I think there was a similar thread here earlier but:
1) I can't find it.
2) Older threads tend to be ignored anyway and I wanted to get people's attention and advice.
Now, normally, when I'm alone with or without porn, getting it up and shooting my wad isn't a problem. But when I'm actually with a real live girl...it's often as limp as a noodle.
I've noticed this with strippers...half the time even though she's smoking hot and grinding her ass on my crotch, the little guy just doesn't wake up.
I finally had my first encounter a couple of days ago (quick confession: it was my first time EVER...yes I was/am a virgin) and although the girl was smokin' hot and I was super-stoked that it was finally happening....for THE WHOLE DAMN SESSION the little fucker was dead as a doornail!!!
I still thought it was a nice experience...but obviously not being able to get it up never mind firing off definately put a cramp on things. She did try bless her heart, giving me BBBJ after BBBJ as well as a few HJs, but I got the feeling that she was starting to get as frustrated as I was and maybe even a little bit disappointed about the whole thing.
So of course later that night after I got home...I had no problem jacking off to her pics...twice!
I'd like to become a regular of hers, but needless to say, this problem NEEDS TO GO AND STAY AWAY. She's sweet and she tries, but I don't know how much she likes guys who can't get it up when they're with her.
So no matter how turned on I am...whenever I'm in the actual presence of a chick I seem to have this subconscious mental block that keeps my trouser snake asleep.
Any advice on how I can crush this damn block to powder and blow it away?
It sounds more likely that you are talking about performance anxiety, not ED. ED is a medical condition. If you are young and healthy it's probably not ED. If you have any medical issues that you think may be causing your problem then your next stop should be at your doctor's office.
I actually think that you may be better off trying it with the same lady again. Unless you did something to piss her off you really don't need to worry about the fact that you didn't finish. Trust me it happens to guys all the tome and every provider has experienced this. As long as you pay her and don't try to lay blame on her for it you are fine.
If you are having problems due to nervousness it seems to me you would be better to try again with a gal that you have already seen, like, and are comfortable with.
just my 2 cents.
Obviously your cock can get hard because you jack off regularly. Therefore it is NOT ED, or a physical problem.
Have a few drinks before your next session, and tell the provider that you are new/nervous. She will work with you if she is well reviewed.I would NOT recommend this for ED, but for anxiety/nervousness (which you clearly have a case of) a couple of drinks might relax you.
Hey, it's an excuse to get drunk! Good luck!
Yeah, I had already told her at the beginning that I was a virgin, never mind a newbie. But like I said, she nonetheless seemed to get a bit frustrated which made me fear that I would'nt exactly be her favorite guy to see.
Sorry about the misuse of the term ED. But limp is limp and I really hope that last time will be THE LAST time that it happens!
I'm also hoping that it is indeed just a matter of getting familiar with someone and that my "subconsciousness" or whatever just needs to get used to her. I just hope that it doesn't take too long and that she'll be patient with me.
Thank you both for your comments!
If anyone else would still like to give their 2 cents on this, I'm all ears (or eyes as the case may be).
How old are you? Overweight?
Physically? 37. (Mentally, still 13 
Overweight? A little. If this "BMI calculator" I found is legit, my BMI's roughly 25.7-26.5.
Hey buddy,
I had the same problem (though not as bad as yours since I did get it up a few times in the session). Read my sole review, if you are interested.
I think you were referring to my post circa December 12th or so.
I am a chronic worrier to begin with and the whole sex with a stranger idea coupled with fears of LE and STDs didn't help.
Anyway, the advice so far is good. It's not ED and probably nervousness. I can easily get it up for Jenna Haze or Taylor Rain.
I plan on seeing the same girl again (and maybe someone else in between). I am a ruthless fucker - cheating on my provider. LOL.
Good luck,
RedCloak
She is the guru of mental problems and if she doesn't fix your problem in just three session it's double your money back.
Tell her mrfisher sent ya.
(I get a blender with every ten referals I send.)
Seriously though, she is good.
From reading her board for many years I can tell you one thing that she will recomend and that is to cut out the porn so that your psyche has most space in it to deal with real women.
Best of luck with mr noodle.
I actually did try asking TLG about my problem but I still don't see it there.
Was it not accepted b/c it was regarded as a "repeat" post?
How do I get her two cents from there then if I've already made a thread about it here?
Been there big time! This will be long, but want to let you know how it all worked out for me.
Started with my first gf in high school. Took months to get over, but once I got over it, man, I was over it! Did not run into that problem again for years. But did run into it again:
Had not been with a woman for years. Bitter, bitter divorce, with a bitter horrible woman who did her damndest to destroy me. Finally decided it was time to get back in the saddle, and saw my first provider.
Things were fine. Not getting it up was the furthest thing from my mind. Was nervous as HELL, but started off with a bjtc with no problem (hadn't planned that, but it was so glorious, I couldn't stop her). Then thought I'd go for another pop. Got the cover on, got in, and within a few thrusts I was out and limp as a noodle. I was shocked. Not getting or keeping it up was the furthest thing from my mind. Rushed it I'm sure is all it was, and I just wasn't ready, but the mental impact was horrendous. Old thoughts came back in.
