When a lady, local or travelling, is using a hotel for an incall, discretion is the better part of valour.  The lady relies upon the gentleman arriving  discretely and not drawing undue attention to himself.  She may have more than one appointment schedule at the hotel and it is important that her visit does not draw undue attention of the front desk or other hotel staff.

That said, here are some tips (and they are especially true for smaller hotels and extended stays):

1.  Make sure you have brought your "gift envelope" and identification with you to the appointment.  Running back out to your car to get these items should be avoided.  Yes, you will need a valid I.D. even if you have been prescreened.  The lady knows only that she prescreened "John Smith," and now she wants to be make sure that the person at her door is the person she prescreened.

2.  Call the lady from the parking lot, or outside of the hotel, to get the room number.  Unless its a very large and busy hotel, placing that call and the subsequent conversation from the inside lobby will be most likely be noticed.  Lets face it, most people (including hotel staff) are nosey.  Also if the lady is running late, you are left sitting in the hotel lobby waiting for her to let you know she is ready and, again, this draws unnecessary attention to yourself and to the lady.

3.  Rather than just getting the room number, stay on the line and find out the location of the guest room elevators from the front door.  The easiest way to drawn undue attention is by wandering aimlessly throughout the lobby looking for an elevator.  You are likely to have a member of the staff ask you if you are; a) checking in or b) offering to assist you.  Since there are numerous shifts operating at hotels, if you act like a registered guest who is familiar with the layout, you will not draw attention to yourself.

*4.  Carry a gym bag or a handled shopping bag if you are bringing the lady a gift and put any flowers, wine or presents in the bag.  Gifts are always welcome and unexpected.  Women love gifts and appreciate when they are given.  However, if you show up as if you are a dinner guest with a bottle of wine and a bouquet of flowers in hand, this will certainly be noticed.  Even more noticeable, that bright pink striped "Victoria's Secret" bag.  These should also be placed in a plain shopping bag or a gym bag. (If you are bringing a bottle of wine, it may also be advisable to bring a cork screw.  Not all hotels provide them.)

5.  When you arrive at the lady's room, tap on the door lightly and discreetly.  Be patient.  If she does not open the door right away, tap again lightly.  It is never OK to pound on the door.  If possible, arrange for her to be waiting for you by the door so she can open it quickly.  Wait until you enter the room before exchanging any greetings.  There are other guests in the hotel and hotel staff who may notice your entry and overhear your introduction.  In other words saying, "Hello Sinful" from the hallway would not be advisable.

6.  When leaving, say your goodbyes and collect your goodbye kisses inside the door.  Then leave quietly.

7. As always, if you are running late (even if through no fault of your own), it is important to call the lady and let her know of any delay.  Even if she is only seeing one other client that day, it does not mean that the other appointment is not immediately after yours and your tardiness may interfere with that appointment.

This all sounds like common sense, but its amazing that "common sense is not so common."

Sinfully Sinthia


*#4 is not intended to influence hobbyists to bring gifts to ladies.  It is merely to point out the best way to transport any gift you may decide to bring.



The photo attached is done so solely for the purpose of demonstration purposes.  Would this guy draw attention at, lets say, an Extended Stay hotel?