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I'm new at this and really try to get to know potential dates as much as possible. So far so good! I know I will still be nervous though.

Its comforting to hear that this could be a good thing. Last thing I want is for my first date to give a horrible review because I was nervous! I'll have to bring this up before I meet them so they know what to expect.

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Ripped_Van_Winkle730 reads

I have had a few like that in my time. They were total newbies. I must confess that I really enjoyed those sessions. I did some of my best sweet talking with the nervous ones and the look in their eyes when they submitted their trust to me was priceless.
Of course that was not all they submitted ;)

Sweet talk, petting, a little gentle massaging, and patience really paid off for me.

Now I have to either find a really good actress, or find a newbie provider.

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niceenuf562 reads

I vote for being as aggressive as possible...practically forcing myself on her till she's ready to scream...then backing off and acting like the Knight in Shining Armor to save her.  If that doesn't scare her out of this business nothing will!!!!

Assuming she is new...I've never been in the situation but I would think that the innocence, nerves, and lack of professional "routine" would be very endearing...in fact, if an experienced provider could retain those things I think they would be an asset.

Best approach is to go easy, let things unfold at her pace, and respect her limits.  At the early stage in her career I think the limits might be less than later in the career.  I have a feeling that taking it easy will make the appt better for everyone involved.

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lilli546 reads

i have been providing for several years, and i am still always very nervous and VERY shy with clients, even those i have been with many dozens of times. fortunately most of the men i've met seem to find this "endearing," as another poster mentioned. because of my personality and temperament, i mesh much better with men who are more assertive and confident enough to gently lead the way, so to speak. someone who wants an aggressive or seductive type provider would be very disappointed with me.

this is yet another reason why i believe taking the time to get to know people (thru email and casual phone conversations) BEFORE deciding whether or not to actually engage in a physical relationship is soooo important!

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Jordan_Carter952 reads

I'm new at this and really try to get to know potential dates as much as possible. So far so good! I know I will still be nervous though.

Its comforting to hear that this could be a good thing. Last thing I want is for my first date to give a horrible review because I was nervous! I'll have to bring this up before I meet them so they know what to expect.

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NickCharlesIII610 reads

I experienced two brand new providers. The results could not have been more different. In both cases, I had to be more assertive than I usually am. In one case, the lady was so happy that she was practically in tears and did not want me to leave. She kissed me good-bye like I was going off to war or something. In the other case, I think that the lady decided about half-way through the session that this was not something she could do. She "allowed" me to finish, but she could not get me out the door fast enough.

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Jordan_Carter879 reads

Ha! I'll probably be like the first one unless the date is a jerk!

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