I'm not super-experienced but here's what I've found:

Providers usually set their schedule at the beginning of the week.  Not all of them, but many do.  If you contact them the week before, they don't know when they'll be available.

The highly-rated providers get lots of contacts every day.  I aksed once and a 9/10 provide said she got over a hundred email or calls each day.  Obviously, she doesn't have time to respond to them all.  Especially the ones where the answer is "no".

Yes, she picks up.  Except when she doesn't.  Like when she's busy with a client or in the shower or whatever.  The good providers, especially the independents, are very busy people.  They're essentially running a business.  One where they get a lot of crap calls (Hey, how much to suck my wang???).  Plus they have personal lives and problems and everything else.  

I understand you frustration and even share it a times.  It's easy to think "I've got the bucks and I wash behind my ears, so this should be easy to do" but it just doesn't work out that way.

I also know some providers that try and block out 2-3 hours around lunch for their clients who can't see them any other time.

Scheduling too far in advance?

Since you have to schedule so far ahead, why don't you decide on a day that you would like to see a provider. Then a few days before your decided day, make contact with the provider and schedule for the prearranged day that you wanted. Once you make contact with a provider that you like, it will be easy to schedule on day before, while you make arragements for your planned day.  Everything is time management!

Agree with you, I like to schedule a week or more in advance, particularly when traveling and on a fairly tight time schedule. That way I feel I have things "under control" and will be able to accomplish my mission. From my limited experience, it seems that highly rated and well compensated ladies also like it that way. But, clearly not every provider does. I don't have the solution, but will look forward to other's experience and feedback.
Tail-hook

I always schedule at least a week in advance, sometimes two or more.  Hell, I just contacted a gal I see once or twice a year who put on their site that they'll be in my town in September!

So I do not see that as the problem.

Here's a hint that seems to work with emails:  Put the date and time you want to meet right in the subject line.  Time and time again I hear from gals that they hate going back and forth with someone who will not commit to a time and date.  Once that is established, the gal has a certain sense of committment from you.

The only other possiblility is that you have hit a rough patch.  This happens to everyone once in a while and it is frustrating.  You get paranoid and start to think that someone has put you on a DNS list or something.

Just ride it out.  If you follow the rules, you will see gals.  Trust in that.

I always schedule in advance sometimes as much as a week to 10 days. I normally just say what day and either morning or afternoon. Granted I work for myself and have a lot of leeway with my time schedule. The ladies, will say call the day before, then we confirm a time. It seems to work for me and the providers. Don't know if you have that type of flexability? I agree with you on the comments "they pick up the phone" a lot of escorts don't, but remember they have outside jobs, families, emergiencies, clients to see, etc. As another post stated, you might have just hit a patch of bad luck.

I like getting a request a few days (or more) in advance, and I promptly respond to all emails that appear to be serious and sincere.

A friend once said that if providers were time-management inclined and 'responsible' we would have 9 to 5s.

While his comment is broad, I tend to believe that there is an idiom of truth in the joke.

My most recent reviewer noted that I was not 100% during our date due to an allergy attack.  He scheduled a 90 minute session approximately 3 weeks in advance and I was heartbroken that my attack set in a day before we were scheduled to meet.  His excitement and clear disappointment over my attempt at a cancellation caused me to proceed with the meeting.  His review is kind but overinflated and I was very disappointed that I wasn't 100%.

The point is:  life happens.  Illness, tiredness, mental fatigue etc. are all unforeseen & random occurrences in this business.   Additionally , many of us have interests outside of the business-be it family, part-time jobs, small businesses etc.  While some providers have static schedules I think you'd be hard-pressed to find large number of providers who adhere to the exact same schedule every single week.  How are we to judge that we will have enough bookings to offset the cost of an incall location on the day that you have chosen?  How are we to judge that our bodies will be well, responsive, not sore etc.?


Also, there is a cancellation phenomenon that occurs with clients who book more than 10 days in advance.  While you may be the consummate gentleman who keeps your chosen provider abreast of new developments in your schedule there are many who do not and cancel last minute or simply NC/NS unceremoniously  because the hard-on they had looking at Holly Hobby's pictures 2 weeks ago has since dissipated and he now has other things to do.

Our costs *first and foremost* must be justified-otherwise, we're losing a very high-risk game for nil.  Lining up the proverbial ducks in a row is essential and in order to do that its best that we not attempt to schedule hour appts here and there too far in advance.

The only time I will consciously book a client more than 3-5 days (7 max) in advance is if it involves travel (his or mine), it is greater than 8-12 hours, he is a noted & trusted regular, or if I'm on tour (and even those are tentative).

My suggestion to you is that prior to submitting your information via form you touch base with the provider via email to find out if anyone is home, if she is prompt and attentive and finally, if she is willing to book you in advance.

Good luck.

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Over half of my appointments are scheduled in advance sometimes well in advance. They also tend to be 2 hours and longer meeting. Not that i cant be available last min. I think its because im mainly an outcall provider that it works out that way (i get a lot of visitors to my city, and they tend to plan because they will only be here a shirt time and are fitting ME into their schedule.

Also if i see p411 or date check, in the initial email that guy jumps right to the top of the line because i can start screening right then and there, makes my life easier.

i know it can be hard to tell who's a good fit for ya  when you're the new guy so much to learn and so much of that is just experience but hang in there you will find the right girl for you... i promise