I apologize in advance if this a common question. I've been trying to read everything I possibly can on the newbie board. This board has helped me out tremendously with the different threads and the self-help. Thank you to all the vets and providers who have helped me and other newbies out. As a newbie, I'm trying my best to stick with highly reviewed providers. Even a few solid reviews helps me feel safe if I decide to contact a provider.  

Right now, I’m going with e-mail contact over calling. Only because, as I said, I’m a newbie. And, I just feel safer doing so. I understand a highly reviewed provider have a short schedule to fit in a newbie, because I assume most have regulars. I also took the necessary steps to join RS2K so a provider can verify me. Of course, I really don’t know the timeframe in which it takes to verify someone through those sites. I also understand that references help out, which I don’t have any. I even go back and read the e-mails I sent out to see if I made myself seem like a idiot. I don’t use any vulgarity and I chose my words wisely. I try to put as much information within the e-mail as I can.

Questions: If after contacting a provider, how long should I wait for a response back from the provider? When should I give up hope and try a new provider?

Any help would be welcomed. Thanks.

So far it sounds as you have done everything right . Congrat's !
Be a gentleman at all times , sounds like you have that covered .
E mails are common and just fine when " window shopping " , but realize they get e mails from dudes just wasting their time as well.
Settle on one , make it known to her , your serious with date , time , and your RS2K info , throw in a honest compliment, and hit the send button . I have a limit of 24 hours . 24 hours and I move on to plan B . Here in South Florida there are 171 listed on EROS at any given time - some real hotties - thank you SOUTH FLORIDA ladies ! Add in Backpage , Freepost and there is some real competion out there . The economy sucks !!!  I personally am not seeing their phones ringing off the hook or full voice mail boxes . Quite the oppisite ............
If your initial conact ( e mail ) was serious , written well , and all the info she needed was given , I have had a response MANY times , within MINUTES !  Dead serious , I don't know how they respond so fast
Texting a lady , again not uncommon after your initial contact , is off the wall fast !
RS2k as I understand it ...............She is running a buisness , part of that is verifing you , can be a pain and takes time . What you have done makes it easier for her to simply type in your  screen name and make sure you are who you say you are . Kinda like my customer including a hard copy of the open Purcahse Order with the equipment to be fixed - Sweet , I am already getting paid before I start . Joining these sites is a great idea on your part .

Answer .........24 hours with your first choice , keep window shopping for plan b and even plan c

That's what I usually wait. My "to do" list is so long, sometimes I don't even send a follow up email. You need to make sure you come across as a serious hobbyist, not a tire kicker. Are you asking for a date with a specific day, time and length of date.  If not, and you're just asking questions that are answered on her web site, she might have just deleted your email. Sometimes life gets in the way of the hobby. Ladies have kids, parents, so's to take care of. They go on vacation, lots of reasons why she might not respond timely. Remember these ladies are independent, they don't run their business like a Fortune 500 company, at least most don't. In time, you'll get used to the non repsonses. BTW, I've attached a previous thread on this subject.
Try using the search feature, use the search by "subject" most newb questions have been asked numerous times and instead of waiting for an answer, you can get it immediatley answered using the seach feature.

I would say give it at least a few days for her to get back to you there could be many factors on why a lady may not be able to respond immediately.She could be on vacation,provides part-time,does not check emails regularly,your email went into her spam folder well you get the drift.In your initial email are you specifying a date and time of requested appointment along with the info she requires?Also,it depends on when you want the appointment if you contact a lady and want an appointment 2 days away of course waiting a few days for a response would not apply.if you know your plans try to schedule a week or two in advance so that allows you to find another lady if you have not gotten a reply.

I am a Email Only lady and I always respond to emails within 24hrs usually a lot sooner if I am not available I let a guy so he can make other plans.But,every lady is different on how she conducts her business and her response time schedule in advance,provide the necessary info,and be respectful and you should not have an issue.
Good luck to you.

How long you wait will depend on how far out you are scheduling. If it is in three days, then you should follow up in 24 hours. If it is a week or more, then wait 2-4 days.

