There have been 2-3 ladies I have really wanted to meet. I tried emailing all 3 and only 1 responded and said no bc I dont have references. The other 2 didnt even bother writing back. I dont have any references as I am new to all of this. How do I get the first 2 to meet me without any references from providers?

Date-Check, Preferred411, RS2K...are all good starting points. Depending on what part of the country you are in, one will work better for you than the others. They are simple, not that expensive, and they work. Also, you should be sure to get VIP membership here. The benefits are priceless for $20 a month.

Welcome & good luck

I'm new and I had the same issue as you.  I signed up for date-check and contacted someone on that site which was a highly reviewed person on here.

Another thing that I noticed is that I get better responses via email if I give as much detail as possible.  Exact Time, Date, How Long, incall or outcall.  I actually have not received responses when I don't get that exact detail.

Hopefully now that I have one under my belt it will only get better from here.

it helps alot ( dont try to reinvent the wheel)
follow clues from others on TER, and get references (RS2K,Datecheck,etc.) I made first contact after i got a RS2K and got a reply back the same night).
Just think, if you where a provider who was smart.. what would you do.. you would want to know who was contacted you/setting up a meeting. So with that.. be upfront and give a sense of security to the provider.

good luck

Agencies are easier on first-timers

Also, if you want to get a date quick, skip the email, just gather a list of numbers and start calling. Never failed me

When I got started a couple of years ago I looked over the provider sites and found one where she indicated she had an alternate screening process if you didn't have references.  I did the alternate process and saw her for my first go around in the hobby.