I am new to this and do not a referal that I can use.  The provider that I have been in contact with requires a referal from a well known provider for which I have none.  I respect that but I am up against a wall. I do not have any interest any lesser providers than her that might not have such restrictions.  I have high standards and class when I see what I want I usually get it.  This is killing me. Any help from the pros?

It sounds like you are accustomed to getting your way and commonly having doors opened for you. As much as you wish there was a magic pill you may just have to slug it out in the minor’s for a while. Like the old Smith / Barney commercial said. "We achieved success the old fashioned way; we earn it!"

Ask her if she'll accept other info in place of a referral. Many women do.

Ask her exactly what she needs to establish a comfort level. If you are unable to provide this then ask if she has any other methods that she might consider. If she has only specific demands and you can not meet them... then it probably isn't going to happen.

Depending on the city you are playing in the standards vary. Many times larger Metropolitan Cities have agencies that have several different avenues to clear a client. (*I did not say lesser standards or not as definite requests I just said different.... once you have seen a provider through an agency, then ask that agency to provide you with a reference.*)

Thank you for your help.  I think I have found the golden key.  I signed up with Date-check and obtained a ID #.  I am hoping that will take me to the promissed land in Orange County CA.