Never do anything out of desperation. A night with your hand and a porn video may not be as good as a real live woman but it's better than a night in jail.

Be punctual, be clean, be polite and don't be a time waster.

If she offers you a shower take it. It's two minutes of your appointment but it will always pay dividends.

Never forget that you are interacting with a human being, not a rubber doll.  Her job is to please you and any good provider will try her best to do that. Don't treat her like a vagina unless you want to be treated like a dick.

Always make sure that she can see the envelope as soon as see arrives or as soon as you arrive.  Trying to play games with her income will get you no place fast.

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Read her reviews and web or ad site, be clean, fresh breath, be on time, don't haggle, talk to the provider about what you want to do AFTER the two of you are naked, be nice, have fun.

how to keep high security...  
Keep your hobby life & personal life separate.  Hobby phone  Hobby email.  

Learn how to research potential providers.  I don't feel I need VIP continuously but certainly when preparing to update my bucket list.  A month of VIP every now & then...  is way cheaper than a spoiled date.

We LOVE what a provider does for us & how she makes us feel.  Providers are GREAT actresses.  We do N O T LOVE THEM.  Nor do they love US.  Not that it can't happen but it is extremely rare and even rarer that it can be made to work.   It is very easy to have these feelings with women we have sex with...  it's hormonal...  and repeated sex can really do a job on your head.  (Man, I wish I'd understood this before I got married!)   I like seeing gals I've seen before but I rotate among a small number of favorites so I keep some sense of balance.

Sometimes the hobby imitates life.  This saying works exceptionally well in the hobby
 

When I get to the incall location, I always take a quick spin around the hotel parking lot front and back to make sure there aren't any cop cars or unmarked cars with prisoner cages in them.    If I see even one I'm outta there.  Had to do this twice.  

When I get to the floor of the hotel I always take a quick walk down both sides of the hallway to check for cops.  Listen for police radios.  

When you walk into the hotel lobby, act like you belong there.  DONT HAVE THE EVELOPE IN YOUR HAND FOR EVERYBODY TO SEE.

Just use common sense.

Then ask questions here in addition to reading the above answers.  We are here to help everyone make a safe entry into the hobby and maintain that level of safety.

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