"To whitelist a user, click on the "Reviews" link near the top of the screen, and then click "Search White List" on the left side of the screen. Type in the hobbyists TER username (or his email address if you don't know his username, which may or may not match up depending on what email he uses on his profile). Once you find the hobbyist you are looking for, click on the "Submit Referral" button. Only provider accounts can see this button."

That was taken directly form the following link, which can be found in the self help center (top of the page by the life preserver)

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=75530&boardID=33&page=