Our 2nd visit, same thing. I had it on the brain, and could not get one up for intercourse to save my life (a leisure sit back and receive a bj was not a big problem though).
After this visit, the thoughts were all consuming. All I could think about was failing to get it up. Even got so bad I could not get it up by myself anymore.
Took a big chance, was desperate, and went to a hypnotherapist a few days before my next visit with the provider. Yup, probably "junk medicine" or whatever you want to call it, but I went in with an open mind. What an experience that was! I left so relaxed I felt almost drunk. She gave me a CD to listen to as well, listened to it every night as I went to bed, and planned for the hour or two before the lady got to the room to lay back and listen to the cd and just mellow out, getting as relaxed as possible and listening to the tips on the cd. Important thing though was she (the therapist) gave me the "tools" to help put my problems out of my mind long enough to let the physical sensations overtake my anxiety.
So, she arrived for our 3rd visit. As we were having drinks, I was up front with her, and told her I was having a problem, and it was a mental block, talked about it for a bit, and asked for help to get me past it. Just getting that out in the open helped a great deal I think, and she was quite understanding.
I learned through the hypnotherapy to put it out of my mind to a great extent by focusing on her. Her skin, her nipples, how she felt, the way she smelled. Really focus intently on her. Smoothness and texture of skin. Smells of hair, skin, her expressions, eyes, etc. Visuals of her body and face.
So, it came time to give it another shot. Got the cover on quick (had it out, open and ready). I'm a bit large, so I was trying to be considerate and ease it in, and she grabbed my ass and pulled me in with a "get in there" type of thing (thought that was funny and cute as hell, and was just what I needed at the moment). Once I made it past the first 10 to 15 seconds or so and it was apparent it was not going to be a problem THIS TIME, I moved forward and again, never looked back.
It's mental dude. You gotta get past the mental part. Be up front and open about it (that takes a good part of the pressure off), and then relax, focus on her, and go with the mind set that if it doesn't work "this time", you're going to have fun regardless.
Viagra may help just a bit. It will NOT "cure" this problem, but can help a bit in keeping you harder, for just a little longer, and buy you a little time to get into the intercourse and let your body and sensations take over. (word of caution though if you do this, take only 1/4 tablet. Any more, and it is greatly desensatizing, at least for me, and counter productive. And see a doc. Don't go trying to buy the stuff over the internet). Do not expect it to "cure" this problem though, because viagra alone will not do it. You could take a bottle of the things, and if your brain isn't in the right place, it won't do you much good. In my experience, it will buy you a little time, but that's it.
Good luck. Many of us have been there. You can get past it, but you gotta focus on her and the sex, and not the problem.
In a comfortable safe relationship I have no problem getting it up. If I am at all nervous or uncomfortable Viagra helps tremendously to overcome the problem. I have had three provider appointments in my life I could not get it up for. Only one time could I say it was the woman's fault. The other times she was great.
Too much Viagra makes it harder to get off so you have to find the right balance. For me 100 mg gives an explosive erection and I can still get off fine. Sometimes 50 mg is more then adequate. I get the 100 mg ones and break them in half since they cost the same as the 50 mg ones. (about $18 each - ouch!)
Getting a prescription is easy. Medically a doctor only has to hear that you are having a problem and that you are not taking nitrates or any other conflicting medicines or health issues to prescribe it.
My friend got the knock off stuff online for much less money and it worked. The company bambarded his email account forever afterwards and he wishes he had set up a new email account just for that order. Personally my health and safety is worth more then the savings of buying an unknown drug off the internet.
$18 PER PILL!!??
I don't think I can afford that! (Was also hoping to avoid using meds).
Sometimes Viagra is just an easy way out. The aftermarket stuff is 1/5 the cost of genuine Viagra. It is a simple formula to duplicate but you do not know for sure what you are getting. I disagree with the get drunk advice. Maybe a glass of wine or a beer but not drunk.
an FDA approved drug and and has a high probability of being fake. Try to look at the price of Viagra this way. It cost $18/100mg pill. The therapeutic dose for most men is usually somewhere between 25 and 50 mg lowering your cost to $6 per dose if divided into thirds or $4.50 if quartered. Most pharmacies sell pill cutters so you can accurately divide your doses. IMHO I would try non pharmaceutical means before Viagra.
Doc
In my case I think it was mostly mental. I am constantly working on 4 or 5 life/business challenges at once and I think I wasn't in the moment enough.
There's a a lot of value in being present in the Zen-monk sense. My approach next time is to really try to tune out the the fears and fully experience the beauty she is offering.
As far as pharmaceuticals go, I am always wary of those, and would only consider those as a last resort. I'd rather figure out some "natural" makeshift remedy. I need to make more friends who live in adobe huts who work with mortar and pestles.