Here are sum tips from a womens point of view..

Ask a women to not wear scents if you are going home to a wife.

Save providers name & numbers under a business or mans name if you call allot.

Do not shower.. Youll walk in smelling fresh out of the shower.. NEVER good.. Just damp rag it.. And you should be fine.

dont act extra interested in the wife.. If you dont on a normal base... Just act normal. Anytime a man is acting different women can tell. no extra kisses no extra hi honeys.. etc. dead ringer.

Dont use the .. stayed extra after work.. If your not good at lying.. find a extra hobby.. Golf, Casino, homedepot !

And if your friends are her friends.. DONT use them as excuses.. EVEN if you cant think of anything else to say.. This will bit you in the butt. !!!

Just alil help from your special secret... Bella

I'll sometimes stop at the health club for a quick workout and shower before going home.

I avoid some of these concerns about smelling different by bringing with me the same soap and aftershave / cologne that I use at home in a "hobby kit" that I take with me. A quick freshen up shower with my own "scents" has worked fine for me. I figure it's better to smell a bit fresher than having the smells that might be transferred after having some fun..

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1. I routinely work out at the gym anyway. So I stop by the gym and have a workout/shower both on my way TO and FROM a provider. I belong to a couple of conveniently located gyms/gym chains.

2. Clothes worn to see a provider are either discarded or saved and washed later at a laundromat. It's a small expense. Besides, my wife really shouldn't have to touch anything with another woman's scent on it.

3. Phone numbers are double-coded; both using a man's name AND using what is called a "5-code."

4. Email is on a domain and server that I own and control under an alias.

5. When used for ANY hobby activity, computer is booted from a pen drive running Knoppix from an encrypted partition. No files are ever stored on the regular computers and a looong password is needed to decrypt the encrypted partition on the thumb drive.

6. Funds are derived from hidden accounts. I described this trick -- using digital gold and gold-funded debit cards -- on the GD board a while back.

7. Wife doesn't have sex anyway, so she'd notice nothing unusual there.

8. I'm always very affectionate/kind to my wife anyway, so she'd notice little unusual there.

9. Just in case, I always make sure I arrive home several hours after the actual appointment and to have engaged in some other project to distract me before I encounter my wife. I also always have ready some engrossing topic to discuss with her.

10. Wives are not fools. They are walking lie-detector machines better than anything the FBI has. On top of that, my wife is a supragenius. Odds are, if she really wanted, she'd know more about the women I've seen than I do. All she requires is that I be sufficiently careful that she can engage in self-deception, avoid being embarassed, and that my limited activities don't deprive her of anything she would otherwise have.

11. Statistics say women cheat as much as men these days. Maybe if one's wife hasn't "caught" him, there's a reason she hasn't. And, being more emotionally intelligent than men; wives are much less likely to be caught unless they want to be.

I like the booting from the encrypted Knoppix flash drive.  

...and it makes me very glad I don't have to jump through any of those hoops =)

I just smoke a big cigar before going home.  I get to enjoy the cigar, and no one in the house wants to get near me or my clothes until I've showered.