i'm a newbie looking to begin hobbying in Manhattan/Brooklyn.  I dont have any references and a bit wary of having someone call my work to verify.  Do you guys know of any newbie friendly providers or alternative ways of verification?

read several pages here on the newbie board. There is much to learn before you take the plunge. Unless, you just want to take risks, throw your $ away on ROB, B &S, C & D, etc.

changing your handle.  Before I read your post, I thought you were a girl.  For newbie friendly providers, join Preferred411.  Gina will work with you to get yourself verified.  The providers on that site can indicate on their profiles if they are newbie friendly.

Swim

It all comes down to whether they are comfortable seeing you, and making sure you are either not psycho or not LE.

As such, just narrow it down to the girls you want to see, and then contact them and explain that you are new.  See what they need in order to get comfortable to see you.

Only you can decide what info you are comfortable giving out.  All I can say is that with established, well-reviewed providers, you frequently have very little to worry about with regard to giving out personal information.

I have a recommendation or two, but prepare to give up your personal information.  However, they are real girls and they are reliable and discreet.

Seriously dude.. This coming from you is no less than appalling. I consider you as a very smart person....

He has no third-party screening service at all.  He has no reviews under whatever name he is using on this board, and I'm not even sure he has VIP.  He has NOTHING that will pass the sniff test of a typical provider.  He hasn't even seen a girl before, so he has no clue what to expect, much less another provider who can vouch for him.

A few providers will say they are "newbie-friendly" and a few will say that they will not see newbies.  The vast majority of providers simply want to know that you are normal and not LE.  They want the session to be fun and not worry about you asking for something weird or being a cop.  That's it.  You know it and I know it.

As far as providers turning on you...yes, that's a risk, but in my 20+ years of doing this, that's such a remote risk.  If you are that scared, best not to play at all.  You can only hedge out so much risk, and a great deal of the risk you are talking about is tail risk.

Everyone has his own risk tolerance.  This guy has nothing to work with.  What can he possibly provide?  You tell me.  Instead of telling me I am crazy, tell me what this guy should do.

please don't tell him to give out his real name. In fact, no one should EVER give out their real names, unless the hooker is willing to give out her name as well. You give me your fake/stage name, and I give you my fake/stage name. That's how I roll, and that's what anyone who cares for their safety should do.

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get a Date-Check of P411 ID. I would rather trust them than any hooker who claims she is discreet. P411 and DC can be trusted. Gina is known to work with newbies. Trust me, when they get drunk and their temper gets best of them, NO ONE is discreet.  

You only have couple of options here. Only other option is going BP route, but if you are newbie I would never never advice you to go there....

Personal information.

You do what you want, and it works for you.  I do what I want, and it works for me.

question for CurlyW:

how is it possible for a newbie without reference to pass screening without giving out real name? you give a fake name and the screening will fail for sure. did you mean there is a way to join P411 or datecheck without giving real name and later use that as reference?

And honestly, if I were a cop, that's where I would be looking to bust someone.  Now, what I think saves them from getting busted is the total headache in trying to associate a name in a database with actual proof that something illegal happened.

But these third-party sites still ask for your personal information, so it's not as if your personal information isn't somewhere.  It's just in a database with a bunch of other guys.

Not saying that I don't advocate third-party services.  Just saying that it's not entirely risk-free, either.

It's as simple as that.  Your going to have to give it up to either a REPUTABLE provider or two, or a verification site, OR you can go with the nameless, faceless, no review or reputation backpage cheap pimped out girls who may rip you off, may be a bait and switch, may be an upsell, may have a pimp who pops out and robs you, and after all that you get through it safe and sound and have a decent meeting, they won't be worth anything to you as a reference in the future.  

So the bottom line is be prepared to give up some info, or keep on scraping the bottom of the barrel.  Ladies who don't screen are not safe and not worth seeing.  They will be the first ones to get busted and then your number will be in their phone or your emails will be in their inbox when they are.  

WE have just as much to loose as you do.  Your always 10 times stronger than we are so before we lock ourselves in a room with you for an hour or more, yeah we're going to need some info!

