will please her. That takes some time to work up to. To me, if you have to ask what she wants, then you don't know her well enough to give one.

A tip is not a gift, though it's nice for extraordinary service. But like most ladies say; Welcome, but not required. I have occasionally added a tip if our time runs long.


Especially after a first meeting, I think one of the nicest 'gifts' you can give is asking to see her again.

And she states that her fee is all inclusive and no tipping is required ... but appreciated ... why tip or give anything .... I always post a mini review instead ... this will bring her in more business than a gift ever will ... but if you feel the urge then give it at the end if it is deserving ... my .02  hobby safe hobby well hobby all you can be ....

...it's out of place for a first meeting, IMHO.  It's sort of like Andy of Mayberry going to see his sweetie.  For a first session, it should be the provider who wants to impress you and induce you into a return visit.  This isn't like dating.  For subsequent sessions, I like to bring flowers.

goofy "Date" Cliche gifts are fine and apprecaited.  Flowers, Candy, wine, etc.

Later on you can get personal....

it enhances the experience and is always appreciated (even on the first date).

I try to find out what they like (from their web site or other guys).  Often times I will bring candles, lotions, etc.  They are always appropriate.

I'm with you, hueyfan. That's exactly what I do.

This is simply a matter of personal choice, on my very first visit I read everything on the provider's website. She had listed the kind of music that she liked and I burn her a CD with her favorite stuff. Since that time I only bring gifts to my AFT's (All Time Favorites).

However either way the provider's will appreciate any gesture of kindness and thoughtfulness.

I give Andy of Mayberry a particularly nice time. Not because I'm trying any harder, but because I was really touched that he thought of me as a real person and took some time to do something so sweet for me.