I'm really embarrased that I do this but How can I stop cold turkey? I want to build up sensitivity.  So when I penetrate a woman, I can explode.  Im tired of taking close to an hour to Cumm.  I feel like I make the woman soar. Especially with my endowed self.  I want to be able to complete in about 30 minutes.  

Thanks..

This is actually an important topic.  In my experience, the real "problem" with masterbating is that we teach our bodies to respond to certain kinds of stimulation.  Then when the opportunity for "the real thing" appears, our body does not get exactly what it is used to.  

How to Quit?  Ouch, I'll let you know when if I ever accomplish it.  Seriously though, an interim step is to use a super slick lube.  

To QUIT cold turkey...  you'd have to avoid the stimulous entirely.  No porn.  Anything you find stimulating is out...  between real episodes.  In my personal experience (limited as it may be),  the body adapts quickly to changed stimulus but you need to be consistant.  I don't think setting time goals is helpful...  focus instead on enjoying your partner & yourself...  the sensations...   If a particular position isn't hitting the right spots for you shift, change or whatever.  

You might want to pose thios Question to LG on the Erotic Highway, if you have not yet.  
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In many cases that means much, much more. lol

Until about five years ago I, like most men jerked off routinely. Usually it was due to not having enough sex and having those ocassional droughts of going days or even weeks without getting any.

In the last five years I have on average had sex about 7-10 times a week. I was averaging about 10 times a week, but that number has since declined to about once a day.  I think I have found a happy medium. It now takes me about 30 minutes to cum if I only have sex once a day, if I have sex more than once the second time takes me around an hour on the third it may take well over an hour. Anything more than three times a day and I may not even be able to cum without skin on skin contact.

I don't know your age, but I am fifty. My sex drive is not quite as strong as it once was, but I can say as long as I don't go more than a day or two without "real sex" I no longer feel any overpowering urge to "self service"

Carry some around with you and when that irresistable urge strikes, pull them out and look at them.

If that don't make your weiner wilt, you had better head for a shrink.

They don't pick 'em for their looks, in case you haven't noticed.

I become aroused several times a day by something - usually visual - though I rarely if ever watch porn.

I have learned to enjoy being aroused without doing anything about it. Letting it play out. Rarely if ever touching myself, and that usually if I've had a session that was a bit less satisfying than desired.

Being able to experience and attend to the cycle of arousal without requiring completion is a major key to letting go of control of your own orgasm. And this is the key to getting the best out of "real" sex.

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I jerk off daily or every other day, but I go cold turkey the three or four days leading up to a visit with a provider.  That usually works for me.

In order to brake a long standing (excuse the pun) habit it is usually necessary to replace it with another. I try to do some push-up/sit-ups as exercise has actual benefits.

I'm sorry,did somenbody say they wanted to STOP?

thanks for the advice guys I will post this same question under the Erotic Highway.

in the last 24hrs I did not masturbate or jerk off , but I did dream of a beautifull woman begging me to have sex with her and I kept brushing her off...

1) Post this question on the Erotic Highway board.  Love Goddess has fielded this question before, and will lay out a program for you to follow.

2) Go out and get laid, as soon as and as often as possible.  Whether with a provider or civvie, you want to abstain for at 24 hours prior to, 48 - 72 hrs. preferable.  As the old song said, ain't nothing like the real thing...

3) Use your PC during idle time for purposes other than surfing the 'net for porn.  Go out and conquer the galaxy, or kill some creatures, instead.

yes watching porn is a killer if you want to hobby.  Also when your seeing someone don't have ANY sex till your appointment.  It really helped me.  Spend more time kissing, hugging and getting licked. take more time enjoying the scenery.  The buildup is great.  I am a one time popper so I enjoy the appetizers.

If you schedule sex at least every other day, you should be able to avoid masturbation.