Hello All,

I'm a bit of a newbie and was curious to know if providers are required to be tested for stds before seeing clients?  On the flipside, how do they verify that their clients are std free?  The reason I ask is that some providers offer bbbjs and daty and wanted to know if this should be a concern of mine going into a session.  Is it alright to ask a provider if they have been tested recently upfront, or is this considered inappropriate?   I've noticed that on some of the pre-screening questions providers ask they mainly want to verify your identity and verify that you are not LE, however I have not seen a question about std history come up.  Is this just the norm and should I just be aware that I am taking a risk any time I see a provider.  I am currently std free and plan on staying that way.  I would greatly appreciate some feedback from any providers and/or reviewers to get your opinion on this matter and how you would handle it or have handle it in the past.  Thanks!

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To answer your question, it would be highly inappropriate to ask a provider if they have been tested recently. That would be the equivalent of asking if they planned on showering the day they were going to see you. And if she told yes, she was clean STD wise, would that mean anything to you? Would you ask to see her test results next? No, it doesnt work that way.  

We all decide what the risks are, and are not, acceptable in this world. Some guys/girls demand a CBJ for this reason. Most dont. You have to decide what you have to lose and what the downside is for you to give/reveive unprotected oral sex with a sex worker. No one can answer that but you.

You already know the answer. Which is that you accept the REAL risk of STD's if you choose to hobby. While you can choose to see women who are more selective, lower-volume, etc., there is absolutely NO basis in claiming *for sure* that such people are any more or less likely to have an STD. This is a high-risk activity, no matter how careful you are. Using condoms cuts down your risk, but does NOT eliminate it.

Just to mention it, there is a screening site for this. But, nobody uses it except a handful of ppl (from what I've seen). I support it (as a theoretical and somewhat idealistic idea), but not because it really cuts down any risk. What you have to understand is that most STD's have window periods in which they are not detectable by a blood or urine test. AIDS, for example, has a window period of up to 6 months. Scary! So tests don't mean a guarantee of safety.

In short, no way say definitely that your partner is 100% free and clear, even if she literally just got tested an hour ago. Just accept the risks, and protect yourself the best you can.

I told mine that I am in a phase where I am seeing providers for the first time.  He set up an open order at the lab for me, I can go get tested whenever I want and I go every six weeks (minimum).  While this is difficult for a married man to tell a Dr, it would be far more difficult explaining to my wife why she suddenly has issues.

Tested hiv#.  Have two tests tomorrow to verify.  Haven't told anyone yet.

I know I already communicate this on the GD Board....

It is SO critical that you find a support group while you sort this out.

And even more critical that you advise all those ladies you have seen.  They are, as you wait, seeing additional clients.  And while we all like to think that it is only our dicks that taste like ice cream and our cum that tastes like gumdrops, and that a lady would only offer BBFS to us becaue we are so very special, if they were doing that with you, they are doing it with others.  Others who can now be getting infeected, and infecting others in our community.

So step it up please.  You have had a few days for this to sink in.  Set up a dummy Gmail account. head to a library, and let these ladies know that they had BB sex with you and that you tested positive.

While this is a potent cautionary tale for all of us, and will be taken as such (cover people, always be covered for intercourse), you need to take the next step.  If that is too hard to do, PM me the email addresses of all the women you believe you have had the potential to infect.  I will take that part of the burden off of you and do it myself this week

I've also seen your GD posts...  if you are real & not a TROLL...  then you need to step up & do the right thing by which I mean sending a notice to ALL the gals you've been with.  NOW!!  As has been suggested, you can use a anonymous email.  You should describe the time frame & location where you saw each so the ladies will take it seriously.  They need to know, so they can be tested immediately.  
Bad news never improves with time.  

I'm sorry for being rude but Holy Shit...you need to be telling ladies what you possibly may have. I would be paying top dollar for multiple same day test results and telling all who are at risk, instead of keeping this a secret to yourself. If you type into google, "anonymous std notification", you can inform those you've seen without "outing" yourself. Spreading an std creates a domino effect that ruins many lives and relationships not just yours. Don't be lazy, email those at risk and do the right thing.