First I knew my topic had to be on the message board somewhere so I tried to search, found nothing.

So, I posted and have a ton of messages and 1/2 of them say the topic has been covered before.

I get the following:
http://www.theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/LinkMsg.asp?BoardID=12&Messageid=802210

If I do a Google search on this URL, Google says it doesn't exist.

This all should not be rocket science.

HELP PLEASE.

The link you posted (quoted below) works for me.  It's a reply to your OP on the GENERAL BOARD (not the newbie board) called "What to do about a huge disappointment" posted on 9/26.  

1. Click on the My TER tab. 2. Click on My Message Boards (on the left hand column) 3. Look for your recent posts.

OR: 1. Go to General Discussion Board 2. Click Search button (near the top) 3. Enter "What to do about a huge disappointment" without the quotes. 4. Leave it at 30 to 0 days.  5. Search Voila!

OR: 1. Go to General Discussion Board 2. Click Search button (near the top) 3. Enter delmarfred in the author field ... Voila!

I think you're searching the wrong board, so give yourself a face palm, put your tail between your legs and post again some other day.