While it is true that there are providers who will not see you, there are many who will be happy to see you. I guess you need to just keep searching the ads, websites and reviews. You are right to avoid the ones who announce in their ad that they don't see African Americans. If they are upfront about it, then you don't have to worry about wasting your time or theirs. However if there is nothing stated in the ad or the website, then you can casually mention your race in your first contact with them and go from there. You might also consider posting this on the "In Search Of" board. You could word it the same way you did here "Respectabel Black Man Seeking White female providers." Mention the city where you are seeking. You can also try that on the regional boards, although ISO posts on the regional boards sometimes get moved to the ISO board anyway. If you are VIP here (and you should be) you might get answers by PMs also. Good Luck!
Actually better than here, IMHO. Definitely indicate your general location (city), or someone will ask you where you are, so many people post ISO questions w/o telling where they are. Using the same headline you used here is also a good idea. That way you should not have to deal with unnecessary replies hopefully. If your regional board is not real active, you might try posting there, but oftentimes ISO posts on regional boards get moved to the ISO board. That's why you need to include where you are in the post.
during the screening about your ethnicity. And yes, many will turn you down for being African-American. It sucks but you have to keep looking. Some will take your offer.
If you treat them with respect, don't talk dirty, don't do degrading or humiliating things, or pound them like crazy, and pay with good tips, then you should be okay. Some WHITE providers will start vouching for you, and that could open more doors to beautiful blondies.
Right now, you can't do much but be patient and build a good reputation. Also, some providers told me that they don't want to see Indians either (South Asia Indians/ pakistani). Like I said, it is what it is
Mason: In regard to the providers in question, I'm amazed that they'll see me but not Denzel Washington.
My advice would be to join a screening service like P411 or Datecheck and accumulate a few Provider OKs. That will give you credibility with those providers who normally exclude black men. Your approach could be: "I know you don't see black men, but I have 5 provider oks. If you contact any of those providers, they will tell you that I'm a gentleman."
Good luck. --z
Posted By: masononeal
Hello forum
I am a Black male thats been in this industry for about two years now. I only see top notch
providers. I really would like to see more white providers but often times I am turned down
before I can even call because of the "No African Americans" disclaimer. I've learned to respect
the rules of the industry by not contacting those ads, but a lot of those women are very attractive.
I would love to meet a pretty blonde, blue eyed provider without the risk of disrespecting her
or the rules of the industry. Does anyone have any tips on how I can meet more white
Providers who do not see African-American men are either racist, or have a pimp, so be happy they decline. You do not want to waste your time & $ anyway! Try posting in the ISO board.
FYI not all black men are well endowed this is a myth ladies!
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