After 3 extreamly misrable relationships I put a halt to the dateing/GF area of my life.

This worked great for the first few years But it would seem you can not surpress the testosterone for ever, So I decided to give hobbying a try I think it will be hard to beat a these lovely ladies and with no attachments guaranteed how can you go wrong?

so far I've found a lovely Woman and sent her an E-mail requesting a little of her time, But I find my self very nervous sence I just dont know what to expect.

Can any one give me any insight on what to expect after the screening and you finaly meet, Do the providers normaly spend some time talking with you to get a sence of what you like or dislike?

Is it normaly a one on one meeting or should you expect it to be less than privet?

If its not the girl you were expecting, should or can you still compensate her for some of her time and leave or is that bad taste?

Just a little lost, but thanks for any advice in advance!

> Can any one give me any insight on what to expect after the
> screening and you finaly meet, Do the providers normaly spend
> some time talking with you to get a sence of what you like or
> dislike?

Providers vary in their personalities (just like any other person).  Some will be very talkative and 'conversational, while other may want to just 'get down to business'.  Most all will be eager to please.  One thing you do need to be a bit careful of during the initial stages of contacting and meeting a provider for the first time is not to be too explicit about what sexual acts you'd like her to perform.  This is because too much talk along these lines could make her think you're LE (law enforcement, the police) trying to entrap her.  Once she's satisfied that you're not LE (generally after your first meeting with her), you should be able to speak much more freely.


> Is it normaly a one on one meeting or should you expect it to
> be less than privet?

Absolutely it should be private.


> If its not the girl you were expecting, should or can you still
> compensate her for some of her time and leave or is that bad
> taste?

The key to this, and most other aspects of success in the Hobby lies in doing your research.  Online reviews are an invaluable resource for finding out all about a given provider -- what she will or will not do, how talkative she is, what she looks like, etc.  I highly recommend making the small investment to become a VIP member here on TER -- it will pay for itself many times over.


> Just a little lost, but thanks for any advice in advance!

No problem.  We were all newbies once!  Good luck, and happy hobbying.

Cheers!

The better providers do make an effort to get to know you a little, given the limited time frame.  While it's improper to discuss sex acts or money during the screening process, it's perfectly okay once a session has begun, so long as you always behave as a gentleman.  It's imperative, though, that before you approach one of the providers, you carefully research her web site and her reviews to be sure she offers the services you want.  

The meeting will be private.  Some providers have a driver who accompanies them on outcalls.  The driver is more security than transportation.  He will disappear once the provider gives him the okay.

If you find yourself in a bait-and-switch, you're not obligated to pay anything so long as you make the no-go decision at the door.  If, on the other hand, you invite the lady in and spend five or ten minutes deciding she's not for you, then you really do have an obligation to pay something.  The amount here becomes sticky, so again, if she's not what you expected when you open the door, it's best to graciously explain that she's not what you had in mind, thank her for her time, and say good-night.  If in doing so, you still feel you'd like to compensate the lady for her trouble, you certainly can, but as I said, you're under no obligation.

This kind of thing happens often with agencies.  The photo you see and the description you hear may have no resemblance to the woman who shows up at your door.  With independents, while not unheard of, it's much rarer.

I've included a link to an earlier post of mine that you may find helpful.

-- Modified on 6/22/2004 1:40:56 PM

-- Modified on 6/22/2004 1:42:10 PM

Remember that there isn't any "right" answer to how or how much to relax and socialize with a Lady before moving on to other things.

--Do try to talk with her on the phone if she is willing prior to meeting.  Some do, some don't.

--Do read her reviews for a feel of her personality and her pace.

--Read her web site; that often gives a sense of her personality from her viewpoint.

Relax, treat her like the special woman she is, and enjoy.

Thanks for the reply I hate going in to a situation blind.

Great link came across that post the other day. I guess the no shows would be a point in the ladies fav for a client review sight.

I do wonder though if some agencies send the ladies over failing to mention the client requested some ealse.

"it's perfectly okay once a session has begun, so long as you always behave as a gentleman"

Is good to know I dont belive I've seen when its ok to talk about this posted.