Beyond three days, there is a fair chance the lady lost your email beneath a pile of other emails, so a reminder is in order. Be polite and considerate, remembering that email will tend to exaggerate the negative, and you do not want to go into a date with the provider thinking you are an angry little bitch. So keep it simple - "Hi, have not heard back and just want to make sure you got my last email and we are on for..."

However... there are organized providers, there are compulsive providers, and there are chaotic providers. How and when she replies to you provides important clues about how she will behave before and during your date. Are you okay if she runs an hour late? Or will sitting around waiting make you crazy? If you are very organized, maybe a bit on the compulsive side, then you may want to look for a lady who responds promptly and clearly, or at least acknowledges and apologizes when she made you wait for a reply.

On the other hand, if you tend to run late, are pretty relaxed, and would like to take the chance that a lady who seems to share those traits would also be more likely to lose track of your hour as it turns into 2, then be patient and go with it. My first favorite was like that, terrible about time and replying, but also terrible about keeping track of when our time started and ended (toward the end of our visits, we had a 90 minute date that had run over 2 1/2 hours and I was telling her we were way over time and I should go, and she was arguing with me about that, telling me I was wrong, it was fine, don't be in such a rush). Over time she got more chaotic, and I lost patience with the whole thing, so now I expect a prompt reply or at least an acknowledgement when a reply was slow. If I do not get that, I am a lot more likely to look elsewhere.

Lastly, as said above, make sure you give the lady every reason to respond. If you have a question, ask it clearly, simply, politely. Explain briefly why you would like an answer, and when you think you might get together based on her reply. I usually also say that I will not waste any more of her time until I am ready to schedule, and I do not bother her again. Even better, if you are ready, just propose a day and time, provide a little info about yourself, whatever screening info she requires, and ask for confirmation of the day and time. Also ask if she needs anything else from you. Don't ramble, but make sure you give her all the details she will need. That way she knows you are serious.

And I pretty much always use email. Of the ladies I have seen, there are only a very few that I contacted any other way, and that was because they specified it. One by phone, and four (three of which were in Europe) by text. There are a few more that I spoke to after the initial email, for one reason or another, usually at their request. Not talking about the two-call, just the scheduling process.

I use P411, so I most often email the lady first, get a tentative confirmation, and then send an appointment request through P411. In the last two weeks, I have done this with two touring ladies. In both cases, there was a lag in replying after I sent the P411 request. The first one I emailed to check after three days, and she replied saying we were on, she thought she had replied. The current one said we were on in email, send a request (we have actually emailed on and off for a few months, but our schedules never worked). It has been three days now, and the date is still over a week out. I am going to wait one more day and then will email her to confirm she got the request, and all is good. If I do not get a reply to that in a day or two (which I consider very unlikely based on our previous communication), I will move on. I always have a list of new ladies, and my regulars, that I can work through if something is not working out.

hope that helps,
zig

The provider may be booked up , taking a few days off, on vacation or touring .

If you have not heard back within a few days ,and you let her know in your email that you are RS 2K. I would find someone else.

via email, the word will get out that you are a time waster.  You should only send an email to a lady when you are ready to schedule some time with her.  As you said, be specific as to date, time, location (in/outcall), length of date, etc.  Also, give her some information about yourself, age, ht., weight, ethnicity, etc.  Some ladies don't see guys under 35, guys over 6', guys over 300 lbs., guys of a certain race, etc.

Did you let them know a safe time to contact you back?  They may be nervous about contacting an email that may be seen by SO..  Let the provider know that the email is safe to reply to you or a safe mode of contact as well as safe time to contact you.

Thank you for the responses. They were very helpful.

I guess, my next course of action is e-mailing a follow up and possibly sending a e-mail to the provider on her other e-mail account. The provider strictly goes e-mail for contact. I'll be patient and wait it out, if not, moving on.

Thanks again, everyone. Have a great upcoming weekend

Thank you for your response. The provider I am trying to contact is also a e-mail only lady. This is very helpful going forward.

I always give an email response to an initial (serious or serious inquiry) request within 24 hours. This way the gentleman can make plans or secure another provider if I am not available or able to fulfill his request. I use a smart phones which allows for easier access to emails 24/7. After that, esoecially since i mainly do prebooks, depending on the time frame, we can email and follow up to complete the details later.

Summer