That they asked for my real name.

but how do i tell if a provider is reputable or not?

for independents, i assume TER reviews should tell.

but for agencies, what is a reliable way to tell if they are "REPUTABLE"? does anyone have any idea about the following agencies (i don't see any of them much here on TER except aphrodite): aphrodite, fantasyallures, girlprovocateur, iconcompanions, nycexecutiveescorts

their websites all look nice and professional, but wonder why there are hardly any reviews on them (except aphrodite)

If a girl is well-reviewed by many well-respected, reliable reviewers, chances are good that she is reputable.

Agencies are no different.  Just do a search on girls who work at agencies, and do your research that way.

... occasion, I do agree with your points. Especially the blacklists point.

You need to consider the source in these kinds of postings.

Serpius

... disagree with you on that Kelly.

I am NOT prepared to give out my home address, or any other information that will compromise my job, family or friends.

I will give you my previous providers that I have seen as my references and that's it. If that's not enough for you, too bad. That's all any provider will get out of me. With 17 reviews under my TER ID, any provider can check that out and make their own decisions.

After one of the providers on TER outed my REAL name and losing my previous job because of her, I have been more cautious with the information I give out. Oh, yea, this provider was supposedly REPUTABLE, but not anymore. No, I won't even bother with those verification websites because those places can be easily hacked into regardless of what country they are based in.

Serpius

... and I am sure someone will flame you for asking those questions.

Regarding the reviews, you have to take some of those reviews with a grain of salt. A quick glance at a review will not suffice. You need to look at the reviewer's review history to see if his previous reviews are in line with the others and not all 10/10 types of ratings. In other words, if that reviewer gives nothing but 10/10 type of ratings, that should raise a red flag.

Serpius

Then you are not a newbie.  You have a hobby reputation to back you up.  

... any website can be hacked into. Just look at the Department of Defense, the Iran Nuclear computers and many financial institutions. Places like P411 would be a piece a cake for a hacker.

I replied with the same thing in one of my posts below yours.

Serpius

When I say "reputable provider" to me, that means I can research her online and I can see that she has a history of reviews, is probably on P411, Date Check and maintains a website.  In other words, she is serious about her escort business and she is not a fly by nighter new girl who could be anybody or could be L E and thrown up some fake pics and pretending to be a provider to reel me in.  Sorry I didn't clarify myself well enough.  

You're full of shit about losing your job because you have been UNEMPLOYED for years! Your pathetic beating of this horse is making you look utterly CRAZY, and you are damn right provider will continue to out you! Tell me idiot..why are you still posting under "serpius" when THAT HANDLE is what leads back to your real info. What a moron! YOU are the one giving the world your own info doofus! Get back on your meds, because you're fit for a straight jacket!

You were not outed by ONE person honey...more like FIVE! Keep your facts straight you nut job or at least off of the newbie board. Here, they may not be wise to your bs, but don't forget you were BANNED from TER for sending a PM to a guy asking him if you could "Pay to find out London Rayne's real info" to have her busted." Such a pathetic piece of old shit you are. You have a blacklist from this month from some girl named Skyler? What's that about?

Got news for ya honey..the providers who outed you, are STILL REPUTABLE and getting reviews every week. It is YOU that is a nut job, and the entire board knows it.

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A terrible one!

Well, based on this additional info; this is why we want info!
I was speaking in a general manner when I said "then you have a hobby reputation."  

Wow, stay on your toes and get that info!  

Hi,

In 2003 I paid $50 &  was verified as a legit hobbyist!! Most ladies use the verification sites to confirm you're who you say you are !!! The verification site I use gives the ladies your name, phone #, & the city you live in!! I've had no problem w/anyone compromising my personal Info!! Good luck

CF2

Personally I have no problem with giving out info but the idea of my workplace getting called is completely insane. I guess that for most guys they work in an office with their own landline and get called by random people all the time so it's not a big deal but I'm a field worker with a work cell and if they call it directly then how are they supposed to know it's my work phone? They would have to call my workplace and get transferred to me and that NEVER HAPPENS so it would definitely be noted and raise eyebrows.

It's bizarre to me that this is even a thing. There are a ton of construction workers who make plenty of money to afford high-end escorts and don't have work phones at all. I guess their money isn't good enough? This is really the basic industry standard for verification that any halfway decent provider will follow? I guess I'm just fucked.