Hey Omaha,

Go to the FAQ for Newbies forum and look for the lifesaver icon and click on the words 'Self-Help Center' right below that icon.

You'll get all of your answers that you need there.

If you have a specific question that is not answered in the 'Self-Help Center', go ahead and post your question in the FAQ for Newbies forum.

Welcome and good luck!

Serpius
 

One is that the TER White List is not held in that high esteem by some gals, so you can't depend on that to get you in the door with many providers, especially the higher rated ones you desire.

Second, you might want to consider the benefits of keeping your TER personnal and your real life (The one that the gals will want to know about.) separate.

The reason for this is that if you feel you want to write very honest reviews, and feel uncomfortable criticizing someone, you will be stuck if she knows who you are.  You have up to 90 days to write a review which is enough time  so that a gal won't be able to associate you with a specific review.

I don't know if most reviewers keep this wall up between the two, but many do; and you'll have a hard time rebuilding it later if you let it come down now.

So no SMART providers will care about your TER handle. They would only use TER username as a part of verification if you have at least 5 reviews.

Many guys are advised to go out and see random BP girls with no reviews just so they can have refs...um, no. I am not accepting a reference from some random girl who has not rep and nothing to lose. If she does not have a "professional" website and a six month history of reviews on TER, she is of no use to me. Other ladies still require your full name and employment no matter how many prior refs you have, so choose based on your comfort level.